Lessons from Tara: Life Advice from the World’s Most Brilliant Dog – David Rosenfelt

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Lessons from Tara: Life Advice from the World’s Most Brilliant Dog

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Publish Date: July 31, 2015

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Tough Sh*t: Life Advice from a Fat, Lazy Slob Who Did Good (Unabridged) – Kevin Smith

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Stick to Drawing Comics, Monkey Brain!: Cartoonist Ignores Helpful Advice – Scott Adams

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Stick to Drawing Comics, Monkey Brain!: Cartoonist Ignores Helpful Advice

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Apologetic Kyrie sought advice from LeBron

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If This Isn’t Nice, What Is?: Advice for the Young (Unabridged) – Kurt Vonnegut

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If This Isn’t Nice, What Is?: Advice for the Young (Unabridged)

Kurt Vonnegut

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Justin Pugh’s essential grooming advice

As an offensive lineman in the NFL, New York Giants guard Justin Pugh is always down in the trenches doing the dirty work of slamming blitzing defenders to the turf.

But when he’s off the field, Pugh is as clean-cut and well-groomed as anyone in the league.

The 6’4”, 301-lb lineman usually sports a close-cropped haircut and a finely groomed beard—and that’s by design.

“Don’t force anything and make the attributes you have work for you,” Pugh tells Men’s Fitness. “A lot of guys will try to grow out a beard, and it ends up all patchy and it doesn’t work. I’ll think, ‘What are you doing?’ I have a good beard, good head of hair, so I ride that wave. I’m not getting a bowl cut, like I’m Lloyd from Dumb & Dumber. Work with what you have and play to your strengths.”

Staying well-groomed is more than just a one-off thing for Pugh—he suggests all guys treat their style and grooming habits as a serious routine.

“Keeping yourself put-together is a lifestyle choice and you’ve really got to stay on top of it,” Pugh says. “It’s not just like, ‘Oh, this week I’m going to be good. Next week I won’t.’ It’s like working out or anything else—you have keep a good regimen and good grooming habits. Whether that’s taking care of your skin, your hair, your beard—it all comes into it.”

As for his go-to gear? While he was getting a fresh cut and shave at the Blind Barber in New York’s East Village earlier in the 2017 NFL season, Pugh talked about three grooming products he swears by, all from Conair’s “ManCrafted” collection: the Conair Man I-Stubble Trimmer, Conair Man Ear/Nose Trimmer, and the Conair Man Personal Grooming Kit, which has a detail trimmer.

Pugh spoke with Men’s Fitness about his essential style advice, his gameday grooming routine, and why a hat can be your best friend on a bad hair day.

MEN’S FITNESS: What’s your gameday or game week grooming routine like? Do you have any “grooming rituals” you always stick with?

Justin Pugh: I try to get everything done before game day itself. So every Friday, before we play on Sunday, I’ll get my haircut. I’ll trim my beard up and get it looking good. I try to get it done on Fridays, so I don’t have to stress about it. Because normally we travel on Saturdays and so even if we’re in a different place, I already have my same routine. I get my haircut at the facility and I trim my beard up at home, and it works out perfect for me. Come game day, maybe I’ll like take a straight edge and kind of line up my beard a little bit, because that’s when you get the five o’clock shadow.

We’re playing in front of millions and millions of people every week. So you’ve got to make sure you’re looking good. That one shot in the very rare instance I’d score a touchdown and they zoom into my face—I’d want them to think, ‘Ah, he’s got a good beard’ [laughs], so it works out.

How did you get involved with Conair, and what have you enjoyed about your partnership?

I actually got started as a rookie. My best friend’s mom used to work for the company and got me involved. Before we even started things up I used Conair products. Guys everywhere can probably can attest to this, but once you find something that you trust that you like to use, you’ll stick with it until the day you die. It was kind of a match made in heaven. I’ve been using the Conair Man I-Stubble and Trimmer, and it’s great. To go out and endorse something I actually use and I can say I personally like, it makes an easy transition.

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What’s your grooming and style routine when you’re getting ready for a night out? What advice do you have for guys looking to stay sharp when they go out?

I just started dating my girlfriend, so I’ve got to make sure I’m staying on-point, because she’ll call me out for it. But when I go out in public it’s the same thing about going onto the field. When you’re out in public, people are going to meet you for the first time, and no matter what people say, you judge a book by its cover. And you don’t want to do that, but at first look you are going to kind of get a thought formed right away, like, ‘Oh this person is well-kept-together or they’re a bit of a mess.’ You have those preconceived notions. Obviously, you can break down those barriers once you get started. But why not start out on a good foot? That’s something that I take pride in. Before I go out I always make sure I’m lined up.

What about those days when you’re not feeling your best, or having a bad hair or beard day? What advice do you have for dealing with one of those moments?

Sometimes a hat can be your best friend.

No, seriously: When I’m going to work in the morning, you don’t have to be dressed up for work in our business. So I’ve got sweat shorts on and maybe a T-shirt, and I’ll just throw a backwards hat on, and then I’m good to go.

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How Not to Get Shot: And Other Advice from White People (Unabridged) – D. L. Hughley & Doug Moe

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How Not to Get Shot: And Other Advice from White People (Unabridged)

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Go Ask Ali: Half-Baked Advice (and Free Lemonade) (Unabridged) – Ali Wentworth

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What to Expect When Your Wife Is Expanding: A Reassuring Month-by-Month Guide for the Father-to-Be, Whether He Wants Advice or Not (Unabridged) – Thomas Hill

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Toast on Toast: Cautionary tales and candid advice (Unabridged) – Steven Toast

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Barack Obama Gave Trump A Letter With Advice, Cheeto Clearly Paid No Attention

Barack Obama gave Donald Trump plenty of advice in the Inauguration Day Letter he gave the newly elected President. It should come as no surprise that Cheeto clearly paid no heed to the sterling advice.

The letter has recently become public, and it reads like a perfect outline on how not to f*ck up your epic new gig as POTUS.

Obama offered this particularly poignant passage:

Third, we are just temporary occupants of this office. That makes us guardians of those democratic institutions and traditions — like rule of law, separation of powers, equal protection and civil liberties — that our forebears fought and bled for. Regardless of the push and pull of daily politics, it’s up to us to leave those instruments of our democracy at least as strong as we found them.

Considering Trump fired James Comey for daring to investigate possible Russian collusion in our election and that he pardoned the racist ex-Sheriff Arpaio, he must have missed that part of the letter.

Read the full letter below. Obama, forever and always Presidential.

Dear Mr. President –

Congratulations on a remarkable run. Millions have placed their hopes in you, and all of us, regardless of party, should hope for expanded prosperity and security during your tenure.

This is a unique office, without a clear blueprint for success, so I don’t know that any advice from me will be particularly helpful. Still, let me offer a few reflections from the past 8 years.

First, we’ve both been blessed, in different ways, with great good fortune. Not everyone is so lucky. It’s up to us to do everything we can (to) build more ladders of success for every child and family that’s willing to work hard.

Second, American leadership in this world really is indispensable. It’s up to us, through action and example, to sustain the international order that’s expanded steadily since the end of the Cold War, and upon which our own wealth and safety depend.

Third, we are just temporary occupants of this office. That makes us guardians of those democratic institutions and traditions — like rule of law, separation of powers, equal protection and civil liberties — that our forebears fought and bled for. Regardless of the push and pull of daily politics, it’s up to us to leave those instruments of our democracy at least as strong as we found them.

And finally, take time, in the rush of events and responsibilities, for friends and family. They’ll get you through the inevitable rough patches.

Michelle and I wish you and Melania the very best as you embark on this great adventure, and know that we stand ready to help in any ways which we can.

Good luck and Godspeed,

BO

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Coming Out Advice From Two Straight Guys

Life with brothers can be tough at times. One minute you’re eating Pop-Tarts for breakfast and the next you’re beating each other with backpacks full of hardcover books. It’s a dynamic relationship that turns more than a few parents’ hair grey. It can also be a bond that we develop with our male peers, especially if there isn’t a genetically-related brother to be found. In my case, there is a complication in these relationships though.

I am gay.

For most of my short life I was not — at least not publicly. My brother and all of my close guy friends were unaware of this until relatively recently, which means at least some part of me was lying to them for years, if not decades.

Many gay and bisexual men struggle to come out to their closest male companions not only because they fear rejection, but even more so because they fear the reaction to the lie they have been telling. I have had conversations with numerous gay and bi men who, even as adults, still feel this way and have not been able to come out to their brothers or friends.

As the Founder of ComingOut.Space, I get to read a lot of coming out stories and have had the chance to learn about the experiences of many others. To learn more about the impact my own coming out had on two of my closest male friends, my younger brother and a lifelong friend, I sent them a few questions to better understand their reactions. The coming out process happened years ago, so both have had more than enough time to reflect on their thoughts and our relationships.

1) Did you feel betrayed when you found out that I was gay, knowing that this was a secret I had been keeping for years?

My friend replied,

No. For me, it was easy to understand that transparency was difficult with that subject and that you had to be ready to come out. I don’t really know how to expand on it further because it is that clear cut. I just didn’t feel that way. I remember questioning why I wasn’t the first friend you told, and wondered why you told people who seemingly you were not that close to, but that makes a lot more sense to me in retrospect.

My brother replied essentially the same thing. In truth, I came out first to friends I hadn’t known as long and who I was more confident would accept me. My logic was that I needed to build up my confidence in low-risk situations before I could tell the people who meant the most to me. I think, in the end, it was the right decision.

2) How, if at all, do you think our relationships would have been different if I had been honest sooner. Really think about this one. Given that we grew up in small town, would you have been ok with it if I had told you while I was still in high school? You might want the answer to be yes, but is that true?

To this, both my brother and friend replied that they wished, for my own happiness, that I could have come out much sooner. However they both admitted that if I had come out when we were younger, they would not have handled the situation the same way. My friend wrote,

I think that I wish you would have come out sooner, but maybe not in high school, because I question what my reaction would have been. I don’t know that the course of our ultimate friendship would have been altered, but I think it may have taken me some time to come around to the idea in high school.

My brother shared that sentiment, but also added,

I had no idea this was something that was weighing on your mind so heavily. After you came out, I felt as though a weight had been lifted from your shoulders. Our relationship has become better over the years and I believe part of that has to do with the time at which you chose to come out.

Do I think their response means young men need to keep their sexuality a secret until their loved ones have matured? Definitely not. Do I think that coming out at a younger age presents a different set of challenges? Absolutely. When to come out is an extremely personal decision, but it is an interesting idea to think about the relative success of a coming out based on timing.

3) Do you have advice for gay guys who are struggling to come out or to guys who have to deal with their brother/friend coming out?

In a resounding word of encouragement, both my brother and friend answered this question by first saying that being honest with yourself is of the utmost importance. Either directly or indirectly, they both touched on an important issue. When I was still in the closet, I was a different version of myself. I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t always kind. Coming out helped me become the best version of myself and therefor made it possible for our relationships to progress. In retrospect, all three of us know this and are happy it happened.

To men whose brother or friend has just come out to them, my brother had this to say:

Try to understand what is going on with your brother or friend. If you are upset it is okay to show your emotions, but remember that coming out is not an easy thing to do for anyone. In my eyes the best thing that you can do is to be a good listener. The feelings and words of someone who is coming out have been thought about time and time again. Give them space and listen to what they have to say. Lastly, if nothing else, just be supportive of your family members through any impactful situation that they may go through. Family is for support and love not tearing each other down.

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Obama Gives Kanye West Some Advice About Getting Into Politics

President Barack Obama gave Kanye West some advice about getting elected on Saturday. 

The rapper recently announced he was running for president in 2020. Obama, alluding to the inability of House Republicans to find a new speaker, suggested Kanye could be a candidate for that position instead.

“You may have heard that Kanye is thinking about running for Speaker of the House. It couldn’t get any stranger,” Obama said at a fundraiser in San Francisco. He dispensed some tips ”in case Kanye is serious about this whole POTUS thing, or as Kanye calls it, ‘Peezy.'”

“Do you really think this country is going to elect a black guy from the south side of Chicago with a funny name to be president of the United States?” Obama said. “That’s cray.”

“Saying you have a beautiful dark twisted fantasy — that’s what’s known as ‘off message’ in politics,” he continued.

Obama also suggested that West’s appearances on “Keeping Up With The Kardashians” might serve him well in politics.

“You got to deal with strange characters who behave as if they are on a reality TV show,” Obama said. 

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With the chances of Kanye West running for president in 2020 still being questioned, it looks like he’s trying to get the love of the current Commander-in-Chief. President Barack Obama added his comments on Ye’s possible run today at the Democratic National Convention Fundraiser in San Francisco. According to ABC NewsObama’s comments included:

“It couldn’t get any stranger. But in case Kanye is serious about this whole POTUS thing I do have some advice for him.”

First of all, you have to spend some time dealing with some strange characters who act like they’re on a reality TV show. You gotta be cool with that.

Second important tip: Saying you have a beautiful dark twisted fantasy — that’s what’s known as off message in politics, People have lost congressional seats that way.

And number three: Do you really think this country’s going to elect a black guy from the South Side of Chicago with a funny name to be president of the U.S.? That’s crazy. Cray.”

Kanye West was set to perform at the Fundraiser, with his wife Kim Kardashian as well as the Golden State Warriors present in the audience.

 

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You’ve Probably Heard This Sex Advice Before — But Here’s Why You Should Pay Attention

Couples looking to spice up their sex lives often assume the effort involves some grand overhaul of intimacy and a venture into uncharted territory to have any real impact in the bedroom — not so, says Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus author John Gray. He’s been counseling couples for years in the art of communication and connection, and as he tells “Oprah: Where Are They Now — Extra,” the key to spicing up a sex life is actually a very familiar one.

“Romance spices up a sex life,” he says. And it doesn’t have to be complicated.

“Romance is when the man plans something in advance that’s out of the ordinary, and the woman anticipates that. She’s looking forward to that,” he continues. “It’s one-sided. It’s what he’s going to do for her.”

Gray suggests having a discussion with your partner a week in advance about what this planned event should be. The discussion, he adds, should be a true back-and-forth conversation, not a guessing game in which one person is unclear about what the other is looking for. 

“She’s going to inform him of three things that would really make her happy… His job is to provide that for her,” Gray says. “Then, when they actually do it, her job is to be happy while he provides that. That’s the dance of romance.”

The anticipation in this scenario is what’s truly effective. As the anticipation builds, so does the sense of romance, according to Gray. “At that time, oxytocin is being produced that lowers her stress and increases her romantic feelings,” he explains.

So, Gray continues, make sure that you don’t wait until the last minute when trying to do something “romantic.”

“Most married men wait until the weekend and say to their wives, ‘What would you like to do? I’ll do anything,'” Gray says. “That’s not romantic, and men don’t realize that.”

On that actual date, don’t forget to appreciate each other and resurface the initial spark that brought you together. “You know, when you were dating a guy, no matter what happened, you were happy just to be with him,” Gray says. “You’ve got to find that part of you and be happy no matter what, because he’s doing his best.”

This visible happiness is what helps one romantic gesture turn into a continual cycle of romance.

“When you’re happy with a man doing his best, next time he’ll do better,” Gray says. “That’s what motivates men. So that’s a secret of creating romance: plan in advance.”

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With the heavy metal remix of Nina Simone’s “I’m Feeling Fine” whaling overhead at today’s Calvin Klein Collection show, where Francisco Costa’s throng of ’90s redux models slithered by in bias-cut slip dresses, oversized dusters, and elevated club-kid flatforms, the vibe of the Spring collection spoke to one chicly dressed woman on the front row in particular.

Zoë Kravitz, the actress, musician, and rock ’n’ roll offspring of Lenny Kravitz and Lisa Bonet, who quietly smoldered backstage in a steely floor-length satin gown from Klein’s Resort 2015 collection before the show, has been playing with a similar sense cool in her red carpet wardrobe of late.

Wearing only a smattering of minimalist jewelry and tattoos to accent her look, Kravitz is still able to make a big statement, a less-is-more design credo that aligns the brand and star in an unexpected way. It’s true, the tumble of waist-length braids she haphazardly scraped off her face to reveal her shaved head is a nice counterpoint to the languid gown. “People like to say that I have an ‘eclectic’ look, but there is a simplicity behind all of it,” Kravitz explains. “A white T-shirt is my favorite thing in my closet and I love the sleekness of Calvin Klein. When I think of Calvin Klein, I think Kate Moss in the ’90s, which was so effortless and beautiful.”



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Her stylist Andrew Mukamal who has been working with the actress for two years now, pipes up, declaring that the duo rarely do fashion events, but the connection between Kravitz and Klein felt right. “Today’s look is a pretty major moment. I knew she was wearing it the minute we confirmed she was coming to this. The look has that kind of ease that I think she has and Calvin has,” he says.

Kravitz concedes that working with Mukamal has helped elevate her look considerably, and given her style direction beyond her off-duty uniform of chunky UNIF black ankle platform booties and all black. “Fashion for me is all about inspiration, so if I feel inspired by something in the moment, I’ll just throw something really strange on. And Andrew really helped me have a thought out idea of what I want to represent when it comes to style and fashion.” As they beamed at one another, she laughed, “You’ve helped me evolve into a lady!”

The actress can also thank her style-icon parents for passing along plenty of invaluable fashion advice, and her mom and dad’s distinctive early ’90s bohemian style still resonates today. “They’ve always been so confident. They wore certain clothes way before they were considered cool, and I think that’s what gave me the confidence to be okay with making mistakes, making an ass of myself,” she says.  “When it comes to fashion, that’s what makes you progressive.”

 

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“Hello?” Hillary Clinton said, putting an ear to the phone.

“Congratulations, you’re speaking to Donald Trump,” said the person on the other line.

While we’d love to eavesdrop on a real phone conversation between the former secretary of state and the GOP frontrunner, we’ll have to settle for this exchange between Clinton and Jimmy Fallon’s best impression of the business magnate.

“You wanna win, here’s what you gotta do,” Fallon-as-Trump told the 2016 Democratic candidate during her appearance on “The Tonight Show” on Wednesday. “First: Yell. I yell all the time … Next: Pick 3 things everyone loves, and say you hate them. Watch — puppies, stupid. Rainbows? Total losers. Fall foliage? Tree puberty.”

During the skit, Clinton discussed her position on immigration and women’s rights. She also snuck in a jibe about Trump’s famous hairdo, comparing it to “a soft serve at Dairy Queen.”

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10 Pieces Of Tough Love Advice From Marriage Therapists

A marriage therapist’s job is to listen to couples’ frustrations and try to help each spouse work through his or her issues. Sometimes, that requires doling out some tough love, hard-to-hear advice.

Below, 10 marriage therapists share the most blunt — but constructive! — piece of advice they’ve ever given a couple during a session. 

“A couple had struggled for a long time with the following stubborn pattern: their arguments started innocently over minor things. Despite the couple’s best efforts, the tension escalated until the man was raging at his wife, leaving her afraid and ashamed. Then she would regain her courage and wall herself off from her husband, freezing him out. The wife’s frustration and hurt had grown to the point that she was just about ready to leave their 22-year marriage when I suggested the following: The husband wrote out five checks of incrementally increasing amounts to a cause he despised (in this case, the Republican Party). The couple agreed that the wife would send in the first check for $ 10 if he raged at her once, the second check for $ 20 if he raged again and so on and so forth. The raging stopped. The wife held onto the checks for years but they were never sent in! ” –Bonnie Ray Kennan, marriage and family therapist 

“In my 35 years as a therapist, I have discovered that when one or both people have significant individual problems (an affair, depression or substance abuse, for example), we need to meet individually and straighten it out before I can really focus on the couple’s problems. I tell the spouses, ‘To begin marriage counseling without going through this process will be a waste of time, money and energy on the part of everyone.’  It simply isn’t possible to try to deal with major personal issues, and say, an affair, at the same time. Once both of partners are in a better place individually, we can began to tackle and hopefully resolve the relationship problems together.” — Beatty Cohan, psychotherapist, author of For Better, for Worse, Forever: Discover the Path to Lasting Love

“Couples all too often get caught up in the conflict and being right and lose sight of the triggering issue. When this happens, I tell them, ‘Give up on being right. Recognize this does not make you wrong! Do not deny your partner’s perspective to avoid being wrong. Be a good partner by validating his experience and understanding why he felt hurt. Give up on being right and focus on your partner and the relationship. Work on being connected instead of being right.'” – Anne Crowley, psychologist

“This couple was in their late 40s and had been married for 18 years with two kids. The husband found out that his wife was having an affair for the better part of a year with a man whom she had met in a special art study program. They both wanted to understand what happened and how they could move forward — both partners wanted to save their marriage. Trust needed to be re-established. Almost always post-affair, the other woman or man must be removed from the couple’s life. But in this case, the wife was trying to assure the husband (and me) that it was possible for her to still see this man for coffee or lunch, just as a friend. I told her, ‘If you continue to see this man in any capacity — or if you have any contact with him (email, text, Facebook) — I can guarantee you that your marriage will not survive. You need to ask yourself how such contact would be right or fair or emotionally tolerable for your husband.'” – Sharon Gilchrest O’Neill, marriage and family therapist and the author of A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage

“I was seeing a couple in their late 50s who had been married for more than 30 years. The husband had a major anger problem and was very controlling. His wife believed he had some sexual flings which he denied. She was at the end of her ropes with him and told him in the session that she couldn’t stand to see him, look at him or be near him and wanted out of the marriage. I told them quite honestly, ‘It seems the only option left for you is to go your separate ways but for everyone’s sake, please do it as amicably as possible.” – Michael Hakimi, psychologist, assistant professor at Loyola University Chicago Stritch School of Medicine 

“Despite successful couples therapy with Kathy, his wife of 12 years, Jeff couldn’t shake the feeling that he should not have married on the rebound from a former girlfriend. He loved Kathy and their daughter but he could not answer with a clear ‘yes’ when she asked if he was committed for the long haul in the marriage. Kathy was confused, upset and nearing an ultimatum to commit or leave. I did everything I could with Jeff to help him look at his commitment resistance, including exploring his family of origin where he had lost his father at a young age. But he couldn’t get past his ambivalence, especially under pressure to pony up a definitive ‘I’m in it forever.’ Here’s what I said to him: ‘Jeff, you may always be ambivalent about commitment in relationships. It may just be your nature. The big question is whether this is the woman you want to be ambivalent with.’ He smiled and immediately answered ‘Yes.’  I asked why. He said, ‘Because I love Kathy and can’t imagine loving anyone more — and I love our family.’  Kathy wisely took it in — and it was enough.” – William J. Doherty, psychologist and author of Take Back Your Marriage

“Therapy isn’t very effective if both partners aren’t completely honest about what’s creating distance between them. In spite of being told this from the start, people always lie about infidelity. But there are indicators and behaviors that advertise cheating to an experienced therapist. When I suspect it I’ll ask the person, ‘Are you distracted by a relationship outside of your marriage?’ And they always say, ‘Absolutely not.’ And I’ll say, ‘It is vital that we have the truth here, I can’t help you if you aren’t truthful.’ And they become incredulous and say, ‘I am telling you, I am not! When would I have the time? Who would it be with? My spouse always knows where I am!’

The denial goes on and on. When this happens, I turn to the other spouse and say, ‘If I were in your shoes I would sniff around and find out any way I could.’ Then I turn to the suspected cheater and gently suggest we schedule a lie detector test. ‘Schedule it,’ the person will say. The couple will leave and soon afterward they’ll call and tell me no lie detector test is necessary — the spouse has confessed. Now, I have a chance of being able to help them.” – Becky Whetstone, marriage and family therapist 

“A husband liked to spend all his free time with his wife and she found it stressful. She needed some time alone to relax and recharge her batteries, as many of us do. I advised the husband, ‘Do more things on your own or with a friend. Think about activities you’d enjoy doing by yourself. You’ll be happier and your relationship will benefit. No one person can satisfy all the companionship needs of another.’ He started playing golf with a friend. He went fishing. He took scenic hikes on his own. It proved that all couples need to find a balance between together time and time spent independently.” — Marcia Naomi Berger, psychotherapist, author of Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love: 30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted 

“A couple came to see me because the husband had had an affair and their marriage was in shreds. The husband was deeply sorry and wanted to do anything in his power to repair the marriage. The wife was, of course, devastated. She never expected it. Session after session, the wife claimed she couldn’t figure out how she could ever forgive him. Weeks, then months, went by.  The husband hung in there. She asked him to move out while she determined what she should do. He did. She asked him to move back in. He did. Then, she asked him to move out again because she needed more time. He did everything she asked him to do but nothing seemed to move her out of her pain.

This merry-go-round continued seemingly endlessly. Finally, I said to her, ‘Look. You can stay in the marriage or you can leave. But you can’t spend the rest of your life — and his — in this cycle. You can’t punish him every day of his life for having an affair. If you think you can forgive, then do so. If you can’t — and that’s OK, too — move on. This isn’t fair to either one of you.’ The last I heard, they were still stuck in this cycle.” — Abby Rodman, psychotherapist, author of Should You Marry Him?

“When couples fight in my office, I tell them ‘You can fight for free at home, but you are here to work on solutions.’ The man will usually shut up because he realizes that he is wasting money!” — Caroline Madden, marriage and family therapist, author of After a Good Man Cheats: How to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy With Your Wife 

 

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8 Pieces Of Advice For Divorce In Your 20s

It’s easy to be hard on yourself when going through divorce in your 20s. While all your friends are busy planning their weddings on Pinterest, you’re planning a new life without your spouse and dealing with mounting legal bills. 

To make the process a little easier, we asked experts — divorce lawyers, psychologists and financial advisors — to offer their best advice. Here’s what they had to say:

1. Chalk the divorce up to a lapse in judgment. 

Don’t fall into the trap of feeling like a failure for splitting up in your 20s. Forgive yourself and remember that you were young and maybe a little naive when you said “I do,” said Andra Brosh, a Los Angeles-based psychologist. 

 ”The truth is that you probably landed here because of a lapse in judgment and unrealistic expectations of the relationship,” she said. “Blame it on your brain; some research has suggested that the brain is not fully mature or developed until well into your 20s.” 

2. Learn from the mistakes you made in your marriage. 

You’re only allowed to sulk about splitting up for so long. Eventually, you need to reframe your thinking and see the divorce as a stepping stone to personal growth, said Antonio Borrello, a Detroit-based psychologist. Ultimately, divorce should teach you what you need to do differently in order to have a healthier, longer lasting relationship the next time around, he explained. 

“You’ll still need to work on whatever it was that killed your marriage even after you get out,” he said. “If you don’t, you’ll drag that junk into your next relationship. Develop some insight and take ownership of the part you played in the downfall of your marriage.” 

3. Be wary of rebounding. 

Yes, you’re still young and Tinder is very tempting, but for your own well-being, it might be best to take a dating and relationship hiatus, said dating coach Neely Steinberg. 

“Spend time developing your independence and discovering who you are outside of a relationship,” she said. “Understand that your existence is not validated by you being in a relationship or by another person. You validate you. Once you are good by yourself and you love who you are on your own, then maybe take a small, smart step to move forward again in your dating life.”

4. Consider mediation as an alternative to litigation. 

There’s one advantage young divorcés have over those who go through the process later in life: You likely have less marital assets to divvy up (property, retirement accounts, etc.) and no children to shield from ugly custody battles. Given that, you may want to forgo traditional litigation and consider meeting with a mediator to work out the terms of your divorce, said divorce coach Laura Miolla.

“It’s faster, cheaper and gives you far more control over the process and the agreement you end up with,” she explained. “With less to negotiate, mediation is your best path to divorce without the huge bite out of your bank account in legal fees.” 

5. Shared debt may complicate the process.

You might not have much property to divide but you may have shared debt. If you split your joint debt (“I’ll be responsible for this credit card, if you’re responsible for that one”), know that complications could arise later, said certified divorce financial analyst Donna Cheswick.

“Where I see problems occur is when one spouse fails to make monthly payments or files for bankruptcy,” Cheswick said. “If this occurs, the creditors can, and will, go after either party to recoup the full amount of the debt, plus interest and penalties. Lenders don’t care what the couple agreed to in their divorce agreement. They see the credit as a legal obligation of both parties and will enforce the debt obligation, regardless of marital status.”

6. Don’t rant about your divorce on social media.  

The drama between you and your ex may be as juicy and compelling as an episode of “Empire,” but your Facebook friends really don’t need to hear about it. What’s more, ranting about your ex could cost you big time in court, said Adam Kielich, a family law attorney based in Dallas. 

“Social media creates all sorts of problems in litigation,” he said. “It might be satisfying to skewer your spouse in front of friends and family on Facebook but the satisfaction will quickly dissipate if it gets back to your spouse and becomes a conflict in the divorce. You never know what seemingly innocent post or picture might become important evidence in your divorce.” 

7. Take comfort in your friends. 

When you do need to rant, call up your closest friends and family and bare your heart to them, suggested psychologist Borrello. That said, keep in mind that since your friends are ultimately #TeamYou, their advice may be a little one-sided.

“Your friends and family will instinctually blame your ex,” he said. “Don’t allow that to get in the way of you investigating the dynamics of the failed relationship and the factors that you contributed to the breakup.” 

8. See your divorce as a gift, not a failure. 

Once you’ve taken accountability for the part you played in your marriage’s downfall, stop obsessing over why it didn’t last and task yourself with moving on, said Miolla. 

“There’s no power in endless obsessing, only judgment and shame — two things that will never serve you well,” she said. “Focus instead on what you are learning from this experience — about yourself, about relationships, about love.”

While you’re at it, remind yourself that you shared some really good times with your ex, too.

“Celebrate that you did love. And you will again,” Miolla said. “Use this experience to define what you want for yourself, what you insist on and what you won’t allow in your life anymore. Divorce can be a gift if it teaches you.”

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8 Pieces Of Advice For Divorce In Your 20s

It’s easy to be hard on yourself when going through divorce in your 20s. While all your friends are busy planning their weddings on Pinterest, you’re planning a new life without your spouse and dealing with mounting legal bills. 

To make the process a little easier, we asked experts — divorce lawyers, psychologists and financial advisors — to offer their best advice. Here’s what they had to say:

1. Chalk the divorce up to a lapse in judgment. 

Don’t fall into the trap of feeling like a failure for splitting up in your 20s. Forgive yourself and remember that you were young and maybe a little naive when you said “I do,” said Andra Brosh, a Los Angeles-based psychologist. 

 ”The truth is that you probably landed here because of a lapse in judgment and unrealistic expectations of the relationship,” she said. “Blame it on your brain; some research has suggested that the brain is not fully mature or developed until well into your 20s.” 

2. Learn from the mistakes you made in your marriage. 

You’re only allowed to sulk about splitting up for so long. Eventually, you need to reframe your thinking and see the divorce as a stepping stone to personal growth, said Antonio Borrello, a Detroit-based psychologist. Ultimately, divorce should teach you what you need to do differently in order to have a healthier, longer lasting relationship the next time around, he explained. 

“You’ll still need to work on whatever it was that killed your marriage even after you get out,” he said. “If you don’t, you’ll drag that junk into your next relationship. Develop some insight and take ownership of the part you played in the downfall of your marriage.” 

3. Be wary of rebounding. 

Yes, you’re still young and Tinder is very tempting, but for your own well-being, it might be best to take a dating and relationship hiatus, said dating coach Neely Steinberg. 

“Spend time developing your independence and discovering who you are outside of a relationship,” she said. “Understand that your existence is not validated by you being in a relationship or by another person. You validate you. Once you are good by yourself and you love who you are on your own, then maybe take a small, smart step to move forward again in your dating life.”

4. Consider mediation as an alternative to litigation. 

There’s one advantage young divorcés have over those who go through the process later in life: You likely have less marital assets to divvy up (property, retirement accounts, etc.) and no children to shield from ugly custody battles. Given that, you may want to forgo traditional litigation and consider meeting with a mediator to work out the terms of your divorce, said divorce coach Laura Miolla.

“It’s faster, cheaper and gives you far more control over the process and the agreement you end up with,” she explained. “With less to negotiate, mediation is your best path to divorce without the huge bite out of your bank account in legal fees.” 

5. Shared debt may complicate the process.

You might not have much property to divide but you may have shared debt. If you split your joint debt (“I’ll be responsible for this credit card, if you’re responsible for that one”), know that complications could arise later, said certified divorce financial analyst Donna Cheswick.

“Where I see problems occur is when one spouse fails to make monthly payments or files for bankruptcy,” Cheswick said. “If this occurs, the creditors can, and will, go after either party to recoup the full amount of the debt, plus interest and penalties. Lenders don’t care what the couple agreed to in their divorce agreement. They see the credit as a legal obligation of both parties and will enforce the debt obligation, regardless of marital status.”

6. Don’t rant about your divorce on social media.  

The drama between you and your ex may be as juicy and compelling as an episode of “Empire,” but your Facebook friends really don’t need to hear about it. What’s more, ranting about your ex could cost you big time in court, said Adam Kielich, a family law attorney based in Dallas. 

“Social media creates all sorts of problems in litigation,” he said. “It might be satisfying to skewer your spouse in front of friends and family on Facebook but the satisfaction will quickly dissipate if it gets back to your spouse and becomes a conflict in the divorce. You never know what seemingly innocent post or picture might become important evidence in your divorce.” 

7. Take comfort in your friends. 

When you do need to rant, call up your closest friends and family and bare your heart to them, suggested psychologist Borrello. That said, keep in mind that since your friends are ultimately #TeamYou, their advice may be a little one-sided.

“Your friends and family will instinctually blame your ex,” he said. “Don’t allow that to get in the way of you investigating the dynamics of the failed relationship and the factors that you contributed to the breakup.” 

8. See your divorce as a gift, not a failure. 

Once you’ve taken accountability for the part you played in your marriage’s downfall, stop obsessing over why it didn’t last and task yourself with moving on, said Miolla. 

“There’s no power in endless obsessing, only judgment and shame — two things that will never serve you well,” she said. “Focus instead on what you are learning from this experience — about yourself, about relationships, about love.”

While you’re at it, remind yourself that you shared some really good times with your ex, too.

“Celebrate that you did love. And you will again,” Miolla said. “Use this experience to define what you want for yourself, what you insist on and what you won’t allow in your life anymore. Divorce can be a gift if it teaches you.”

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Love Advice: In Defense of Ciara and Single Moms

By Josie Pickens

“Let’s just be honest. Let’s just be real.”

Being a single mother doesn’t take away from a woman’s desirability or her desires, and that frightens way too many people, especially (it seems) too many men. This is the greatest takeaway from the spectacle we’ve seen this week surrounding a photo being circulated of singer/single mom Ciara attending beau Russell Wilson’s Seattle Seahawks training camp — where Ciara’s adorable son Future Zahir embraces Wilson on the field, wearing Wilson’s Seahawks jersey.

If you’re a single mother like I am, the photo may have touched you in a deep place, because it represents something that many single mothers find important: a relationship where one’s child feels comfortable and adored by one’s new partner.

At the very top of my list in my needs from a partner is that he love and care for my daughter deeply, like she’s his own. This is non-negotiable and the first commandment in being in a serious committed relationship with Jo. Apparently, having a partner who bonds with a single mom’s child is an issue for some women and tons of men — including comedian Lil Duval and rapper T.I., who feel that baby Future is too young to be so close to a man who’s not his father. I was glad to see that Amber Rose corrected Duval on his tweets about Ciara being a negligent mother and calling him out on his double standards.

Here’s the thing(s):

If we’re going to place the weight and responsibility of raising children on mothers, we have to trust and respect them. Mothers love their children deeply and are fiercely protective. Most mothers are not going to introduce their children to danger, whether in the form of a bad nanny or a shady boyfriend. When women have children, their priorities shift towards whatever is in the best interest of their child (most times to their detriment).

I know too many women who don’t date at all as single moms because so much of their lives focus on their children and dating can be too complicated and exhausting. We haven’t seen one clue that Ciara is anything but a dope and devoted mother to Future Zahir. I believe she’s handled her breakup with Future impeccably, and has moved on happily with her life. The side-eyes Ciara is receiving for even daring to date post Future are annoying at least and probably misogynist.

And speaking of side-eyes, Ciara is not on an award tour (like A Tribe Called Quest) promoting an album no one even knows the name of, because every media opportunity available is used to throw shade at her ex. But in the age-old African tradition of keeping it real, this is child and mother number four for Future, and most believe his and Ciara’s engagement ended because Future refused to be faithful. If we should be questioning anyone’s ability to be a devoted parent putting his or her child’s best interest first, we are investigating the wrong parent.

Next: Single moms are desirable. Being desirable is exactly how they became mothers in the first place. It’s not rocket science or Common Core math. Additionally, single mothers are better mothers when they live full, healthy and happy lives, which includes love, dating and sex. If we want to see healthy, well-adjusted children, we have to give single moms space to breathe and experience life outside of motherhood, while also acknowledging that such breathing and experiencing often intertwines with mothering.

If Ciara was running around still single and being a bitter Betty, we’d be complaining about that. As a matter of fact, we attack single moms all the time for being too concerned about their exes lives, while touting single fathers as awesome for the same kind of (often faux) concern.
Single mothers leaving the fathers of their children behind and finding love again disrupts our antiquated ideas about womanhood and motherhood. We’ve trained ourselves to believe that life stops for women when they become mothers, whether in committed relationships or not. We are doubly upset when a woman chooses to leave a relationship after having a child and also has the audacity to be happy.

Black women particularly have been cornered by a narrative that says partnering once is almost impossible. So seeing women like Ciara partner again (with a man who also loves her child) is, like, unicorn-level unbelievable. And, well, most men who have children view the mothers of their children (and the children themselves) as some kind of possession. That, folks, is a whole ‘notha post.

I’m a daddy’s girl and so is my daughter. If a father is present, active and loving, no other man will upset the bond he shares with his child. Ciara and tons of single moms are continuing their walk towards love and bliss with their children in tow, and we will all deal.

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Mike Epps Has Some Advice For Dealing With The Police

Comedian Mike Epps is the latest name to join the growing list of celebrities who have come forward with their personal experiences with law enforcement. 

“It’s rough out here. It’s tough for us brothers out here in the streets with the police situation,” he said in a recent interview with The Huffington Post. “I think everybody needs to write a letter to the government, to the White House, to the justice system — because it’s not fair.”

Like Chris Rock, who earlier this year posted photos to Instagram after being pulled over by police on three separate occasions over the span of weeks, Epps says he has had experience with the police both before and after he became famous. 

“It’s just a black man thing. You just go to jail. I don’t know too many brothers who ain’t never been – even if it wasn’t for nothing like paying a ticket – but it’s very scary. It’s like, man, the police is the boogie man for us.” Indeed, Epps tweeted his mugshot from an arrest when he was 17 (he was wanted for an alleged assault last year).

According to a 2014 report by Crime & Delinquency, 30 percent of black males have been arrested by age 18, with nearly half of black males (49 percent) being arrested by age 23.

Epps does have some perhaps tongue-in-cheek advice for dealing with police. “Start praying. As soon as they approach you just start saying ‘Jesus, Jesus, Jesus,’ they might let you go.”

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25 Famous Women On The Best Advice They’ve Ever Given — Or Received

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This week, the Cut is talking advice — the good, the bad, the weird, and the pieces of it you really wish you’d taken. Here, 25 smart women share their most valuable tidbits.

Greta Gerwig: “Don’t drink all the drinks just because they’re free!”

Julia Stiles: “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

Mindy Kaling: “My mom always said, ‘You should judge your relationship not by how a guy makes you feel when you’re with him, but by how he makes you feel when you’re not with him.'”

Kelly Ripa: “Somebody’s negativity dumped on you is a bigger commentary on how they feel about themselves than you. Jessica Seinfeld taught me that.”

Susan Sarandon: “You can always forgive yourself or apologize for things you do, but you can’t ever work through things you wish you’d done and you didn’t.”

Judy Greer: “My mom told me not to shit where you eat, which a lot of people say, but when your mom says that to you as you’re packing up your car to go away to college, it really sticks.”

Rosie Perez: “My aunt used to say, ‘Rosie, I’m so depressed, but tomorrow’s another fuckin’ day, eh?'”

Helen Mirren: “My headmistress told me not to be afraid of being afraid.”

Jill Soloway: “Speak! It’s a revolution for women to have voices.”

Ali Wentworth: “Don’t worry about working out until it’s more about preventing death and less about what you look like.”

Gayle King: “Maya Angelou said, ‘When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.'”

Sandra Oh: “It’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon. I’ve got to tell you, that’s serviced me so many times. It’s big-picture thinking.”

Liv Tyler: “Make eye contact, stop to really look someone in the eye. My grandmother taught me that.”

Marilyn Minter: “Make envy your enemy.”

Robin Roberts: “Don’t play a supporting role in your own life.”

Tavi Gevinson: “‘Don’t date anyone you wouldn’t want to be,’ from the writer Kate Bornstein.”

Ava DuVernay: “Oprah told me that everything that happens to you is not happening to you, it’s happening for you.”

Dana Delany: “Trust your instincts — but the caveat is you don’t usually know what those are until you’re much older.”

Sandra Bernhard: “When I was starting off, my mentor Paul Mooney said, ‘Bernhard, shed your skin.’ In other words, get closer to who you really are as a performer. But I think it’s good advice for people in life.”

Veronica Roth: “My mom used to tell me, ‘Other people are not thinking about you as much as you are.'”

Laverne Cox: “I think for trans folks, the struggle is, even as we want to transition and be better versions of ourselves, we have to love who we are today.”

Rene Russo: “You have to maneuver in this world. You have to look at another person and go, ‘What is it they need?’ You can use that to ultimately get what you want.”

Chita Rivera: “Take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way, with grace and humility. Be a sponge — and absorb and learn.”

Marin Ireland: “Fail better. Try again, fail again, fail better.”

Aidy Bryant: “Just chill ’til you die, pretty much.”

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The Health Advice I Don’t Find Credible

The other day I read an article in which an “exercise scientist” said that people who exercise regularly are far more likely to keep off the weight after a diet.

So…therefore…you should exercise if you want to keep the weight off. That was the implication.

That doesn’t sound credible to me. 

I’m a big fan of exercise, for health reasons, but it seems to me that the people with the greatest determination to maintain a healthy weight simply do all the things that are recommended for weight management, whether those things work or not. And exercise is generally the top recommendation from experts, after diet.

Look at it this way: If experts told us that the only good ways to maintain a healthy weight included a good diet and shaving off your eyebrows, you would see a high correlation between people who succeeded in keeping off weight and people with no eyebrows.

Here are some more correlations that have never sounded credible to me.

Married people live longer. The implication is that being married is healthier than being single. Maybe. But you know what else is true?

People don’t like to marry unhealthy-looking people. SO OF COURSE THE UNMARRIED DIE SOONER. THEY WERE LESS HEALTHY TO BEGIN WITH.

Getting married might be good for your health, but I don’t think you can believe any data showing a correlation. And I have to think, based on observation, that no more than 20% of married people would say that being married reduces stress.

Dog owners are healthier. The implication is that owning a dog is good for your health. Experts speculate that dog-owners take more walks, and walking is good for you. Or maybe dogs reduce our stress. But you know what else is true?

UNHEALTHY PEOPLE ARE LESS LIKELY TO GET DOGS BECAUSE WALKING THEM SEVERAL TIMES A DAY IS A PAIN IN THE ASS.

Or if you prefer, people who don’t feel capable of taking care of pets probably don’t know a lot about taking care of themselves either. Incompetence doesn’t stay confined to one area as much as you’d hope. 

Owning a dog might be healthy, but the data is not credible to me. And it conflicts with observation. My dog is great, and I love her, but she adds huge stress to my day.

Light Drinkers Live Longer: The implication is that light drinking is good for your health. I consider this the least credible correlation of all time. Because you know what else is true of light drinkers?

They are probably inclined toward moderation in general, and good self-discipline as well. Those qualities are likely to be correlated with good health because it all falls into the category of doing what common sense and experts tell you to do. That seems like a healthy way to approach life.

And light drinkers are probably not poor, because alcohol is expensive, which means they have access to better healthcare and better information about health.

My guess is that light drinking is roughly as healthy as light smoking. But we will never know for sure because most researchers are also drinkers (I assume, because most adults are drinkers) and the booze industry is presumably funding some of those studies. How do you get credible information in that context?

To be super-clear, when I say something is not credible, that is different from saying it is false. All I’m saying is that in the cases I mentioned, the evidence does not feel persuasive to me. Based on pattern alone, the studies I mentioned seem more like they belong in the class of things that we will someday laugh at ourselves for believing.

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In Top Tech Blog, only God can make a tree. That is why I plan to build a religion around the new 3D printers that can print wood.

And how about a cyborg glove to make your human hand more useful? Great for folks with hand problems. It hasn’t been optimized for masturbation, but that can’t be far behind.

Oh, and while you were napping, some folks 3D-printed a spaceship engine. That…works. You know what is about to change in your life because of all this 3D printing? I’m going to say everything.

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Makeup Advice for Job Interviews

If you are currently in search of a new job, a better job or even your first job, it is only a matter of time before you are called in for an in-person interview. First impressions are key, and like it or not, your initial ‘look’ could have a lot to do with you landing that job.

The goal of this interview should be to demonstrate your competencies, qualifications and attention to detail; however, you should be prepared to look the part. Your appearance is the first thing the interviewer will see and, consciously or subconsciously, snap judgments will be made.

Less is more when it comes to makeup application for your interviews. You never want your makeup to be distracting to the interviewer when you are in the hot seat. You want people to remember you, and not the baby blue eye shadow you chose because you thought it would set you apart from the other applicants.

Below are some tips to use before your next interview:

1) Wear lipstick, not lip gloss. Gloss is shiny and gives off a youthful impression. You will look more sophisticated in a nude or light color lipstick

2) Don’t overload on the foundation, a light base of your liquid, cream or powder foundation should be enough. Use concealer to hide any blemishes

3) Use a layer of blush or bronzer to give your face a healthy glow

4).Skip the liquid liner (even if you are good at it) and opt for a gel or pencil eyeliner

5) Slightly play down your signature looks- For example, if you love a red lip you might want to opt for a red lip stain to tone it down. Or, if an extreme cat eye is your thing, you might want to opt for a chic kitten flick instead

6) Use neutral colors on your lid. Save your bright and bold eye shadows for a night out after you have landed that job

7) Don’t forget the mascara. Mascara will help open your eyes up and make you look awake and alert during your interview

It is important to still look and feel like yourself in your interviews, you don’t want to veer too far away from what you know and are comfortable with. Use makeup as a tool to assist in the interview and not as the main presentation.

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20 Powerful Pieces Of Advice For Those Going Through A Divorce

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If you want solid, honest advice about the divorce process, go directly to the source. No, not your divorce attorney — divorcés themselves. Who better to counsel you through the tough, sometimes crazy-making times than someone who’s lived through all of it and come out stronger?

Below, HuffPost Divorce readers on Facebook and Twitter share the one piece of advice that meant the most to them during the divorce process.

1. “Take the high road. I took it every single time. Even when it was difficult, it was always so worth it.”

2. “Never trash talk your ex in front of the kids. You may be exes now, but your kids just see you as their parents.”

3. “Mourn. Mourn the death of your marriage like you would a loved one and mourn the husband you thought you knew.”

4. “Focus fifty percent on kids and fifty percent on yourself. Don’t forget that self-care is important, too.”

5. “Conduct yourself in a way you can be proud of later on, when the divorce is over.”

6. “Know that your decision to hang on to hurt, anger and bitterness adds no value to your life or your kids’ lives.”

7. “You need a good friend. One of my best friends told me, ‘When you feel the urge to call him, call me instead.’ She was my voice of reason during my divorce.”

8. “My attorney sent me the ‘Let it Go’ music video from ‘Frozen.’ And that’s exactly what you need to do. You need to let it go. I focused on my kids. I tried to be amicable and make sure I was honest and ignored the rumors.”

9. “Find someone that offers real, honest advice. Someone I know told me, ‘I’m sorry this happened to you. This is going to suck for a long time’ and it was refreshing to hear. It lifted a huge weight off my chest. People had been telling me things like, ‘You’ll get through this and you’re so strong!” when all I wanted to hear was the brutal honest truth.”

10. “Love your children more than you hate your ex.”

11. “Stay classy in court — and rant all about it in the company of good friends later.”

12. “Fight only for things that cannot be replaced, like the kids. The rest is just stuff, completely immaterial.”

13. “Remember that you have to live with yourself after the divorce, so take pride in what you say and do.”

14. “Know that you deserved better than what your ex gave you.”

15. “Focus on the kids. Be a guard rail they can safely bump up against when the divorce process seems like it might derail them. Be the safe spot they can run to so they don’t go over the edge.”

16. “Let go and let your lawyer do their job.”

17. “Listen to your gut. Take those baby steps toward learning to trust yourself again.

18. “Be in control of yourself and how you act during the process. Make sure you have boundaries, especially if there weren’t any in the marriage.”

19. “Don’t expect anything you didn’t receive during the marriage. If it didn’t happen then, it won’t happen during the divorce process.”

20. “Pick your battles. Some things just aren’t worth the fight.”

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The Greatest Advice Ever on How to Romantically Protect Yourself

Dysfunctional dating abounds and I would like to end the insanity. Like you, I am worn out by the needless tears, heartache, and crazy ex stories, all because of people’s bad decision-making, so even though teaching singles to make wise choices will severely hurt my counseling practice, I am willing to take the hit.

Another reason I’m so motivated is that I know what it’s like to feel like a dating fool, and to be in a miserable marriage that I got myself into due to my own dreadful and misguided mate choices. So much so that I reformed myself, and it paid off. In short, I got real and grew up. Why wouldn’t anyone who has found peace want others to find it, too?

How did it happen? Well, before I married the male Hope Diamond in 2013, I was single a long time — back in my young adulthood, and then as a single mom from 1993 to 1998. Then I entered a disastrous, emotionally devastating three-year marriage, which served as the jackhammer over my hard head that I needed. Determined to change my life, I went to graduate school, became a therapist, and dedicated myself to working on me and figuring out what I was doing wrong so I could be happy as well as find lasting, healthy love.

I became my own science experiment. I had to figure out how to select a compatible and healthy mate. I dated, but never had a boyfriend for nine long years. Why? Well I was going to fix me, but I had to be certain that my mate was mentally and emotionally healthy, he had to adore me with enthusiasm — no more one-sided business! Also, I was looking for a best friend, something I’d never had in a romantic partner. This, my friends, was exceedingly difficult to find. It took patience and a willingness to be alone.

One thing that also helped was a set of dating guideline that I had written in 1996 when I was a columnist for the San Antonio Express-News. Their inspiration came from when I was dumped by a man who went back with his former girlfriend a couple of months into dating me. When we first met he’d been out of the relationship four months and insisted he was relieved to be away from her and was safe to date — well, we know how that ended. I felt so duped and misled that I sat down and figured out some ways I could avoid flakes like that in the future.

Since then I have put even more thought into the concept. As I’ve always said, they look easy, but are not, and while they do not guarantee that you will never be hurt again, if you apply them they will significantly improve your chances:

Doctor Becky’s 4 Rules for Romantic Self-Protection

1. Do not date a man or woman who has not been out of a serious relationship for at least a year. This rule helps you avoid becoming a rebound victim — you know, the human band-aid we become as we’re used to help newly single folk through the dark days? It also ensures that you are not being used as bait to win the person’s former love back. (Yes, people do that.) Typically, the person coming out of a long-term relationship or marriage are almost always temporarily insane and unstable for up to two years, and also their IQ temporarily drops by 20 points. This means that, except for criminal acts, they can’t be held responsible for what they say and do. That’s why it’s best to stay out of that sort of weather until the storm passes. Still, if you meet someone terrific who is just emerging from a relationship, it’s fine to become his or her friend and companion — sort of like staying nearby with a foot in the door, but not coming all the way in the house.

2. Do not have sex with a person unless commitment has been mutually expressed. I look forward to reading the negative messages I’ll receive over this one. First, I believe it would be best if we all started treating sex like it meant something more than a second cup of coffee. Indeed, the sex act is very powerful for many, and almost always changes everything about a relationship. So, to maintain your equilibrium or inner peace, and avoid anxiety, you must be able to say to yourself that, “I know for certain that he or she will continue to be in this relationship following our having sexual intercourse.” This especially holds true for those who get very attached once sex has entered the picture.

3. Avoid feelings described as “head over heels.” When your feelings and emotions get out of control, your body pumps brain chemicals equivalent to taking heroin or some other drug that brings about temporary euphoria.* During this state, we cannot make wise and rational decisions. Many times this feeling lures us into a relationship that is not healthy for us, because we get hooked in by the way it makes us feel, but when it becomes unhealthy we can’t get out of it, because we love the way it makes us feel. The cycle of love addiction is born. Healthy love feels comfortable and easy.

4. Do not even think of getting married until you have spent at least one year and four seasons with your new love. It is impossible to say if we love someone until our desire to be with him or her stands the test of time. Until then, it is just a feeling caused by brain chemicals that make us want to be near someone. Of course, you must feel attachment to the person you commit to, but real, mature and potentially life-lasting love is a commitment and choice that is best made after see the person in as many situations as possible … the holidays, cold weather, hot weather … You need to see how he or she acts when sick, when things aren’t going right, how money is handled, how mom is treated, what their traditions and rituals are. You’ve got to ascertain whether they are honest and have integrity. Anyone can act nice for a short period of time … that’s why it’s imperative to take your time. Hey, would you buy a car you knew had to last a lifetime based on looks and how it made you feel when you first looked at it?

Another piece of this is a promise you must make with yourself — that you will walk away if a relationship doesn’t feel right. I always tell clients that a healthy relationship will not be difficult, it won’t provoke insecurity and make you anxious. You won’t have to wonder if the person is going to flake out on you tomorrow, next week, or 10 years from now. You’ll just be able to live your life, every day, with someone whose company you enjoy immensely, and who enjoys you, too.

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‘Have Your Own Standards’: Stephen Colbert Offers Spot-On Life Advice In Wake Forest Commencement Speech

“I hope you find the courage to decide for yourself what is right and what is wrong, and then please, expect as much of the world around you. Try to make the world good according to your standards.”

Those were some of the words of wisdom uttered by comedian Stephen Colbert during his commencement address to the graduates of North Carolina’s Wake Forest University on Monday.

In his address, Colbert, who left the “The Colbert Report” last year and will take over the “Late Show” later this year, spoke to the graduates about change and the unknown — both things, he noted, he’s intimately familiar with.

“I just spent many years learning to do one thing really well. I got so comfortable with that place, that role, those responsibilities, that it came to define how I saw myself; but now part of my life is over,” he said. “It’s time to say goodbye to the person we’ve become … and to make some crucial decisions in becoming who we’re going to be. For me, I’ll have to figure out how to do an hour-long show every night. And you at some point will have to sleep. I am told the Adderall wears off eventually.”

In a world full of uncertainty and people who want to tear you down, Colbert stressed the importance of developing your own set of values and beliefs.

“People my age will sometimes say to you, ‘Hey, that work you did, that thing you said, that cause you championed — it’s not good,’” he said. “Having your own standards will help you weather moments like that … [and will allow] you to perceive success where others may see failure.”

Of course, it wasn’t all serious talk for the late night host. Colbert joked about the hot weather, poked fun at the history of the college and some of the school’s traditions, and even joked about #TheDress.

“Congratulations to you, the class of 2015,” Colbert said in the introduction of his speech. “You did it and you look amazing. Although it’s a little embarrassing you all showed up in the same outfit. Really, even all of the accessories are the same. Everyone has a black and gold tassel — or is it blue and white? Grandparents, just know this was the issue that divided a generation. You had the Vietnam War, your grandchildren had an ambiguously colored Tumblr post.”

According to the Winston-Salem Journal, Wake Forest University awarded degrees to 1,861 undergraduate, graduate and professional students. Before his commencement speech, Colbert was presented with an honorary doctorate of humane letters.

Watch Colbert’s Wake Forest commencement speech in the video above.

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Who Gives Better Advice: Steve Harvey Or Dr. Phil?

It’s the “Clash of the Talk Show Titans” when two of daytime’s biggest talk show hosts, Dr. Phil and Steve Harvey, face off in a friendly competition to determine who reigns supreme. After going head to head in physical challenges like golf putting, tennis, an obstacle course, and seeing who could sign more copies of their bestselling books in 60 seconds, they set up an advice stand with a sign declaring, “The Mustaches Are In!”

Watch the video above as advice-seekers determine whose counsel they prefer, including one woman who can’t stand her husband’s mustache. “When we kiss, it’s like little knives, and I hate it,” she says, turning to the mustached hosts for help.

The rivalry between the two TV hosts started last year when Dr. Phil appeared as a guest on Steve Harvey, and Steve admitted that he has a picture of Dr. Phil on his vision board. “You are the reigning king of daytime TV,” Steve explained to Dr. Phil. “So I put you on my vision board, because you have the number on your show that I want on my show.”

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3 Daughters on the Beauty Advice They Got from Their Iconic Moms

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Like most things in life, beauty is a combination of nature and nurture. So much of how you look is genetically predetermined, while the other idiosyncrasies, from pedicure preferences to skin care regimens, are habits learned in your formative years. You can thank your mom for both. At least that is the case for model Elettra Wiedemann, designer Margherita Maccapani Missoni Amos, and editor Chloe Malle, who inherited everything from their famously good hair to their age-defying sun-defense strategies from their iconic mothers. Among the things they are grateful for this Mother’s Day, we asked them to share the best beauty advice they got from their bombshell moms.

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Beastie Boys’ Adam Horovitz Gives The Most Adorable Love Advice To Teen Girls

Need some love advice? Ask a Beastie Boy.

As part of Rookie’s “Ask A Grown Man” series, Adam Horovitz, aka Ad-Rock of the Beastie Boys, answered teen girls’ questions about dating insecurities, what to do when you’re in a relationship but you’re just not feelin’ it and being scared to have your first kiss.

“My advice and opinion, is to go ahead and kiss. Go ahead and do it,” said Adam. “I say talk about it, have a quick little conversation… it doesn’t mean you have to have a full-on make-out session or anything else… just a quick kiss. It’s something really special to be really close — just for a moment.”

Adam also admitted that when it comes to making moves, dudes can be a little slow.

“Boys, for the most part, aren’t very observant,” he said.

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‘Pretty Little Liars’ Star Shay Mitchell Has Advice For Your Tinder-Life Struggles

Dating in 2015 can be #majorstrugs.

While advice from typical newspaper channels is often outdated (Um, what’s “asking someone out to dinner”?), “Pretty Little Liars” star Shay Mitchell gets that sometimes your nights are spent analyzing the punctuation in Tinder messages.

In honor of today’s debut of “Get Roped In” — a YouTube dating show from SweeTARTS Ropes hosted by Mitchell and starring YouTube celebrities like Ryan Tellez, Meghan Rienks and Catherine Valdes — we got on the phone with the actress and social media icon to get her advice for some relatable 2015 dating scenarios. Read on for her take on Snapchat flirtations, and head over to YouTube to check out the new show.

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Scenario No. 1: You have a very flirtatious Snapchat relationship with a friend of yours. For example, after getting caught in a rainstorm, he/she will take a selfie looking miserable, drenched and muddy, and send it to you with the caption “Wish you were here.” But in real life, only about a quarter of your interactions are flirtatious. How do you translate the Snapchat vibes into real romance?
I would ask to meet them in person, and actually reach out to them in a cute way — using Snapchat possibly since that’s how they’ve been using it to flirt. And be like, “Hey, wanna meet for some coffee?” or “What do you say about dinner this Friday?” You know, holding up a sign or something cute, asking them the question on Snapchat but then actually having that meeting in real life. I think that could be a fun thing. Use [social media] as an opportunity to ask them to hang out in more than just a friend way.

Scenario No. 2: Someone you casually know and see regularly at mutual friends’ parties tells you one night he thinks you’re “cute and cool.” You give him your number, which he assures you he’ll use. You text him the next day, and after sending one message back three hours later, he promptly stops responding. You see him tweet that night: “Ode to this chicken finger, the only thing I’ll ever let close to my heart.” You are definitely going to keep seeing him at your mutual friends’ social events. How should you act?
I would act normal! Like yes, did he call back? No. But that’s fine. You should move on as well. I would continue to see other people and be available and be out there. I wouldn’t put all my eggs in one basket, as they say, because that’s what dating is, seeing what works for you. So, like, great it didn’t work right now but maybe he wasn’t the right person anyway. Because if there truly was genuine interest, you’re going to write back to someone. Nobody’s ever that busy, trust me.

Scenario No. 3: You’re living a life of dread as an HR rep at an investment bank. Then, you start attending a weekly paint and wine class, and for the first time in a while really feel like you’re accessing yourself. You start to think you might be vibing with with your instructor, who hovers close to you when giving notes about your painting. But, this could just be a normal painting instructor practice, and also you drank a lot of wine. Should you say something, or keep quiet because rejection would ruin your one bastion from feeling like a cog in a machine?
I would suggest, although I love wine, drinking less wine in the next class and see if your sober self is really sensing a vibe from your painting instructor, or if it was just the wine telling you that. For the next class, try like, this class I’m just gonna have two glasses instead of four and I’m gonna see if it’s all in my head or if there’s something I’m getting from this guy.

Scenario No. 4: You’re really into someone for like a year, but it takes a while to get things off the ground. The first time you actually make out with them, they keep pushing your bangs/any hair that covers your face back and saying out loud, “I want to see your forehead.” Your instinct is to flee this situation and never speak to them again, despite feeling five minutes earlier that the relationship could really go somewhere. What should you do?
Okay, I would be like, do you have an obsession with foreheads? Is this something we should talk about? [Laughs] I would want to know if, like, maybe he just wants to see your face. You know, guys say, like, “I like seeing girls in the morning.” You know, in a lot of relationships they prefer no makeup. So maybe that’s just him thinking that hair is, in a way, blocking your entire face. So I would be more specific before I just bolted. If it got a little weird and then he told me to take off my socks so he could look at my feet, then I’d really feel weird. But, you know, if he’s just asking to see more of my face, I’d be like, “Okay, cool.” If it was more than that and he actually had some weird fetish then, you know, that’s time to leave. But I’d stay there for five more minutes to hear him out.

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He Asked 1500+ Elders For Advice On Living And Loving. Here’s What They Told Him.

Karl Pillemer has spent the last several years systematically interviewing hundreds of older Americans to collect their lessons for living.

Pillemer admits he’s an advice junkie. He’s also a Ph.D. gerontologist at Cornell University.

Some years ago, after turning 50, he wondered whether there is something about getting older that teaches you how to live better. “Could we look at the oldest Americans as experts on how to live our lives?” he asked. “And could we tap that wisdom to help us make the most of our lifetimes?”

His first book, “30 Lessons for Living,” synthesized advice from over 1,000 elders on topics like happiness, work, and health.

Now Pillemer has followed up with “30 Lessons for Loving,” which features practical wisdom from over 700 older Americans with 25,000 collective years of marriage experience. One couple he profiles was married for 76 years. Another interviewee describes divorcing her husband, then remarrying him 64 years later.

I spoke with Pillemer for Sophia, a HuffPost project to collect life lessons from accomplished people (that was partly inspired by his work).

Pillemer shared seven key pieces of advice he’s heard repeatedly from older Americans — about their greatest regrets, finding fulfillment, and keeping relationships healthy through life’s ups-and-downs.

1. Stop worrying so much.

I asked these oldest Americans what they think people tend to regret at their age, and what they would advise younger people to do to avoid regrets.

I expected big-ticket items — an affair or a shady business deal, something along those lines. I really didn’t expect to hear the one answer that was among the most frequent and certainly among the most passionate and vehement: stop worrying so much.

One of the biggest regrets of the very old was, I wish I hadn’t spent so much time worrying. They weren’t talking about planning, but the kind of mindless rumination that all of us do over things we have no control.

One of the people who said that summed it up this way. It was a woman who said, “I knew there were going to be layoffs at my job. I did nothing over the coming three months except worry about being laid off. I poisoned my life. I didn’t think about anything else, even though I had no control over it.” And she paused and said, “I wish I had those three months back, because that was just lifetime lost.”

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I’m sort of a chronic Woody Allen-esque worrier. Hearing hundreds and hundreds of older people saying that when you get to our age, you’ll see time spent needlessly worrying as time wasted, it really had a profound effect on me.

People have asked me, “What do you do with that insight? How do we stop worrying?” For me, when I start to get into the mindless rumination, I will remind myself that it’s an almost absolute certainty that everybody, when they get to the end of life, will say to themselves, “I wish I hadn’t spent so much time worrying about something that wasn’t going to happen.” After doing this for so long, I kind of have this feeling of a thousand grandparents in a room yelling at me [laughs].

A related insight of older people comes through very strongly in their advice about marriage. Very often a lot of their advice revolves around lightening up. We allow things, like marriage or other domains of life, to become extremely grim.

Their viewpoint from later on — this may sound like a cliché, but they mean it — is most of the things they worried about didn’t happen, and the bad things that happened to them were things they hadn’t considered.

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2. In relationships, sweat the small stuff.

If I learned one thing about how to keep the spark alive over many decades, there’s a point that the elders make that aligns very closely with research. It is an emphasis on thinking small — the small, minute-to-minute, day-to-day interactions that make up a relationship.

We tend to think of relationships globally. But all relationships are made up of hundreds or thousands of daily micro-interactions where you have the opportunity to be positive and supportive to your partner, or to be dismissive and uninterested.

There’s been research showing, for example, that how you respond if your partner interrupts you while you’re doing something is very diagnostic of how good the relationship’s going to be. If you’re actively involved in reading the paper or doing something, and your partner wants to show you something of interest to him or her, whether you respond dismissively or you briefly stop what you’re doing and engage with your partner is very diagnostic of positivity in the relationship.

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Other research has shown that it takes around 10 positive interactions to make up for one nasty one, so the ratio of positive to negative small interactions in a relationship is really critical. And that’s exactly what older people say. Many of their lessons embody this same concept.

For example, one of the things that older people argue is that we ought to be polite in our relationships. You know, the old things that people learned in elementary school, to say please and thank you and observe normal civility, is something people forget to do all the time in their relationships, mostly because we feel comfortable.

They argue using politeness and tact, but also making a habit of positive things, of compliments, of small surprises, of doing a partner’s chore, if you have a fairly rigid division of labor. Many people described that. I had more than one woman — perhaps it’s quote from someone else — but they jokingly said that their husband doing the dishes was the best aphrodisiac they could think of. So I would say that for a good relationship that lasts a long time, one of the absolute keys is attending to being positive, cheerful, supportive in the small aspects of the relationship.

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Another thing which is closely related: many couples begin to develop divergent interests and one partner then becomes hostile to a passionate interest. I had many older people say, “Our relationship changed when I gave my partner’s interests a chance and embraced them.”

One guy in his mid-80s, he was astonished. He said, “I started going to opera and ballet. Me! Opera and ballet! But it was worth it to engage with my partner.” Or wives who took up golf or developed an interest in football. At some point, people begin to say that positivity in the relationship is more important than fighting over these kinds of like minor differences.

People who have very positive relationships consciously tend to maximize these small positive interactions. And that is a place where elder wisdom completely or very closely aligns with what we know from research about good marriages.

3. Don’t sacrifice your relationship for your children.

There’s a very strong research finding in family social science. It is called the U-shaped curve of marital happiness. Basically, marriages start out pretty happy. Marital happiness drops precipitously at the birth of the first child and usually never completely recovers until the last child has left the house.

So even though kids are great — they satisfy our existential longings, and we love them, and it’s one of the most profound experiences — they are stressful for marriages. You probably don’t need a social scientist to tell you that, because anybody who’s been through it knows that.

There’s no question that a lot of marital arguments and difficulties revolve around children. It’s one of the paradoxes of marriage that good things, like having kids or having a really good job, even owning and taking care of a house, also can be sources of marital stress. It’s the double-edged sword of marriage.

The elders had one really strong recommendation in terms of adjusting to kids. Put your marriage first, put your relationship first, and don’t let kids distract you from having a good relationship with your partner.

Couples lose themselves in the mix of kids and work and fundamentally abandon attention to their relationship. The advice of the oldest Americans is very similar to that famous instruction on airplanes — put your own oxygen mask on first and then put it on the kids. If you aren’t attending to your relationship, you aren’t going to be very effective as child-rearers.

It’s very unusual that people have an awful relationship and wind up being good parents. If you sacrifice your relationship for your children, you have a reasonable chance of losing both.

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Now, they aren’t saying, of course, that you don’t love your kids and that you wouldn’t hurl yourself in front of a train to save them. But they argue that a marital relationship needs constant attention in spite of the kids.

I was shocked, in focus groups I did in preparation for the book, how many young parents couldn’t even remember when they’d gone out on their own or spent much individual time together. The oldest Americans’ argument is: Carve it out. Impose on grandparents. Develop a babysitting exchange. Even if you don’t have any money.

I had people who grew up in the Depression. One couple said, “We returned our disposable soda bottles and went to McDonald’s. It was just an opportunity to be away.”

Even if it’s something as artificial as a weekly date night where you scrimp and arrange for babysitting and go off on your own, you simply must do it. If you lose yourself in this middle-aged blur of work and kids, you really won’t do your kids any good.

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4. People who share core values typically have better marriages.

One hallmark of these long and harmonious marriages — and this is a piece of advice, too, that older people explicitly give — is to marry someone a lot like you.

We have in our popular culture this vast amount of examples of where opposites attract and make for great relationships, from “Romeo and Juliet” through “The Little Mermaid” through “Pretty Woman” and on and on.

Both the elders and research say, not so much. Marrying somebody who is very similar to you — in the trade, we call it homophily. Homophilous marriages, where the partners are pretty similar across a range of domains, tend to last longer and be happier.

What seems to really make the difference are core shared values. For example, work and the importance of work, the number of children and the way children are to be raised and goals for children, how important money is, spiritual and religious values to some extent. If there’s core value similarity, that seems to really make for these longer and happier marriages.

There’s no magic bullet. But marrying someone who’s fundamentally similar to you, especially in outlook, worldview, and values, really does seem to make a difference. It makes everything else much easier.

You might ask, in our complex multicultural society, is that really a good thing to recommend? What they would say is, you can have differences. Sometimes differences do spice up a relationship. But if you have two people who are, for example, strongly committed to two different religious traditions, you’ve got to be aware that you’re going to have to work around that in your relationship. If you have other kinds of strong value differences, it’s important to be aware of those and deal with them.

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5. Communicate early, communicate often.

I’ve spent a lot of time interviewing young people. Of course, I’m speaking anecdotally. I know a lot of them as a college professor. One thing I’ve learned is that even in long dating relationships, it’s actually relatively unusual that they have a deep discussion about child-rearing values or even having children.

I think that’s a problem. I think the elders would say it’s a problem. Understanding how your values align is very important early on.

This is related, and it may seem obvious, but virtually all of the elders in long marriages say the key to their success was learning how to communicate effectively on important issues.

People who were divorced very typically attribute it to a communication breakdown. I had several couples in the study who had gotten divorced and then remarried. One couple was actually remarried almost a half century after they were first divorced and began to have a very positive relationship. Almost always that was attributed to learning how to open up, to have open and successful communication and to really talk to one another.

6. Approach marriage as a discipline.

The unspoken, unquestioned, and underlying assumption, especially of people 75 and older, was that marriage would last forever.

They viewed marriage as an unbreakable bond; they simply had to work within those parameters. That means, for example, you live through rough patches and don’t just try to get out of the relationship. You come to accommodations and acceptances of the other person. You see this unit as something that is bigger than two people and their immediate individual satisfaction.

When they got married, they were making a commitment to the concept of marriage as a worthwhile institution, rather than the partnership based on immediate satisfaction of the individuals involved.

I got from them the idea of marriage as a discipline — not a punishment kind of discipline but the way it’s used if you’re learning music or a martial art. Marriage is a lifelong path, one that you never perfect and that you continually work to get better at. You’re continually working to improve communication and overcome problems and establish more interest.

This worldview — that once you were in marriage, you were in it for good — shaped people’s day-to-day experience and view of it. It’s one of the things which those who do articulate it recommend to younger people. They say, even if the reality is that you may not stay married, you ought to have this attitude, because it will make you work harder to get through difficult times. And there are such benefits to doing that that you ought to do it.

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7. Take time to craft the story of your life.

There’s been considerable research on the importance of reminiscence, life review. Most old people would like to be able to see their lives as a meaningful whole, to be able to sum it up into a coherent narrative.

I don’t want to wax too poetic, but I have really been struck by something which the famous psychologist Erik Erikson said. At some point you realize that you’re given this one chance — he words it this way — ‘this one chance in all of eternity to enact an identity and to play it out in the real world.’

Towards the end of life, what’s really important to people is to be able to see how their life mattered, how it was meaningful, how there was a story to it that wraps up in a good way.

People who are able to create that kind of narrative, and think of their life in that way, are typically happier. They’re more generative. They’re much more serene and open to the end of life. So that is really good work for people to do. Writing about it is something that a number of my interviewees did. Often my best interviewees were people who had done some writing of memoirs.

There is a concept which some of them also did, it’s called the “ethical will,” where people will write down what they would like to leave to younger generations about their values and principles and morality, how someone should live a life.

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It’s so critical for older people to record their memories. I would go one step further. Stop me if — actually, I’m going to go ahead and say it. We’re in the midst right now in our society of a very dangerous experiment. That’s one where young people, outside of intermittent contacts in their own family, have no meaningful contact with older people in any other dimension of their lives.

Whereas old people were often much more integrated and were sought out as sources of wisdom and advice and life experience, now they really aren’t, because our society is so age-segregated.

I think that we place young people in peril without these kind of intergenerational contacts. This is something that’s so natural for the human race. It’s really only been about the last hundred years that people have gone to anyone other than the oldest person they knew for advice about something, say like marriage or child-rearing.

Even though it sounds artificial, it’s important for older people to record their own thoughts and memories, but it’s really critical for younger people to ask them for them, and not just for stories, but for guidance and practical advice for living. I’m not against professional help. I think it’s great. But sometimes people might go and ask the elders in their lives for advice on finding a meaningful career or improving a relationship first.

So I think that it’s both older people doing it themselves, nurturing these memories and reflecting on their lives, but it’s also our role as younger people to help them to do it, to express interest in it and be a part of their reminiscing and summing up their life into a meaningful story. That’s what we really risk losing now. It’s a large reason for these projects, I have to say, and why I’m writing these books.

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As a drug kingpin, his life and times of Freeway Rick Ross have been well-documented. He was represented in “Kill The Messenger,” a movie how drugs ravaged South Central neighborhoods of color. Furthermore, he’s had a couple rappers (Freeway and Rick Ross) adopt his moniker. These days, Rick Ross is getting it in a completely different way. He’s making movies and speaking to kids. We caught up with Freeway Rick and he gave some advice to currently-incarcerated rapper Bobby Shmurda and even Rick Ross.

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Two African American brothers, Tywonn and Naibon, claim they found themselves in a situation similar to Michael Brown and Eric Garner when they believe they were racially profiled. The brothers, both of whom are students — one studying criminal justice in college and the other in law school — say they didn’t do anything wrong but were questioned by the officers and then a brawl broke out.

Dr. Phil tells the brothers that even if the officers’ behavior were inappropriate, they could have ended up with the same tragic outcome as Michael Brown and Eric Garner. He says, “I’m telling you that if you’re my sons, as a father, I’m telling you show them the license, write down all of their information, file a complaint — you could have been shot and killed in that restaurant. You get into a conflict with armed people with a badge — that’s dangerous!”

Roland Martin, an African-American journalist, disagrees, saying the boys are Americans who should have the right to at least question the officers.

Dr. Phil fires back. “Pick your battlefield, and your battlefield is not at midnight with an armed guard.”

Watch the video above to see the heated conversation, joined by New Orleans Saints’ Benjamin Watson, whose Facebook post about no indictment in the Ferguson case went viral, as well as Mike Brooks, a detective of 26 years.

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Kim Kardashian Emailed Kris Jenner Some Hilariously Harsh Style Advice

Every so often Kris Jenner is spotted wearing something that definitely came from one of her daughters’ overflowing closets, and it turns out there’s a good reason Jenner is sometimes referred to as the fourth Kardashian sister: her children encourage it.

Proof of such encouragement can be found in this hilariously harsh email from Jenner’s admittedly “favorite” daughter Kim Kardashian, which the 59-year-old posted to Instagram on Friday:

For reference, here’s the outfit that just wasn’t up to Kim’s standards:

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Kim isn’t the only one to notice her mother’s love of a Peter Pan collar, but no one else will tell you the cold, hard truth like family. And no one besides Kim K will let you know when it’s enough with this “omish shit.”

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Relationship Advice – Should You Dump Your Boyfriend?

There comes a time in many intimate relationships when a woman has to make a decision as to whether or not she should commit any more of her effort and time to her current boyfriend. If she feels the relationship isn’t going in the right direction she might decide it’s no longer worth investing any more of her time in it and decide to pull out. But how does she determine when that time has come? Here are some clues…
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An Important Reminder To Not Take Relationship Advice From Your Cat

Cats are great at squeezing into impossibly small spaces, making death-defying jumps, and showing your pet dog who’s boss whenever they get the chance.

They’re not that great at giving relationship cues. Unfortunately, one woman who recently wrote into a vet’s advice column in The Sonoma Valley Sun was not aware of that.

Reader “Picking Up Kitty’s Cues” wrote to Dr. Vallard C. Forsythe and said that she was convinced her husband was cheating on her based on the peculiar behavior of their cat, Muffin Top.

Apparently, while her husband Bill has been clocking in extra hours at work, Muffin Top’s been busy peeing on Bill’s side of the bed — and twice on his laundry. A coincidence? Kitty Cues thinks not.

“My theory is that Muffin Top knows that my husband is lying to me about something and is punishing him,” she writes. “Whey else would it only be HIS cat acting weird and peeing on HIS side of the bed?”

Smartly, Dr. Forsythe does’t venture into the human drama (“I wouldn’t even try to pontificate the answer to that one for all the gold in Fort Knox or backstage passes to an Usher concert.”) But he does offer some sage advice on ol’ Muffin Top’s health — and reminds his readers that our cats are not Iyanla from “Iyanla: Fix My Life”.

“While it is true that animals can often sense things before humans can, it sounds to me like you need to face your marital situation head on rather than let Muffin Top and Cupcake sell you a load of baked goods. Cats are very sensitive to change in the house and when tensions run high, their behavior can change. This can often show up in aberrant urination or defecation. Don’t forget it could also be that one cat has a bladder infection causing him to urinate on the unoccupied side of the bed.”

In other words, sometimes a cat peeing all over your bed is just a cat peeing all over your bed.

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Relationship Advice – Ways To Tell If Your Guy Is In Love With You

It would be ideal if the guy you are dating was fitted with an indicator or a piece of software that would instantly alert you as soon as he knows he has fallen in love with you. Until an invention along these lines arrives, you’ll have to rely on signs and feelings to make that determination. In the meantime, here are a few ways to help you identify the signals…
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Jake’s Advice for How to Tell a Guy What You Really Want in Bed

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A Very Good Reason NOT to Ask Dr. Wikipedia for Medical Advice

Even though I know better—or, you know, should know better—I often find myself heading to my computer and Googling my symptoms whenever I feel sick. I'm not the only one, though—up to 60 percent of…




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Ask a Boss: Rick Ross’ Advice on Bad Rappers, Being Big and Sexism

For a limited time Rick Ross is Rolling Stone’s advice columnist! Here’s his second batch of answers to our readers’ burning questions I have a friend – I’ll call him Chris Everybody thinks Chris is a total boss He always gets the hottest girls drives the nicest car and drinks the finest…

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Miley Cyrus mocks “motherly” advice from Sinead O’Connor

Singer Cyrus arrives at the 2013 MTV Video Music Awards in New YorkLONDON (Reuters) – American pop star Miley Cyrus has snubbed some prim motherly advice about her new bad girl image from Irish singer and sometime rebel Sinead O'Connor. The "We Can't Stop" singer – who has ditched her squeaky clean Hannah Montana Disney image for a solo singing career as a tattooed sex siren – rebuffed an open letter from O'Connor calling on Cyrus to tone down her sexualized persona. "Sinead. I don't have time to write you an open letter cause I'm hosting & performing on SNL (U.S. comedy show Saturday Night Live) this week," Cyrus tweeted. …



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The Best Beauty Advice We've Ever Received From Our Mothers

There are no words that can truly express the love and gratitude that we have for our mothers. Every day they bestow upon us their great wisdom, including guidance on how to heal from a broken heart and how to strut in a killer pair of high heels.

The lessons we’ve learned from our mothers are deeply-rooted within us. And since sharing is something they would appreciate, we’re dropping gems from our mamas.

In honor of Mother’s Day, we are sharing with you the best beauty advice we’ve ever received from our mothers (and grandmothers).

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“Always put lotion on right after you get out the shower or else you’ll have ‘alligator skin.'” – Donna Jacques

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“Smile, Dana!” – Shirley Oliver

Brennan Williams, HuffPost Pop Cultural Editor

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When it came to advising my personal appearance through the years, my mom [Anna] always recommend that I maintain stellar hygiene, and to remain a gentleman while keeping classy!

Michelle Persad, HuffPost Style Fashion Editor

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“Don’t rub your eyes and don’t touch your face.” – Cheryl McGrath

Megan Mayer, HuffPost Style Associate Editor

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“My most favorite thing in my bathroom cabinet is a jar of Sisley Global anti-age cream. It feels so amazing when I put it on my face. It’s expensive, but moisturizing is so important and it’s well worth it. With that said, I think the best beauty advice is a good night’s sleep and lots of water.” – Melanie Mayer

Yasmine Afiz, HuffPost Religion Associate Editor

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“Be happy for today!” – Yvonne Karamali, grandmother

“It’s more important to be beautiful on the inside than on the outside.” Dilara Hafiz, mom

Jamie Feldman, HuffPost Style Fellow

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“Never be afraid to experiment with hair. It’s just hair, and it grows back! Always feel free to express your beauty — whether through makeup, piercings, or otherwise. It’s important to express yourself. Also, eye cream, eye cream and more eye cream.” – Samantha, mom

“It’s never too early to start using anti-aging moisturizer. Lipstick is an extremely important tool. Pick a hairdresser and stick with him. And you can make anything look expensive as long as you wear it the right way — with confidence.” Milly, grandmother

Julee Wilson, HuffPost Black Voices Style & Beauty Editor

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My mom [Mary Ann] has always told me: “Pretty is as pretty does”– meaning your beauty comes from how well you treat people and carry yourself in the world. No amount of makeup, lotions or potions can mask a mean spirit.

Chanel Parks, HuffPost Style Fellow

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If there’s one thing my mom [Marilyn] has taught me about beauty, it’s that you really don’t need to conform to any type of trend — my mom has dyed her hair a million colors and wears the flashiest prints, because they represent her, not what others think about her. This has definitely been an inspiration for the bold, bright lipsticks I wear and my ability to accept my hair as hair, not a super precious gem that’s worth a million dollars. Read: Don’t cry over it, and cover it with a wig. Ha!

Julie Miller, HuffPost Style Blogger

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“Take great care of your skin: sunscreen & facials.” – Margaret Carlson Citron
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'That Nail Polish Looks Terrible:' Words Of Advice From My Jewish & Stylish Grandmother

My relationship with fashion started really early on. The first lunch outing I ever went on was spent in a baby carrier atop the table of the cafe inside Saks Fifth Avenue. When it came to reading, the first word I recognized well enough to speak out loud was “Macy’s.”

The reason for this early intimacy with shopping? My super fashionable grandmother, or Nana as she requested to be called upon my birth (“grandmothers are OLD,” she argued.) At 82-years-old (and still working full time!), my Nana continues to be the most stylish person I know… and I work in fashion.

Now, before we begin, let me be clear about something. I LOVE my Nana. She is caring, thoughtful and a fiercely strong woman who has served as a role model my entire life. Having said that, there are still a few things we disagree on. Things like whether writing is a “real job” or my extreme “interest in the Internet.” What we do have in common, is our passion for good style. Shopping and sharing* clothing has been the glue that turned two people who can’t see eye-to-eye on a whole lot into, well, best friends.

But, like any best friends, sometimes we disagree on what looks good and what doesn’t, too. In honor of Mother’s Day this weekend, I’ve decided to share a few of the most memorable fashion moments we’ve sparred over through the years.

You must always have a manicure… and color matters.

Once I showed up to Nana’s apartment in what I thought was a great outfit, cute accessories and mint green nail polish. She opened the door, gave me a once over and said, “what kind of color is that on your nails? I hate it.”

Your shoes should match your bag

This one I can actually get on board with. The first time Nana pointed out that I was wearing a blue bag and brown shoes, I laughed in her face. Now I can’t leave my house without double checking that they go together.

Messy hair is not as cute as you think it is.

Sometimes I don’t feel like showering. By sometimes I mean pretty much any Saturday morning. Conveniently, Saturdays are usually the days Nana and I get together. The last time I rolled out of bed, threw a trusty hat over a messy braid and showed up at her house, she said: “Is that in now? Not brushing you hair?”

Never wear heels — if you’re under 25.

Until I was about 24 (I’m 25 now), Nana yelled at me every time she saw me in a pair of heels. I’m not sure if she’s just given up hope on me, but she hasn’t said a thing since my birthday.

Earrings are a must.

It used to make her CRAZY that I never wore earrings. I don’t know why I didn’t wear them, after all, I DID have holes in my ears. I just didn’t feel like wearing them. She got so fed up that after 22 years she gave me HER nicest pair just so I would wear them. Now that’s dedication.

…Just nowhere besides your ears.

More specifically, no where except your earlobes. I used to have a nose ring that I’m pretty sure crushed her soul a little more every time she looked at it. Now I’ve ditched the nose ring but have a tragus piercing, and I can see her biting her tongue every time I tuck my hair behind my ears. Hey, at least I’m wearing earrings, right?

It’s not just hair, and it doesn’t just grow back.

I recently chopped all my hair off. Nana hasn’t seen it yet, and the next time I’m seeing her is Mother’s Day. The last time I cut all my hair off she had a panic attack right there in the salon. Happy holidays, Nana!

Of course, she’s also imparted a whole bunch of wisdom on me over the years, like:

Cherish your brows.

Back in the day when Nana lived in Israel, she had her eyebrows threaded and they never grew back. So I don’t do much else besides tweeze anymore.

Put a belt on it.

This one is pretty self explanatory. When in doubt, add a belt. It turns an outfit into a look.

Anything can look expensive… if you wear it the right way.

Nana wears something she bought for $ 10 and gets more compliments than I ever do on the things I wear. It’s about the confidence, she says.

Being a total badass probably helps, too.

To see more photos of my Nana, who doesn’t know quite how famous on Instagram she truly is, click here. Happy Mother’s Day to you and all the awesome, stylish moms in your life.

*By sharing I mean I wear all of her clothes that she “doesn’t want anymore.” Seriously.
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