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A Few Questions to Consider in Divorce Property Division Situations

This comment provides a very brief and incomplete educational overview limited to the complex law surrounding divorce property division. Always consult an experienced attorney and financial and tax professionals in all family law property matters.

Divorce property division involves numerous financial and legal issues. The following is a brief list of 20 questions, among many, that must be resolved.

1. Is there a valid marriage? Sometimes, among many possible situations, there may be a preexisting marriage, such as a common law marriage, without an intervening divorce. Creating a relationship history may be appropriate. Is an annulment or legal separation preferable to a divorce, given the unique circumstances and financial needs of the parties?

2. Do the parties understand, up-front, the likely expenses associated with the divorce, such as attorney’s fees, court costs and other professional fees? To what extent may the divorce court under applicable state law require one party to pay some or all of these expenses? Will proving the history and ownership of assets become relevant in a property division or result in a jury trial?

3. Do the parties understand the likely time-line and sequence of events in the divorce proceeding? Depending upon a variety of factors and the number of pending cases on the divorce court’s docket, time frames may vary. Are there adequate provisions for intervening expenses? Does one spouse have control of financial records, bank accounts, vehicle titles and other assets? Should the court be petitioned to require the sharing of assets and information?

4. Do the parties understand expected courtroom decorum and attire? Has a party been adequately prepared by her or his attorney concerning what is likely to occur in court and the potential questions if testifying? One cannot be over prepared when going before a judge or jury.

5. Precisely what is the date of separation? This may become important in determining the status of property and debts acquired after this date.

6. Do the divorcing spouses have an enforceable prenuptial or other property agreement or multiple agreements? If so, this may simplify the property division process; however, an agreement may be invalid if improperly created. Also, it may omit assets or be judicially determined to be unfair to a spouse.

7. Is the divorce being undertaken subject to “community property law” or “equitable division or distribution law?” Community property law originated with Mexico and Spain and is most common in southwestern states. In an incomplete and simplified generalization, community property law treats marriage much like a partnership with a presumption of joint ownership of property. Equitable distribution allows greater flexibility for a judge to consider factors such as the duration of the marriage and contributions of the spouses in achieving a “fair” division of assets.

8. Has all of the property been identified? Will the divorce court have meaningful and enforceable jurisdiction over assets located in other states or foreign nations? A spouse may attempt to conceal or skim assets, the many techniques of which are beyond the scope of this brief comment. Intangible assets and items such as future pension benefits may be easily overlooked. Accrued tax benefits, the value of professional practices, business goodwill, life insurance, unused reward benefits, club memberships, intellectual property and items in storage are just a few of many items to consider.

Did one spouse provide funds for the other’s advanced education and potentially have a right to reimbursement or a share of future earnings? Separate property that moved through a joint bank account, for example, may be subject to division. The ownership of pets and keepsakes are frequently hotly contested. New forms of reproductive technologies may create ownership issues regarding frozen eggs and embryos, for example.

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One must think carefully and consult experienced professionals to be certain property has not been overlooked or undervalued. An experienced financial private investigator or forensic accountant may be necessary if one suspects that assets are being hidden.

9. Does a spouse have a valid claim that certain assets are her or his separate property? The issue of separate property is complex with the name on a deed or title or related documents not being conclusive evidence of exclusive ownership. It is frequently necessary to trace the history and transformations of assets (for example, from an item to cash that was used to purchase another item, etc.) in order to resolve ownership. Additionally, depending on state law, a court may have broad authority over all assets.

10. Have all marital and business related debts been identified? A spouse may discover that she or he has personal liability for a debt created by the other spouse. While a court may attempt to assign responsibility for a debt to one individual, creditors frequently still have enforceable legal rights again both parties. An “innocent spouse” may be able to obtain relief from unpaid taxes. Consult a tax professional. Understand the impact of the divorce on your credit rating and obtain a copy of your credit report to identify listed outstanding creditors and your current standing.

11. Has there been waste or dissipation of assets by a spouse? It may be possible to have the court require reimbursement of the expenses of an extramarital affair, for example. However, with the advent of no-fault divorce in the 1970s, fault as a factor in property division is frequently not considered. Nevertheless, depending on the state, domestic violence (truthful or false allegations) and social media communications may become important equitable (fairness) considerations. The facts surrounding business losses may become significant. A spouse’s knowledge and participation in business ventures may be equally important.

12. Is the value of all assets known? Inherited furniture or art, for example, may be valuable antiques. When in doubt have a professional appraisal made.

13. Are there marital assets that have either significantly appreciated or depreciated in value during the marriage or are likely to do so in the future? Has a financial professional reviewed possible future events in relation to these assets? For example, a business might be on the verge of a major expansion due to the efforts of a spouse. A thoughtful consideration of both events that have occurred during the marriage and may occur in the future are important.

14. Is a bankruptcy likely to occur in connection with the divorce or shortly thereafter? If so, the manner in which the property division is structured may become an important issue. For example, bankruptcy courts have broad authority over property and debts but not child support and spousal support. Also, an ex-spouse might be released from a debt in a manner that places the entire responsibility for repayment on the other ex-spouse. The precise language to be used in divorce court orders and decrees must be carefully reviewed.

15. Are minor children, disabled children or disabled spouses parties in the divorce? If so, a property division should take into account their present and future needs. Housing and transportation needs may override the desire of a healthy spouse to own a house or vehicle. Consider the present creation by court order of trust funds administered by a reputable financial institution to contain funds for college education expenses or other foreseeable future needs. Carefully restrict access to these funds.

16. Will the property division require continuing or future actions by a former spouse? Future actions may be difficult to enforce due to changes in circumstances or indifference or obstinacy by an ex. Be very cautious when creating such requirements. Be equally cautious when providing a spouse with funds to be spent in a particular way in the future, such as for college education expenses. It is easy for one to rationalize the misspending of money. A carefully crafted trust fund, as mentioned above, is a preferable option.

17. Are the spouses able to amicably negotiate or mediate? If so, significant expense and emotional stress may be avoided. However, be prepared to encounter typical negotiation tactics and blustering. Will you have consultants available to assist you?

18. Has a negotiated property settlement agreement been prepared by an experienced attorney and reviewed by a financial and tax professional? How will the agreement be enforced and are any potential enforcement mechanisms realistic? Understand that assets may disappear and ex-spouses vanish.

19. Has the divorce court incorporated the property settlement agreement into a judicial degree so that it has become final and irrevocable? Does it contain binding duties that may be enforced by a court? Are provisions as self-executing as possible or are they dependent upon future actions? An experienced attorney should appropriately accomplish this.

20. In the event that a party is dissatisfied with the decisions of the divorce judge, is there an appropriate procedural foundation for an appeal to a higher court? An experienced attorney will carefully “preserve error” and “protect the record” so that an appeal is possible.

This comment provides a very brief and incomplete educational overview of a complex topic and is not intended to provide legal advice. Always consult an experienced attorney, financial professional and tax professional in specific marital property situations.

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5 Things You Should Consider Before Starting An Open Relationship

From swinging to polyamory, many people are now considering non-mongamous relationships.

Recently, the HuffPost Love+Sex Podcast explored ethical non-monogamy, which is consciously, with agreement and consent from all involved, exploring love and sex with multiple people.”

Professor of Human Sexuality Dr. Zhana Vrangalova chatted with HuffPost Love+Sex Podcast hosts Carina Kolodny and Noah Michelson about ethical non-monogamy and what anyone who is considering engaging in these kind of relationships should know. Listen to the podcast and check out some of Dr. Vrangalova’s advice below.

Here are 5 things to think about before entering an open relationship, according to Dr. Vrangalova:

1. Jealousy isn’t necessarily an inherently bad thing.
[Jealousy can be] a healthy emotion to keep track of yourself and your emotional health. There [are] definitely a lot of people who do experience it and it is something seen as constructive, just like any other emotion. Relationships often entail unpleasant or negative emotions — fighting, being sad, being angry, and jealousy is just one of those things.

In monogamous relationships, jealousy is often thought of as something that’s the end of the relationship — it’s seen as catastrophic. Poly people don’t see it as catastrophic — it’s just one other thing to work through because jealousy is a normal reaction to when your sense of self and stability is threatened. Kids feel it all the time. I showed my students this video in class where a baby who sees his mom play with a doll becomes very jealous, and suddenly, he gets very very upset, so it’s when you feel your attachment figure is not there and you need them for some reason and they disappear on you and you wouldn’t like that. It’s a normal reaction.

2. The ethical part of ethical “non-monogamy” is communicating about what you want and about what your limitations are with your partner.
People will feel comfortable with many different things. When you’re starting to open up your relationship you should think about what will make me comfortable and what is too much and threatening. But one thing that pretty much every couple or triad in a relationship has ever experienced is that these rules will change. You start out with a set of rules you think will work for you and some will work and some will not. You might end up thinking this will be easy — no problem — and then you might say, “Oh that hurts! Let’s not do that again.” And sometimes you think something will not feel OK and you try it and you’re like, “Oh that was no big deal! Sure!” So, be open to change and allow for that flexibility.

Also, people start with lots of rules because they need to protect their sense of self and relationship security, and over time they see this is not scary, it won’t end our relationship if I let my partner do these things with other people and they kind of get rid of the rules. All these things are important. Sexual health is another thing you should think about: what’s your level of comfort with sexually transmitted infections (STIs), what protection are you using with others, can your partner ever have unprotected sex and with whom and what needs to have happened before thats OK? You need to talk about all of this. Talk a lot.

3. Non-monogamy can affect your children — but not necessarily negatively
Swinging doesn’t have a lot of impact on children. It becomes more of an issue when we’re talking about poly families, when there are multiple romantic partners who are there, maybe living together and showing affection in the home in front of the children. However, having more people to take care of them, drive them to school or soccer practice or more people who can teach them different things, skills, hobbies, ask about math homework is positive. There’s also more time for the parents. Every now and then you need a break and if there’s someone else to care for kids you get more time for yourself and you can be happier and more satisfied. That’s a big question we still need a lot more research on, but initial research at least suggests things are not necessarily problematic.

4. Ethical non-monogamy doesn’t necessarily mean a greater risk of STIs
When you ask people about the differences and benefits and risks of monogamy versus non-monogamy, the risk of STIs is the single largest difference people think about. They think non-monogamists are extremely risky and monogamists have a very low risk for STIs. In a perfect world where monogamy was done perfectly, that’s probably true — there’s a higher risk with multiple partners. But in real world, the people who claim to be monogamous are often not monogamous, and when you compare rates of STIs among general monogamous relationships, they’re actually similar to non-monogamous people. Research shows that when monogamous people cheat, they’re less likely to use condoms, talk about sexual health history, testing, STIs, and more likely to do it drunk or high. So compared to people in non-monogamous relationships who are doing it openly and honestly — and there’s research to show that when they do use condoms, cheaters are more likely to make condom errors… People in non-monogamous relationships are usually very careful about this, condom carrying, using them, etc.

5. If you’re not ready to invite another person into your relationship, try dabbling in a “grey area.”
[There are many things you can do that are on the non-monogamy spectrum] like watching porn together or talking about meeting up with some other hot people you may have met or flirted with. Acknowledging that there are other people you may be attracted to but you’re not going to do anything with them is another possibility. Or maybe you want to try actually flirting with other people and allowing each other to flirt with other people. Or maybe if you feel comfortable going to a sex party, you can just watch. Or you could go to a sex party and just have sex with your partner without inviting anyone else. So, there are lots of different levels of non-monogamy, and things you could do and keep it mostly monogamous with no physical contact with anyone else, but still experiment.

If you want to download and/or listen to the podcast offline, head to iTunes or Stitcher.

And if you have ever been in an open relationship, head here to give your feedback on your experiences.

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10 Things To Consider When Hiring A Nanny

In early 2014, former live-in nanny Diane Stretton made headlines when she refused to move out of her former employer, Marcella Bracamonte’s, home. Marcella, a mother of three, claims she fired Diane for failing to perform the live-in nanny duties they had verbally agreed upon, but Diane alleges Marcella had grown overly demanding and that she was harassed and tortured during her employment. Watch as the women come face to face on Dr. Phil’s stage for the first time since Diane moved out.

Finding a caregiver for your family can be stressful. Dinah Hutson, owner of Hutson Nannies, offers these tips on how to avoid a nanny nightmare.

1. Consider finding a candidate through a nanny agency that has a solid reputation. Not only do most reputable agencies do all the leg work of vetting candidates for you and doing background checks, but they can also help you create a contract to govern the relationship and terms between you and your nanny, which can be a critical document.

2. Interview candidates thoroughly. Ask them specific questions that relate to your family. Find out what their past job duties were and if they are willing to do the tasks you are looking for help with. Talk about your parenting and discipline styles, and find out if the prospective nanny will agree to follow your lead.

3. Consider the candidate’s relevant childcare experience. Has this person actually been paid to care for a child before? A prospective nanny should have at least one year of cumulative prior experience as a paid childcare provider. Experience could be as a teacher, daycare provider, camp counselor or babysitter/nanny.

4. Get at least three childcare related references. These references should not be from family or friends — only from people who were your candidate’s supervisor, parents of children he/she previously cared for, or co-workers in a daycare center or similar position. If the candidate has no recent references, that’s a huge red flag. When checking references, be smart. Think like a detective, and do not give the reference any information up front. Ask the reference to give you the dates, duties, schedule, ages of the kids, etc. You want to make sure his/her story matches the prospective nanny’s.

5. Consider the candidate’s education and make sure it fits with your family’s needs. Many agencies require a high school diploma/GED, but a college degree or applicable professional certification is a plus. If it’s important that your nanny take on a teacher-like role, then the educational level of the person may be of consideration.

6. How would the candidate respond in an emergency? Find out if he/she is certified in pediatric CPR and First Aid. Make becoming certified in pediatric CPR/First Aid a prerequisite to employment.

7. Do a background check. A reputable agency will run a background check for you. If you are not using an agency, then it is advisable to run your own. The minimum most agencies do is a county and federal criminal check and a sex offender database check, so you ought to consider at least that. In addition, if the nanny is going to drive your child anywhere, you should also run a DMV check. And, if the nanny will handle your money/credit card, a credit check is a good idea. A drug test is also recommended.

8. Check the candidate’s legal status. A person can be a legal resident or in the United States with a visa, but that does not mean he or she is legal to work in the U.S. Ask the prospective nanny to prove their status by filling out an I-9, before offering a position.

9. Trust your instinct. If you don’t have a good feeling about someone — regardless of how they appear on paper or what former employers have said — don’t hire him/her. Likewise, if the candidate is inconsistent in communication, eg, not responding to texts or phone calls in a timely manner, consider that a red flag.

10. Arrange a trial day. If you’re not using a nanny agency, it may be a good idea to set up a playdate with the prospective nanny or have him/her shadow you for a day before you offer a position. It’s a good idea to see this person interact with your children to see if he or she is a good fit with your family.

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8 New Year’s Resolutions Every Family Should Consider Making

What do you wish for your family in 2015? Less yelling? More time together? A chaos-free home? Dr. Phil shares eight resolutions that every family should consider making.

1. Take inventory and prioritize.
If you want to turn chaos into harmony and rhythm in your household, you have to be willing to challenge everything. Nothing is sacred. You may have to change your lifestyle, rearrange your schedule or drop some of your commitments in order to fully benefit your family. Are your children involved in too many activities? Are you so busy you never have time alone with your spouse? Ask yourself what’s really important to you and your family.

2. Recognize what you’re doing to contribute to the problem.
You may be very loving and well-intended, but you could be making critical mistakes. Are you a control freak? Do you never say no even when you’re overscheduled? Do you ever have time to sit and enjoy your children? Think about what changes could start with you.

3. Learn to delegate.
Oftentimes, mothers take it all on themselves when their children are old enough to lend a helping hand. You can’t do everything. Divide up the labor and responsibilities so you’re not so worn out all the time. Give your kids specific tasks that they can each be responsible for. Your kids will appreciate it. It’ll make them feel helpful, and you’ll have more to give them in return.

4. Eat meals together as a family.
If everyone has a different schedule and you don’t ever gather together for a family meal, you are missing an important part of a cohesive family. Make a commitment to sit down for a family meal as often as you can. Everyone needs to get around the dinner table and talk about the day. Turn the TV and phones off, and turn the chaos down. You can enjoy this time together, laughing and talking.

5. Create family rituals.
Plan something fun for everyone to look forward to, like game night once a week. It can be a time to de-stress, decompress, relax and have fun together without the TV on or the phone ringing. Do your children like to bake? You could have a weekly baking night. Find special things to do every holiday or birthday. Your kids may roll their eyes, but they’ll be grateful for the time together.

6. Schedule family meetings.
Taking just a short amount of time to gather and calmly talk about the week, what’s coming, what’s expected, and to ask questions can really bond a family. It’s also a good time to organize the schedule, work out family problems and allow everyone to be heard.

7. Make each child feel special.
Make a commitment to have “dates” with each of your kids. Find one thing you can do that’s unique to each child that you don’t do with the other kids. While family time is critical, the time you spend with each child individually is also vital to who they become as adults.

8. Nurture your relationship with your spouse.
One of the most important things you can do for your children is to take care of the relationship between their mom and dad. Don’t stop being friends and lovers because you’ve become parents. Schedule in date night for just the two of you regularly in the new year. Remember why you fell in love in the first place.

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10 Hidden Wedding Costs You Probably Forgot To Consider

By Kellee Khalil for Lover.ly

When planning a wedding, it’s easy to think about your budget in terms of big ticket items: the dress, the venue, the flowers, the food and beverages. But it’s the little wedding-day extras that can really add up and put you over your intended budget. So before you come thousands of dollars short due to unexpected wedding costs, read on for the hidden fees you may have forgotten to add to your budget.

1. Postage. We’ve found that engaged couples make many trips to the post office! Wedding invitations often need extra postage due to their weight and shape. You also need to account for a stamp for each guest’s RSVP, thank you card, and save the date.

2. Service fees, tax, and gratuity. Read the fine print carefully on your catering contract; you’ll likely have to pay sales tax on your food and booze, and you may be on the hook for a 20 percent service fee and an 18 percent gratuity. That means if your venue has a $ 10,000 food and beverage minimum, an 8.25% sales tax plus service and gratuity could add another $ 4,635 to your final bill.

3. Tips. If gratuity isn’t included in a contract, etiquette still dictates that you give most vendors a tip of some sort. While the specifics will depend on how many vendors you use and whose contract includes gratuity, most couples should plan to tip the photographer, videographer, florist, musicians/DJ, driver, officiant and hair and makeup stylists.

4. Cake cutting fees. Many venues now either provide a wedding cake as part of their package or require that you work with a specific bakery. If your venue does allow you to bring your own cake, they may charge a cake cutting fee. So you can bring in a cake from your favorite baker or something your Aunt Betty whips up, but be prepared to spend $ 1-$ 3 per slice to have your venue’s staff cut the cake.

5. Table, chairs, and place settings rentals. Before you book your venue, find out what they provide in terms of furniture and serving ware. If they offer functional brown folding chairs and long, no-frills, brown banquet tables, you may find yourself wanting to upgrade. The same goes for linens, place settings, and glasses. It could cost you hundreds or even thousands of dollars to turn your budget venue’s offering into your dream wedding space.

6. Wedding gown alterations. Most brides who buy a dress in bridal salons have their dress altered to fit them perfectly…a cost that’s not included in the price of the gown. Expect to pay $ 200-$ 400, and ask your bridal salon about the cost of alterations before you hand over your credit card for the gown.

7. Hair and makeup trial runs. If you’re budgeting for professional hair and makeup services, be sure to account for the cost of any trial runs too. Doing a trial run makes a lot of sense — it’s a great way to make sure you and your stylist are on the same page regarding your look — but it can cost around $ 100 for each trial session. We suggest having your trials on the day of your bridal shower or engagement photo session; if you’re paying the fee, you might as well put that full face of makeup or gorgeous blowout to good use!

8. Travel and accommodations. It’s not uncommon for the engaged couple to stay at a hotel the night before their wedding, and often the bride will pay for her bridesmaids to stay with her. And if you’re not getting married in your city or town, you may have to make multiple trips the city where your wedding will be held to look at venues or meet with vendors. Be sure to consider these costs when deciding where you’ll be married.

9. Packaging and labels. As you envision your wedding favors, be sure to account for the cost of all the elements of the mini gift. A huge bottle of local honey might cost $ 50 at the farmers market…but the mini jars, kraft paper labels, and calligraphy pen you’ll need to make it look fancy could add another $ 50 to the project. So price out all the favor packaging before you commit to anything.

10. Shipping. One of the best things about being a modern bride is shopping for your wedding online. While bigger retailers typically offer deals on shipping, smaller retailers (like those selling packaging, paper products, decor, and other party supplies) often have surprisingly pricey shipping. For example, the website that gives you the best deal on bulk jars for your honey favors might also charge $ 15 to ship them. As you research these online, be sure to keep track of what they charge for shipping.

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