Night of the Living Dead (1990) – Tom Savini

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Night of the Living Dead (1990)

Tom Savini

Genre: Horror

Price: $ 4.99

Rental Price: $ 3.99

Release Date: October 19, 1990


It's a new night for terror – and a new dawn in horror movie-making when special-effects genius Tom Savini (creator of the spectacularly gruesome make-up in Friday the 13th and Creepshow) brings modern technology to this colorful remake of George A. Romero's 1968 cult classic. Seven strangers are trapped in an isolated farmhouse while cannibalistic zombies – awakened from death by the return of a radioactive space probe – wage a relentless attack, killing (and eating) everyone in their path. The classic for the 90s: graphic, gruesome and more terrifying than ever!

© © 1990 Columbia Pictures Industries, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

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Little Victories: Perfect Rules for Imperfect Living (Unabridged) – Jason Gay

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Little Victories: Perfect Rules for Imperfect Living (Unabridged)

Jason Gay

Genre: Comedy

Price: $ 17.95

Publish Date: November 3, 2015

© ℗ © 2015 Random House Audio

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Politics of Living – Kodaline

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Politics of Living

Kodaline

Genre: Alternative

Price: $ 9.99

Release Date: September 28, 2018

© ℗ 2018 B-Unique Records (UK) Limited under exclusive License to Sony Music Entertainment UK limited

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Living Room Worktapes – EP – Tenille Townes

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Living Room Worktapes – EP

Tenille Townes

Genre: Country

Price: $ 3.96

Release Date: April 13, 2018

© ℗ 2018 Sony Music Entertainment

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Sanaa Lathan is living the beauty of ‘Nappily Ever After’

Sanaa Lathan was ready for her role in her upcoming Netflix film, “Nappily Ever After.”


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Living the Dream (feat. Myles Kennedy & The Conspirators) – Slash

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Living the Dream (feat. Myles Kennedy & The Conspirators)

Slash

Genre: Rock

Price: $ 9.99

Release Date: September 21, 2018

© ℗ 2018 Snakepit Records, LLC under exclusive license to Roadrunner Records, Inc. for North America and South America.

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Young Scooter ft. Future & Young Thug “Trippple Cross,” Jim Jones ft. Eric Bellinger “Living My Best Life” & More | Daily Visuals 9.11.18

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It seems like Future and Young Thug are so attached at the hip that they’re even doing guest appearances together.

The 2018 Southern version of Red and Meth hop on Young Scooter’s visual to “Trippple Cross” where the trio hang with some masked goons that are holding an upside down American flag while strapped with explosives. How long before Trumpians lose their collective sh*t and begin to call for these men to get out of their Amerikkka?

On a lighter note Jim Jones leaves behind the concrete jungle for some fun in the sun and clear water beaches in his jealousy inducing clip to the Eric Bellinger assisted “Living My Best Life.” No Lil Duval cameo?

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YOUNG SCOOTER FT. FUTURE & YOUNG THUG – “TRIPPPLE CROSS”

JIM JONES FT. ERIC BELLINGER – “LIVING MY BEST LIFE”

CURREN$ Y FT. HARRY FRAUD – “SIXTY-SEVEN TURBO JET”

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Living Proof – Buddy Guy

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Living Proof

Buddy Guy

Genre: Blues

Price: $ 9.99

Release Date: October 26, 2010

© ℗ 2010 JIVE Records, a unit of Sony Music Entertainment

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Mason Ramsey Is Living A Dream Come True On ‘TRL’

Mason Ramsey, after coming to fame as the Walmart yodeling kid, sat down with ‘TRL’ host Sway Calloway to chat about the wild ride to putting out his ‘Famous’ EP.
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Michael Jordan Living That Tequila Life In NYC

Looks like Michael Jordan turned up on a Wednesday … ’cause the G.O.A.T. left his NYC hotel Thursday morning with half a bottle of tequila in one hand — and a box of booze in the other! What was he drinking? Seems to be a bottle of Tres Alegres…

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Living with the Monks (Unabridged) – Jesse Itzler

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Living with the Monks (Unabridged)

Jesse Itzler

Genre: Comedy

Price: $ 25.95

Publish Date: May 15, 2018

© ℗ © 2018 Hachette Audio

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Dying for a Living Boxset: Vol 2 – Kory M. Shrum

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Dying for a Living Boxset: Vol 2

Kory M. Shrum

Genre: Contemporary

Publish Date: January 16, 2018

Publisher: Kory M. Shrum

Seller: Smashwords, Inc.


Born with the power to come back to life repeatedly, Jesse works as a death surrogate. But homicide isn’t usually part of the job… Now she must solve her own murder and fend off a federal investigation in this “insanely addictive” thrill-ride (New York Times bestselling author Darynda Jones). Save over 30% with this four-book bundle – the perfect followup to the Dying for a Living Boxset Volume 1, which contained the first three installments of the Dying for a Living series. This boxset picks up with Dying Light, Book 4, where the first boxset left off. If you like fantasy superstars like Darynda Jones, Chloe Neill and Charlaine Harris, you'll enjoy this series too. Purchase your copy today and find out how the series ends!

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A Life Worth Living – Rush Sturges


A Life Worth Living
Rush Sturges

Release Date:
August 14, 2016
Total Songs:
12

Genre:
Hip-Hop/Rap

Price:
$ 9.99

Copyright
℗ 2016 River Roots Records


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Mike ”The Situation” Sorrentino Plans to Set a ”Good Example” for Sober Living on Jersey Shore

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Living Among Us – Brian Metcalf

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Living Among Us

Brian Metcalf

Genre: Horror

Price: $ 12.99

Rental Price: $ 4.99

Release Date: February 2, 2018


Vampires have just made themselves public! A group of documentary filmmakers have been invited to spend time with them and learn how they live. But as reality sets in, the crew realizes they are in for far more than they bargained for.

© © 2017 Red Compass Media, Inc.

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Jozy Altidore Claps Back at Trump: This ‘Shithole’s’ Living the Dream!

“Three shithole dudes just living the dream.”  That’s how Team U.S.A. soccer stud Jozy Altidore captioned his Instagram pic with Usain Bolt and P.K. Subban this weekend in the wake of Donald Trump’s comments.  The 3 superstars…

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Danladi Was An Unrepentant Proponent Of The Idea Of Living Together Before Marriage

Several years past, then I got wind my friend Danladi was in Taiwan. I tried to locate him and find out whether he had re-discovered the meaning of true love and refashioned his old ideas about love and romance.
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Living on Soul – Jeff Broadway Broadway & Cory Bailey Bailey

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Living on Soul

Jeff Broadway Broadway & Cory Bailey Bailey

Genre: Documentary

Price: $ 12.99

Rental Price: $ 4.99

Release Date: November 15, 2017


LIVING ON SOUL is a hybrid docu-concert film featuring the late Sharon Jones, Charles Bradley and the rest of the Daptone Records family. Filmed largely during Daptone’s December 2014 three-night, sold-out residency at the historic Apollo Theater, the documentary features a mixture of live performances and verité scenes that paint a robust picture of the Daptone family and culture. Not since James Brown’s legendary residencies in the ‘70s has Harlem’s Apollo Theater played host to such an event.

© © 2017 LIVING ON SOUL, LLC

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Blink-182 Plays Unplugged in Living Room For Steve Aoki’s 40th Bday

[[tmz:video id=”0_tosb7dnn”]] Blink-182 and Steve Aoki are both known for playing loud music to packed crowds, so seeing the band unplug for Aoki in a living room with only about 100 others is quite the sight. Aoki turns 40 Thursday, so Blink…

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Orgy In My Living Room

Jake and I invited two of our favorite couples over for some hot group sex. We spent several hours fucking the night away with Julie and her husband Jon and Nicolette and her hubby Jake. It was so hot getting fucked by all three guys on the same night.

I started out by fucking Nicolette’s husband, then mine, and finally I had my pussy pounded by Julie’s man. There was so much fucking going on that it was difficult keeping track of who was fucking who. One thing I do know for sure is that all three of the girls were fucked by all three of the guys at some point during the night!

This is definitely one party I cant wait to host again. Jake and I were just talking about when wed be able to invite these four over for another all night fuck fest. Until then I guess well just have to watch the video again.

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Jake and I invited two of our favorite couples over for some hot group sex. We spent several hours fucking the night away with Julie and her husband Jon and Nicolette and her hubby Jake. It was so hot getting fucked by all three guys on the same night.

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The Return of the Living Dead – Dan O’Bannon

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The Return of the Living Dead

Dan O’Bannon

Genre: Horror

Price: $ 4.99

Rental Price: $ 3.99

Release Date: April 28, 2003


Two employees of a medical supply company accidentally release a toxic gas that raises up the dead. Soon the town is overrun with flesh-eating residents of the local cemetery who are hungry…for human brains.

© © 1984 CINEMA ’84, A GREENBERG BROTHERS PARTNERSHIP. All Rights Reserved

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The Only Living Boy In New York – Marc Webb

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The Only Living Boy In New York

Marc Webb

Genre: Drama

Price: $ 14.99

Release Date: August 11, 2017


Adrift in New York City, a recent college graduate seeks the guidance of an eccentric neighbor as his life is upended by his father’s mistress in this witty coming-of-age story.

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How to Make It in the New Music Business: Practical Tips on Building a Loyal Following and Making a Living as a Musician (Unabridged) – Ari Herstand

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How to Make It in the New Music Business: Practical Tips on Building a Loyal Following and Making a Living as a Musician (Unabridged)

Ari Herstand

Genre: Arts & Entertainment

Price: $ 23.95

Publish Date: December 6, 2016

© ℗ © 2016 HighBridge, a division of Recorded Books

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All five living former Presidents to reunite for Hurricane relief concert

George H.W. Bush, George W. Bush, Jimmy Carter, Bill Clinton and Barack Obama are coming together for a good cause.
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Living Will

I hate the idea of going under the knife. So I was very upset when the doctor told me I needed a tonsillectomy. Later, the nurse and I were filling
out an admission form. I tried to respond to the questions, but I was so nervous I couldn’t speak.

The nurse patted my hand and said, “Don’t worry. This medical problem can easily be fixed, and it’s not a dangerous procedure.”

“You’re right. I’m being silly,” I said, “please continue.”

“Good,” the nurse went on, “Now, do you have a living will?”

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THE GIRL LIVING ALONE (136 ALL COLOR PAGES) – Koichiro Matsushita

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THE GIRL LIVING ALONE (136 ALL COLOR PAGES)

Koichiro Matsushita

Genre: Other

Publish Date: October 30, 2015

Publisher: Koichiro Matsushita

Seller: KOICHIRO MATSUSHITA


This is a heartwarming and humorous story set in the 1980s of a 9-year old girl who has no family living on the tourist island of Enoshima in Kanagawa Prefecture, Japan.  She won't let poverty beat her and lives with a positive attitude doing the best that she can everyday. Overview ・136 full color pages ・Four panel comic ・This comic book is read in the same style as a book, that is left to right.

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Amplified And Orbital: Queens Of The Stone Age’s Josh Homme On Living In The Moment

Queens of the Stone Age, led by Josh Homme (center). The band

The band’s frontman and founder talks to Kelly McEvers about being “a now-ist,” working with Mark Ronson and Iggy Pop and the dancey sound on the band’s new record, Villains.

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Artist Perfectly Captures The Intimate Magic Of Living Alone

“It’s healthy to be around others, but it’s also healthy to be comfortable enough to spend time by yourself.”
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Apartments are getting smaller and smaller. To combat this ever shrinking urban dilemma, a company called ORI is building modular, movable and totally automatic furniture for people who live in cramped quarters.
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Living Colour

If you’ve been waiting for just the right musical statement to reflect your mood, hopes and mal humor, Living Colour’s crunchy guitars and heavy funk just might be it.

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LIVING THINGS – LINKIN PARK

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LIVING THINGS

LINKIN PARK

Genre: Alternative

Price: $ 11.99

Release Date: June 20, 2012

© ℗ 2012 Warner Bros. Records Inc.

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‘Cost of Living’: Theater Review


The lives of four lonely people, two of them physically challenged, intersect in Martyna Majok’s drama, ‘Cost of Living.’

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Night of the Living Dead – George A. Romero

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Night of the Living Dead

George A. Romero

Genre: Horror

Price: $ 12.99

Rental Price: $ 2.99

Release Date: January 1, 1968


"One of the 20 Scariest Movies of All Time" (Entertainment Weekly), George A. Romero's Night of the Living Dead still sets the standard for all indie fright flicks. This 40th Anniversary Edition, authorized by the director himself, reanimates the landmark tale of five strangers who struggle desperately against hordes of the walking undead. Re-mastered and loaded with all-new Special Features, Night of the Living Dead remains "a bona fide classic..still very scary after all these years" (Jason Jones, Classic-Horror.com).

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Paddle Your Own Canoe: One Man’s Fundamentals for Delicious Living (Unabridged) – Nick Offerman

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Paddle Your Own Canoe: One Man’s Fundamentals for Delicious Living (Unabridged)

Nick Offerman

Genre: Arts & Entertainment

Price: $ 20.95

Publish Date: October 1, 2013

© ℗ © 2013 Penguin Audio

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#SocialGathering: Tina Knowles Is Living Her Best Life; Capitol Hill Reporter Fashions Paper Into Sleeves to Appease Congress Dress Code


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Dying for a Living Boxset – Kory M. Shrum

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Dying for a Living Boxset

Kory M. Shrum

Genre: Fantasy

Price: $ 0.99

Publish Date: April 12, 2015

Publisher: Kory M. Shrum

Seller: Smashwords


This boxset includes the first three novels in the Dying for a Living series, for one lower price. Books Dying Light (Book 4) and Worth Dying For (Book 5) are not included. Called "addictive" by New York Times Bestseller Darynda Jones, fans of contemporary and urban fantasy will enjoy seeing snarky Sullivan resist the mantle of hero when called upon to save the world. Description of Dying for a Living (Book 1) On the morning before her 67th death, it is business as usual for Jesse Sullivan: meet with the mortician, counsel soon-to-be-dead clients, and have coffee while reading the latest regeneration theory. Jesse dies for a living, literally. As a Necronite, she is one of the population's rare 2% who can serve as a death replacement agent, dying so others don't have to. Although each death is different, the result is the same: a life is saved, and Jesse resurrects days later with sore muscles, new scars, and another hole in her memory. But when Jesse is murdered and becomes the sole suspect in a federal investigation, more than her freedom and sanity are at stake. She must catch the killer herself–or die trying. Description of Dying by the Hour (Book 2) After 83 deaths, Jesse Sullivan knows how to die. As a Necronite, she is one of the population's rare 2% who can serve as a death replacement agent, dying so others don't have to. But using her NRD to save lives is why she's being hunted. For Ally Gallagher, death is permanent. If she fails to protect Jesse again, there will be no third attempt. After a quiet year the signs of serious danger have returned. People connected to Jesse are disappearing. Her home is vandalized and threatening messages are turning up in the safest of places. Then Jesse is taken and Ally has only hours to get her back. But no salvation comes without its price. Description of Dying for Her (Book 3) As he counts down the days until he dies, veteran detective James T. Brinkley struggles to keep his imminent death a secret from one of the only people who can save him – Jesse Sullivan, a replacement agent with the rare ability to die, then resurrect. But every replacement is dangerous, leaving Jesse more vulnerable each time. It's his job to protect her and he will do whatever it takes to keep her safe. They are outmatched by the sadist who hunts them and the detective must search his dark past for clues and a way to save their future. However, Brinkley has exhausted his options and buried his closest friends. If he cannot be saved, his only wish is to prepare Jesse for the danger she must face without him.

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Avril Lavigne and Ryan Cabrera Are Living Together After His Split With Girlfriend

Avril Lavigne and Ryan Cabrera’s multiple outings together make that much more sense now—they’re roommates!

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Teen Describes ‘Living Hell’ With Couple Now Serving 20 Years In Prison

After police hauled away Jeff and Sandra Weller from their upscale suburban home in Washington where they lived with their six kids, what was discovered behind closed doors was nothing short of a living nightmare. Some of the kids, including Sandra Weller’s adopted twins, were brutally beaten with a piece of lumber that was referred to as “the board,” the refrigerator was locked to restrict their food, cameras monitored their every move, and they were locked in their rooms with no electricity, according to court documents. The couple was found guilty in 2013 and each of them is serving a 20-year prison sentence.

Now 18 years old, Ian, who is Jeff Weller’s biological son, speaks out for the first time and describes what he endured in the video above.

Why do Ian’s mom and stepdad say Child Protective Services failed to protect these kids after numerous calls to them? And how will the victims move forward? Watch Wednesday’s episode of Dr. Phil, “Adopted Twin Beaten, Strangled, Starved and Locked in a Room: The Exclusive Interview” — check local listings here.

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Living with Autism – Rajneesh Bhandari

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Living with Autism

Rajneesh Bhandari

Genre: Art & Architecture

Publish Date: June 13, 2012

Publisher: Rajneesh Bhandari

Seller: Rajneesh Bhandari


Living With Autism, an iPad book is all about autism—a lifelong neuro-developmental disorder and the way it has shaped the lives of hundreds and thousands of children and parents across globe including Nepal. The United Nations has said that autism is growing as a global health crisis. But many people in Nepal yet don’t know about autism because of lack of o awareness programs.  It will look into these issues in five sections with the use of infographics, photos, video, text and social media element. This is the first iPad Book from Nepal produced by iBooks Author. 

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Joe Moses Enjoys The Good Life In New Visual “We Living”

Joe Moses hit us with the first single and video “We Living” from his surprise street album “From Nothing To Something 3”. Watch below!

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Living For the Future – Mike Blankenship

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Living For the Future

Mike Blankenship

Genre: R&B/Soul

Price: $ 9.99

Release Date: October 13, 2015

© ℗ 2015 JAB Step Music

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Living Among Men

I can’t imagine being a woman living among men. It sounds horrible. For starters, there’s a stat that 20% of women in college will be sexually assaulted. Apparently it is dangerous for women to be around men … in general.

Contrast that with being a guy. When I encounter a dangerous situation, my first thought is to feel sorry for my future attacker. I’m smallish, so I calculate that once I get him down I’ll have to finish the job so he doesn’t get up again. I feel sorry for my would-be attacker even before I kill him in my imagination.

I didn’t say I manage risk well. I’m just saying I don’t feel as if I am in physical danger from other humans, at least in normal situations. That’s just one advantage of being a guy.

As a man, I have no memory of ever being afraid just because I was alone and in the wrong place. And I lived in a high-crime area in San Francisco for years. I figured my worst-case scenario was getting mugged and losing my decoy wallet and the $ 20 I kept in it. But I only got mugged on the street once. And my apartment only got ransacked and robbed once. My Plymouth Colt, parked on the street, was less lucky, losing its driver-side window and stereo three times. It was that sort of neighborhood. Still, I never felt I was in great danger. I can’t imagine how the women living in that neighborhood felt. That must have been scary.

I belong to a gym, and I noticed that men are able to look up, and look around, and generally enjoy the visual totality of the room they are in. But women have to look down, or at a fixed spot, to avoid eye contact with the men in the gym. I assume any show of friendliness results in unwanted conversations and a ruined workout. If I were a woman, I would never go to a gym if I could not make eye contact with the other people. What must that be like? I can’t even imagine.

If I were a woman, I would feel like a victim, or potential victim, 24-hours a day. I guess people can get used to anything, but I’m glad that isn’t on my list of things to worry about.

My question for the men: Do you ever feel in physical danger from other people?

My question for women: How often are you afraid of danger (from men) during a normal day?

Update: On a related topic, I favor legal gun ownership as a psychological defense against the health stress caused by the bullies, sexual offenders, and psychos living among us. I acknowledge the trade-offs and risks of legal gun ownership and regret every unnecessary gun casualty. But on the plus side, I never want to feel afraid of anyone whose address I can find. That country doesn’t work for me.

I wonder what the rate of bullying is in England compared to America. If we don’t know that difference, and why, then the math of gun control is not yet complete. Bullying ruins lives too. I’m not saying that should be the single biggest factor in gun control, but without that data, how can you form a complete opinion?


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Inside A Bitter Divorce: Suburban Housewife Says She Fears Living Under A Bridge

 An all-new season of Dr. Phil premieres September 14!  Watch a preview here.

Leslie, once a suburban housewife and mother of two, is now divorced and on a mission to get money she claims her ex, Nelson, owes her. She believes that when she and Nelson divorced four years ago, he hid large sums of money from her in a deliberate attempt to leave her destitute.

“I’m angry about being treated the way I was treated,” says Leslie. “I’m angry about getting screwed. I know that Nelson cheated me out of money. He needs to pay up.”

She also claims Nelson was abusive and controlling throughout their 22-year marriage, claims Nelson absolutely denies, saying, “He put me through hell,” and calling him “a lying, conniving sociopath.”

Of $ 300,000 she says she got in their divorce settlement, she says she has about $ 100,000 left. “I’m afraid of ending up under a bridge like an old lady,” she cries.

Nelson denies misrepresenting his finances during the divorce and that he was abusive. “From the time I filed for divorce until the divorce ultimately was granted in 2011, I supported Leslie 100 percent financially,” he says, claiming she would come home late at night, he says after gambling. “She would just throw open the door screaming at me demanding money. It was very frightening … Leslie’s behavior felt like a wild animal was loose in the house.” Nelson says Leslie has refused to look for work and lives solely off alimony.

“There was constant fighting. There were disagreements. There was no satisfaction in the marriage,” he says of what led to their divorce. “It was the constant feeling that I was always chasing after something that would satisfy Leslie and no matter what I did, the mark or the bar would change. And I could just never do anything that would make Leslie happy.”

Watch the video above as the exes share their respective points of view, and tune in to Wednesday’s episode of Dr. Phil to find out how Dr. Phil suggests Leslie can get “the best revenge,” and how the couple can move forward in peace.

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Living Colour’s Vernon Reid, Corey Glover & Black Rock Coalition Celebrate ’30 Years in 30 Days’

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Zombies vs The Living Dead – Frank Tayell

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Zombies vs The Living Dead

Surviving The Evacuation

Frank Tayell

Genre: Science Fiction

Publish Date: September 27, 2013

Publisher: Frank Tayell

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The prequel short story to the Post-Apocalyptic series ‘Surviving The Evacuation’. Book 4: Unsafe Haven out now. (15,000 words) Synopsis: The outbreak began in New York. Within days it had spread throughout the world. Nowhere is safe from the undead. Britain is under quarantine. Curfews, rationing and martial law have been implemented, but it’s not enough. An evacuation of all the indefensible inland regions has been planned. The entire population will be relocated to enclaves being established around the coast. To get there, they will have to walk. For George Tull, Mary O’Leary and the other residents of the Waverly-Price Retirement Home, walking to the coast is not an option. They wait for rescue, but when it becomes clear that they have been abandoned, George is left with a terrible choice; stay and fight to save the people he loathes, or leave and abandon the woman he has come to love.

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Rain: Rise of the Living Dead – Shaun Harbinger

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Rain: Rise of the Living Dead

Shaun Harbinger

Genre: Science Fiction

Publish Date: February 10, 2014

Publisher: Harbinger of Horror

Seller: Draft2Digital, LLC


The closest Alex Harley has ever been to a zombie is on his game console.  Trapped in a dead end job and spending  his weekends gaming, Alex is coasting through life at his own pace. But one fateful weekend, he agrees to go hiking with his pal Mike. Mike’s girlfriend, Elena, is bringing her friend Lucy along and that is good enough reason for Alex to endure gruelling hikes along a mountain range in Wales. The day the four friends hit the mountains, the outbreak begins. Day Z has arrived. Alex’s radio receives mysterious reports of savage attacks in London before switching to the Emergency Broadcast System. The dead are rising, and the living must fight for survival. Fighting hordes of zombies and avoiding army patrols, Alex and his friends must reach the coast, and the safety of the sea. But then their problems will just begin…

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Living the Fantasy – Joshua Adler

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Living the Fantasy

Joshua Adler

Genre: Documentary

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Release Date: January 1, 2015


Watch as amateurs become professionals and take you deep into the high stakes, high pressure, number crunching, world of weekly fantasy football in this edge of your seat documentary narrated by sports enthusiast Michael Rappaport. What began with just a few friends playing on a pad and paper has transformed into a gambling juggernaut, with players from all across the world competing for the top spots and top prizes. Millionaires are made, dreams are crushed and lives defined as the fantasy of owning a fantasy football team becomes a daily reality with just a few dollars needed to invest in Living the Fantasy.

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Judge Joe Brown — I Was Living Like a Slave … Jail Sentence Ends

Judge Joe Brown’s back on the outside after spending 5 days in what he calls “slave quarters.” The ex-TV judge completed his sentence in Memphis Tuesday morning, and ripped the jail experience. JB told People, “Jail’s jail. It’s boring, it’s dirty, but I…

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Living Dead in Dallas: Sookie Stackhouse Southern Vampire Mystery #2 (Unabridged) – Charlaine Harris

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Living Dead in Dallas: Sookie Stackhouse Southern Vampire Mystery #2 (Unabridged)

Charlaine Harris

Genre: Sci Fi & Fantasy

Price: $ 17.95

Publish Date: January 1, 2008

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Britney Spears Is Living ‘The Mermaid Life’ In Latest Instagram Photo

Britney Spears already has magical mermaid hair, but now she has a tail to match.

The singer shared a photo on Instagram of herself dressed in a shimmering mermaid’s tail while hanging poolside with her adorable sons. The performer paired her blue tail with a striped blue-and-white bikini top, and her pastel blue locks are seen cascading over her shoulders. 

The mother of two captioned the pic “The mermaid life.” 

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Brit is just the latest celebrity to try a tail on for size. Kim and Kourtney Kardashian recently shared photos of their little ones, North West and Penelope Disick, donning similar mermaid outfits while on vacation in St. Barts.

The magic of mermaids transcends age.

 

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Living My Dream – Jonathan Butler

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Living My Dream

Jonathan Butler

Genre: Smooth Jazz

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Release Date: June 24, 2014

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The Zombie Survival Guide: Complete Protection from the Living Dead (Unabridged) – Max Brooks

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The Zombie Survival Guide: Complete Protection from the Living Dead (Unabridged)

Max Brooks

Genre: Sci Fi & Fantasy

Price: $ 17.95

Publish Date: September 12, 2006

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Living Legend – Gunplay

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Living Legend

Gunplay

Genre: Hip-Hop/Rap

Price: $ 9.99

Release Date: July 31, 2015

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Living by the Odds

I like to live my life by the odds. 

For example, I don’t often ride a bicycle because the risk of injury is high while the enjoyment can be matched by safer activities. For most of my sporting life I played tennis because it offers a good exercise-to-injury ratio. Even distance running is less safe.

As a result of my safety bias, and luck too, I have never had a sporting injury of any major consequence. Today, I really, really want to own a motorcycle. But I don’t like the odds. So I don’t.

When I was young, my mother brainwashed me on the importance of education for escaping my low-income life. I was taught that paying attention in class and doing all of my homework would be enough to make my life better, and I’m sure it did. Authority figures told me what I needed to do to improve my odds, and in nearly every case I did exactly that.

I also follow the odds with diet and fitness. That was problematic in my youth because a lot of what I learned about diet and exercise as a kid was completely wrong. I followed all the good advice of the time and found it challenging to keep weight off. Today I follow the scientific guidelines for diet and exercise – which are probably a lot better than in the past – and my results are shocking. I’m in the best shape of my life, by far, as I cruise into my senior citizen years, and I use nothing like “willpower” to get it done. I did not see that coming.

Career-wise, I also pursued the odds as I saw them. But here things get complicated with my “white male privilege” which clearly helped as well. So I won’t compare my situation to anyone else’s except to say that whatever your starting point is, playing the odds probably helps.

For my career, I consciously played the odds in the following simple ways:

1. Upon graduating college I moved from Windham NY, population 2,000, to San Francisco to improve my career odds. An ex-girlfriend lived in San Francisco but I had no other ties there.

2. I took an entry-level job (teller) at Crocker Bank because at the time they were the technology leader in banking and a big deal in California. I went where the energy and money was. I figured I could work my way up from the bottom and learn along the way.

3. I was agnostic about what types of jobs I did so long as they taught me something that improved my odds for something better, no matter what that better thing was. I saw my corporate days as a practical education for whatever I would later do on my own.

4. I took advantage of every free educational offering from my company. When my employer offered to pay for any kind of useful class, I signed up. The bank even paid for most of my MBA classes at Berkeley while I went to school at night. And they paid for me to take the Dale Carnegie course to become an accomplished speaker. The learning opportunities were incredible.

I was not only becoming smarter and more capable in a general way, but many of the skill combinations made me unique in a financially valuable way. For example, I worked in the bank during the dawn of the personal computing era, and I was among the first to learn how to use an IBM PC (on my own time). As quaint as this sounds in retrospect, few bankers were technologically savvy, and since I was, I stood out. It helped on a few promotions for sure.

5. I stayed single and child-free, intentionally, to keep my mobility high during my important early career days. Staying out of jail helped too.

6. I took LOTS of risks with side projects that I hoped would grow into something good. But in each case the risk was one of embarrassment, lost sleep, and wasted time. If one thing did not work out, I would simply move to the next. Dilbert was my first side project that worked.

Most of you would see the success of Dilbert as good luck. And it was. But financially it was probably bad luck because I was a young, ambitious, white, highly-educated man with an entrepreneurial personality living on the edge of Silicon Valley. My best guess is that if cartooning had not worked out, I would have cashed out of a few start-ups by now and would be far richer.

There is little about my story that could be directly applied to a young person today. For example, I doubt you could become a bank teller today and afford to rent a windowless bedroom in San Francisco, as I did. My story is about following the odds, not creating a template that anyone else can follow.

My question to you today is simple. Do you know anyone who played the odds the way I did (with their own variations, in their own time) and found that life did not work out well?

Obviously people have health issues and tragedies that are beyond their control. But I can’t think of anyone in my experience who followed the odds and got a bad result unless they got hit by a car or some other random tragedy visited.

Is there anyone reading this blog who was as dedicated to following the odds as I was and yet things did not work out for you? 

Scott

Bonus Thought: My sister told me a story the other day. She graduated high school as Valedictorian and planned to become a scientist until an authority figure in her life informed her that “science isn’t a job.” So she got a major in art and became a teacher. Because science isn’t a fucking job? (The authority figure did not say “for a woman” but I think it was implied.)

This brings us to the question of why more girls do not pursue science and technology jobs. The solution probably involves a thousand small steps, but one of those steps might include the games kids play. See Tamra Teig’s sportlight on a start-up called Build and Imagine and how they plan to make better games for girls. I don’t know if this will make a difference, but it can’t hurt.

Note: I am not an investor in the start-up mentioned but I like to put a spotlight on Berkeley-related start-ups that are doing something good.


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How Living Apart Has Made My Spouse And Me Closer Than Ever

Nearly five miles into a Smoky Mountain hike, with family vacation nearing a close, we discussed the next time we would see each other. As we did, a rain-fed stream cascaded beneath the short, wooden footbridge on which we paused to admire butterflies swirling, dancing and darting in a half-dozen hues.

One year after my wife moved 800 miles east for a great opportunity with her long-time employer, we planned our next moments together. The butterflies’ delightful interaction drew some of our attention amidst the majestic mountain terrain and our discussion. Still, even with this distraction, we maintained focus on what really matters.

“I think we’ve spent more real time together in the past year than we had in many years,” Cathy proffered as we walked and planned. “Before, there was always tomorrow.”

During 27 years of marriage, we had long passed the point of taking each other for granted. It didn’t help that we worked opposite schedules for so many years — becoming almost alternating parents. Her nights and weekends in retail often came during the limited hours I wasn’t working or traveling for work. In the unusual hours when we were both together and electronically disconnected from any real or perceived work crisis, we focused on quality time with our children rather than with each other.

In the past year, we’ve made a conscious effort to change that focus. Every three to four weeks, we find somewhere to enjoy time together. Even when those gatherings include our adult children or others, we focus on each other in a way we seem to have missed for many years.

A hand to hold is more important when you know it won’t be there tomorrow. A hug is easier to treasure when the next one is three weeks away.

Looking back, it’s easy to see we didn’t put enough effort into our relationship. It’s also easy to find excuses. Workaholic behavior. Exhaustion from my untreated sleep apnea. Disagreements allowed to remain in roiling boil rather than confronted and settled directly. Treating compromise as lose-lose rather than win-win.

Those excuses don’t matter now.

Time matters. Connection matters. Love matters.

During our first year of living apart, we’ve managed to strengthen our marriage; an outcome I wasn’t sure would happen when the year started. Increased flexibility and adaptability aided our strengthening.

A year ago, I would have laughed if you had predicted my wife would join me on a strenuous five-mile mountain hike, but she did just that in the Smokies. She would have also bet that at least one piece of the Ikea furniture I voluntarily spent three days assembling for her New York apartment would have collapsed by now. I’m no longer annoyed at losing time to her passion for judging figure skating, in part because she only does it on weekends I’m not around. She’s no longer annoyed to come home after a long day at work to find the house in greater disorder than when she left. When she comes home from work, her apartment is exactly as she left it.

It doesn’t mean it’s always easy to be apart. When three weeks stretches into four or more, I sometimes struggle to remain upbeat. On these occasions, I remind myself that at least some studies show “absence makes the heart grow fonder” to be more than a platitude. As our next time together approaches, marking one year apart, I can feel the validity in that phrase.

Butterflies kick in — swirling, dancing and darting in the range of hues I felt when we first met. One year apart but, perhaps, closer than ever.

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Ask Yourself This To Start Living The Life You Imagined

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself: “How much of my life is what I had in mind?” In the “Tip of the Day” video above, Dr. Phil suggests you call “time-out” to assess if your priorities are truly reflected in your lifestyle. For example, if you value peace and health, are you living that way, or is your life filled with chaos instead? Are you starting to work for the things you don’t want instead of the things that you do? Make priority lists, and if you catch yourself spending time on something that’s not on the list, ask yourself: “Why is this absorbing time, and effort and energy in my life?” Dr. Phil suggests: “Pick one thing each week that you want to change to make your life better. Focus on that for those seven days and see if it doesn’t make a difference.”

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Ask Yourself This To Start Living The Life You Imagined

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself: “How much of my life is what I had in mind?” In the “Tip of the Day” video above, Dr. Phil suggests you call “time-out” to assess if your priorities are truly reflected in your lifestyle. For example, if you value peace and health, are you living that way, or is your life filled with chaos instead? Are you starting to work for the things you don’t want instead of the things that you do? Make priority lists, and if you catch yourself spending time on something that’s not on the list, ask yourself: “Why is this absorbing time, and effort and energy in my life?” Dr. Phil suggests: “Pick one thing each week that you want to change to make your life better. Focus on that for those seven days and see if it doesn’t make a difference.”

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My Husband Was Living in the Wrong Body

My husband has felt like he was living in the wrong body for as long as he can remember. As a little boy, he always wanted to be a girl. He wanted to wear girls’ clothes and have long hair that could be styled in curls and pinned back with pink plastic barrettes. He wanted to roll strawberry lip gloss onto his lips. He wanted to be pretty.

My husband mustered up the courage to share this innermost part of himself with me back in 1984, one year after we got married. As a young bride, I was confused and did not understand what was wrong with him. I was angry and hurt that he would have such desires. I hoped he wasn’t a sexual deviant. I wondered why being married to me and starting a new life wasn’t enough for him. I simply did not know about a condition known as gender dysphoria. My husband was at odds with his birth gender. At the time, we had no resources. There was no Internet to turn to. His secret had become ours, and we continued wrestling with his unexplained desire to dress as a woman, a need so great it was unstoppable.

Our marriage became one that had two stories. One story was the story of success shown to the outside world — the story that unfolds with two beautiful sons, accomplished careers, vacations, cars and the house on the hill. And then there is the other story, a private tale of confusion, hurt feelings and resentment. There are chapters of our marriage when my husband’s desire to cross-dress was too great not to act out on, followed by dark periods of depression for having to live a life that felt wrong; times when I was threatened as a wife by the woman inside of my husband; moments when I was angry at this inner woman that dwelled within him, and lashed out at him because I didn’t know how to get to her. We had a story that was kept private, unable to share with the outside world.

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After 25 years of marriage, our two stories had become blurry and it had become emotionally draining to keep the narratives defined. Our worlds were changing, and more information regarding gender dysphoria and transgender individuals had become available. I was able to understand better that there was nothing wrong with me, or with us. The only thing wrong was that my husband strongly felt he was a woman, and that fact was slowly destroying his spirit. The need to be a woman had become too great.

Together, we decided to rewrite our marriage and to live one true story. We agreed that my husband would transition fully into a woman. In the last three years, the husband that I married revolved into a woman with the use of hormones and surgery. It has been a whirlwind of couples therapy, legal papers and name changes. There have been many conversations with friends, coworkers and family members, both positive and negative. It has been a time of many changes.

My life as the wife of a transgender person is a roller coaster. There are many ups and downs, yet not once have I felt like I want to get off this ride. I am still in love with the person I married back in 1984. A person who today is a she. She has transitioned successfully into a woman both physically and emotionally. Most importantly, she is who she is today, and because of that, I have witnessed true joy in the person I’ve grown a life with — a person whose blue eyes shine because she feels right in her own skin.

Our story is still being written, and is far from over. This essay is just a blurb to the deeper story. There are more words to come. Words of how I feel as the wife. Words of love and acceptance as well as words of complicated grief while I stood by the person I married and wanted more than anything to have this story finish with a happy ending. Words I will write that will continue to tell our story, our one true story, for the world to see.

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Fred 2: Night of the Living Fred – John Fortenberry

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Fred 2: Night of the Living Fred

John Fortenberry

Genre: Comedy

Price: $ 9.99

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Release Date: October 22, 2011


Fred Figglehorn (Lucas Cruikshank), is back in an all-new movie adventure, and his life has gone from kooky to spooky. Fred’s beloved music teacher, Mrs. Felson, has mysteriously disappeared, and Fred is convinced that her replacement, Mr. Devlin, has a secret life – as a vampire! And to make matters worse, Mr. Devlin is dating Fred’s mom! With the help of his awesome dad (WWE superstar John Cena) and his friends Bertha (Daniella Monet from "Victorious") and Talia (Ariel Winter from "Modern Family"), Fred begins a weird and wildly comic quest to expose Mr. Devlin’s true identity –before he turns Fred’s cul-de-sac into a community of bloodsuckers!

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Living with Autism

Rajneesh Bhandari

Genre: Art & Architecture

Publish Date: June 13, 2012

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Living With Autism, an iPad book is all about autism—a lifelong neuro-developmental disorder and the way it has shaped the lives of hundreds and thousands of children and parents across globe including Nepal. The United Nations has said that autism is growing as a global health crisis. But many people in Nepal yet don’t know about autism because of lack of o awareness programs.  It will look into these issues in five sections with the use of infographics, photos, video, text and social media element. This is the first iPad Book from Nepal produced by iBooks Author. 

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Living Proof

Buddy Guy

Genre: Blues

Price: $ 9.99

Release Date: October 26, 2010

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Dying for a Living

Dying for a Living, no. 1

Kory M. Shrum

Genre: Fantasy

Publish Date: September 3, 2014

Publisher: Kory M. Shrum

Seller: Smashwords


On the morning before her 67th death, it is business as usual for Jesse Sullivan: meet with the mortician, counsel soon-to-be-dead clients, and have coffee while reading the latest regeneration theory. Jesse dies for a living, literally. As a Necronite, she is one of the population’s rare 2% who can serve as a death replacement agent, dying so others don’t have to. Although each death is different, the result is the same: a life is saved, and Jesse resurrects days later with sore muscles, new scars, and another hole in her memory. But when Jesse is murdered and becomes the sole suspect in a federal investigation, more than her freedom and sanity are at stake. She must catch the killer herself—or die trying.

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The Living Night: Part One of a Contemporary Fantasy / Vampire Series – Jack Conner

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The Living Night: Part One of a Contemporary Fantasy / Vampire Series

Jack Conner

Genre: Contemporary

Publish Date: January 21, 2015

Publisher: Jack Conner

Seller: Draft2Digital, LLC


Can two vampires on the run save the world from destruction? Plunge into grand mystery and adventure in a world of vampires, werewolves and other immortals by bestselling author Jack Conner. When a powerful figure in the Immoral Community is killed, two vampires, Ruegger and Danielle, are forced to go on the run to find out who ordered the murder and why, or the world will be engulfed in chaos. The Living Night series should appeal to fans of Clive Barker, Anne Rice, "True Blood" and Stephen King.

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News in Brief: Report: More U.S. Families Living With Multiple Generations Of Xbox Under One Roof

WASHINGTON—Calling the trend a reflection of the nation’s changing social and economic landscape, a report released Friday by the Pew Research Center confirmed that more U.S. families are living with multiple generations of Xbox under one roof. “According to our survey data, over the past decade we have seen a dramatic rise in the number of American households that contain two or even three generations of consoles,” said the report’s author, Sean Corfield, adding that, in many cases, citizens reported that their Xbox, Xbox 360, and Xbox One all share the same room. “The vast majority of Americans we surveyed described feeling an obligation to continue caring for their older consoles as they age, even as they continue to welcome new generations into their homes. At the same time, more Americans are also finding themselves trying to free space in their basement after their Xbox 360 …





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Photographer Carolyn L. Sherer Documents ‘Living in Limbo: Lesbian Families in the Deep South’

Carolyn L. Sherer began photographing lesbians and their families in Birmingham, Alabama, in 2011.

Still one year before President Barack Obama even announced his support for same-sex marriage, the risks for these queers in the south — which could (and still can) range from intimidation to physical violence — were high. In fact, many of the subjects chose not to reveal their faces in Sherer’s photos.

Now, “Living in Limbo: Lesbian Families in the Deep South” has become an important historical document that shows the public LGBT families exist and thrive in all parts of America — even its most conservative pockets.

The Huffington Post spoke with Sherer this week about the legacy of the project and what she was trying to accomplish by bringing visibility to these experiences. Check out photos from “Living in Limbo: Lesbian Families in the Deep South” along with Sherer’s interview below.

anonymous
Anonymous

What was your overarching vision for this “Lesbians Living In The Deep South”?
In terms of content, my work is about authenticity and a search for common humanity in marginalized groups. I am interested in exploring issues of identity and always work in series to document individual stories to create a composite portrait of a community.

In this case, a specific incident inspired me to put a face on my previously invisible lesbian community in Birmingham, Alabama. When my friend was keeping vigil by her partner’s hospital deathbed, the brother of her beloved locked Kay out of their home. The police had to let her into the house to get a change of clothes to wear to the funeral. Worse, at the memorial service their close heterosexual friends said they did not know the couple was gay — or that gay people could be treated that way in Alabama. I realized that the distinctly southern “don’t’ ask, don’t tell” culture had to end.

ilian andrienne
Ileana and Adrienne

Conceptually, I fretted about how to make the work in a way that the participants could feel safe. I departed from my tradition of environmental portraits to make studio shots. Yes, the format provides the viewer the opportunity to focus on intimacy and relationships, but it was also a practical decision in terms of protecting participant privacy. It’s important to understand that this work was created in 2011 in a deeply conservative southern state. I did not know the potential for consequences, and at the time it felt quite risky to many of the women I approached. Each family decided to face the camera or not, and whether to include any children in the family. They were given complete control of their environment, choosing what to wear and how to stand. While being photographed, participants were asked to focus on their feelings about three words delivered in series: Lesbian, Pride and Prejudice.

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Anonymous

kate claire
Katie and Claire

Who are the individuals featured in these photographs?
40 lesbian families with diverse racial and socioeconomic backgrounds — all with roots in the Birmingham, Alabama area. The act of participation in most cases was a decision to come out of the closet — at least in more public circles.

It was my coming out story too.

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Kay and Barbara

kc diedra
KC, Deidra and Christian-Taylor

Did these families have any hesitation or worries about taking part in this series?
Initially, yes, many of my friends refused to participate due to fear of consequences. After the Birmingham Civil Rights Institute (BCRI) agreed to show the work and I got public endorsements from the Birmingham Museum of Art and Southern Poverty Law Center, things loosened up considerably. The value of the early support of BCRI can’t be underestimated. Remarkably, this work was already on the walls in 2012 when President Obama and the NAACP endorsed gay marriage. It attracted nearly 17,000 visitors in a two-month run and prompted much private and public dialogue about who is entitled to equality.

marge shirley
Marge and Shirley

mary polly
Mary and Polly

Why is visibility such as this important for LGBT people living in the south?
The Birmingham Civil Rights Institute is hosting travel of “Living in Limbo: Lesbian Families in the Deep South” as part of its mission to advocate for human and civil rights. In spite of the fact that they live in the heart of the Civil Rights Movement, the LGBTQ community in Alabama lacks a single law protecting them from discrimination. People do still lose jobs and child custody because of their sexual or gender identity. I hope that individuals living in liberal areas of the country can remain aware of the implications of making equality a state’s rights issue.

I want the viewer to feel a quiet intimacy, and wonder about the reality of the lives of the people they see.

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Betty White may be a laugh a minute, but the 93-year-old has no shortage of wise words either.

During a recent interview with her co-stars of “Hot In Cleveland” — which ends its six-season run on Wednesday — White urged everyone to laugh and look on the funny side of life.

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Actress Jane Leeves said the four female co-stars most treasured the moments they were all together onscreen.

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FUN HOME ** 1/2 out of ****
LIVING ON LOVE * 1/2 out of ****

FUN HOME ** 1/2 out of ****
CIRCLE IN THE SQUARE

It’s a treat to see a serious new musical with top flight talent involved. But it’s a real luxury getting to see it twice. When Fun Home debuted at the Public, it opened to almost universal praise. I respected it and admired the cast, but my three stars (out of four) were a little generous. I was mixed on it emotionally but my intellect leaned towards three stars. It’s no fun not quite getting the rapture of others; who wants to miss out on a show everyone else is loving? So I was ready and eager to see it again at Circle In The Square. Maybe it would grow on me.

Unfortunately, this production is inferior to the original one at the Public I had reservations about. I felt the design of that 2013 version was a little scattershot, but the puzzle of staging this show in the round has flummoxed the creative team entirely. It should feel intimate for a Broadway house but in fact the characters always seem to be on the other side of the stage with their back to you, no matter where you’re seated. But the real problem is that a second chance to hear the score and see the show makes clear that my initial reservations have been reinforced. Graphic novelist Alison Bechdel’s graphic novel has been musicalized with passion and integrity — it just hasn’t been musicalized very well.

The great hook of the story is that our heroine Alison realizes she is a lesbian just as her father’s secret gay life comes crashing down around him. Alison comes out to her parents and mere months later her father dies in what Alison concludes was a suicide. We haven’t seen that before. The great irony is that the strongest moments of Fun Home are the very familiar details of a little girl growing up and coming out. We’ve seen that before but those scenes have a warmth and humor sorely lacking in the rest of the show.

The show’s greatest assets are its three Alisons, all of whom starred in it at the Public. It’s narrated by adult Alison (Beth Malone), who is a little more stranded here by director Sam Gold as she wanders around the set during flashbacks. Those flashbacks come with a clarity that is a credit to the book of Lisa Kron, who also did the lyrics. We enjoy Middle Alison (Emily Skeggs) as she goes to college and comes out. And we relish the sharp presence of Small Alison (Sydney Lucas), a little girl always searching for attention from her fitfully present father Bruce (Michael Cerveris). The more confident and sure of herself Alison becomes, the more uncertain and unmoored her father becomes. He can’t handle a world where gay people are visible because Bruce has spent his entire life trying to hide from himself.

“Fun Home” is the nickname of their dad’s business, the local funeral home. It’s just one of his pursuits, since Bruce is also an English teacher and a passionate collector of antiques, turning their home into a showcase worthy of tours. Bruce’s idea of seduction is to take a new handsome and young hired hand into his study to check out the wallpaper he’s found that will be perfect for it.

Bruce is a repressed man, to say the least, and Cerveris spends half the show swallowing his lines and his emotions. Judy Kuhn is similarly constrained as his wife, a woman dutifully ignoring the havoc created by her husband’s self-destructive behavior. Both of them have arias of pain and regret to deliver towards the end, but it’s not nearly enough, even in a tight 100 minute show.

Notably, Alison’s siblings make virtually no impression, while Joel Perez plays an endless string of Bruce’s objects of affections (the handyman, a high school student and so on) but they all seem essentially the same person.

It seems silly to say but even Alison doesn’t seem like the artist she’ll be, despite her character constantly underlining the action by referencing how she would caption this or that scene when she turns it into a comic. The scenic and costume design by David Zinn doesn’t help. The set in particular is endlessly popping in and out of sight to no good effect. At the Public, there was a half-hearted attempt to indicate the graphic novel origins of the story. Perhaps budget and the constraints of a small space kept them from more? But no. On Broadway, they still only offer a half-hearted attempt of indicating a graphic novel come to life by revealing lit-up square boxes on the floor of the stage at intermittent moments. It makes the stage look more like the floor of a disco than a graphic novel; the conceit should have been developed fully or dropped altogether.

Later, at one key scene, a large gaping hole is left in the middle of the stage, perhaps to create some suspense. It actually drained away the tension since this foreshadowed too heavily the death we knew was looming. And when that death occurred by having an actor walk into the light (and off stage) rather than diving or falling into the giant hole, it also felt like a bit of bait and switch. That typifies a show where the entrances and exits orchestrated by Gold feel slack and unfocused.

It all boils down to the songs and that’s the main failing here. They are unnamed, but the two best numbers would surely be called “Keys” and “I’m Changing My Major To Joan.” In one, the young Alison feels an immediate and deep identification with the strong, handsome delivery woman she spots wearing jeans and sporting a big ring of keys. It’s funny but much more than that, perfectly capturing a child who is gay and how that’s so much more than sex: it’s identity. In the other, Alison rhapsodizes over her first sexual experience and first girlfriend, Joan. While neither is “catchy” in a show tune sort of way, both have strong, melodic lines, specific and memorable lyrics and deepen the character we’re getting to know in ways both detailed and universal. A friend who saw the show a year and a half ago immediately sang snatches of those two numbers.

But you’d be hard pressed to do the same with any others. They have awkward vocal lines, vague meandering lyrics and scream out “high art.” Composer Jeanine Tesori crafted some memorable melodies for her breakout show Violet. She seems to have been running from them ever since and Fun Home is mostly no exception. Something is very wrong when talent like Michael Cerveris and Judy Kuhn can’t bring a song to life.

Given the material, it’s no surprise that the two actresses with the two best songs make the best impression. Skeggs is winning as Middle Alison and Lucas is giving a complete performance as Little Alison. Whether singing or acting, she’s always present and always heartbreakingly vulnerable to the turmoil just beneath the surface of her family. She’s so very young, but I can easily imagine Lucas winning a Tony. What’s even crazier when talking about a kid in her Broadway debut is that I can imagine seeing her on the stage for years to come. Hey, if that’s the case and this show is best remembered for introducing a new talent, Fun Home will have a happy ending after all.

LIVING ON LOVE * 1/2 out of ****
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Well, the cast was having fun! At the curtain call for this shoulder shrug of a comedy — “What did you think of it?” **shrug** — the cast were a bunch of Chatty Cathys. This actor was talking away to that actor and the others were giggling over something as well. Then came the show’s best laugh. The curtain fell quickly but then the cast pulled it aside and stepped to the edge of the stage a la the Metropolitan Opera for their final hammy bows. They all made grand gestures to the crowd and tried to usher each other off the stage so they could grab one final bit of applause. The fact that the audience was halfway out the door but enjoyed this stunt more than most anything that came before somehow made it even funnier. And my guest swore that during the show Jerry O’Connell was pursing his lips and trying to make Renée Fleming laugh during her scenes. Hey, you get your kicks where you can.

If the very light comedy Living On Love were a commercial hit, we’d call it “critic proof.” But in this case I fear it seems an audience proof play about battling divas. Douglas Sills is the Maestro, a classical music conductor who bristles at the very mention of Leonard Bernstein when he’s not seducing young sopranos to the sound of his own recording of Ravel’s “Bolero.”

The Maestro is getting on in years but still spending money like a madman. Ghost writer Jerry O’Connell pays daily visits hoping to pry some facts out of the great man so they can write his memoirs. No luck. The maestro rises late and can’t be bothered to reveal anything more than the endless string of women he slept with. That’s your clue that this show is set in the 1950s. The writer can’t actually use stories of constant casual sex in the book. If it were set today, they’d have a bestseller.

O’Connell doesn’t really care anyway. He only took this assignment so he could meet the Maestro’s wife La Diva (Fleming, naturally). She swans in with her tiny dog Puccini and the dog barely raises a sigh from the audience…when a dog onstage is the easiest crowd pleaser out there today! (The only thing audiences like more is partial or full nudity from stars; O’Connell gamely takes off his shirt and covers his chest in olive oil.) Puccini has to come back onstage later to get her deserved sighs, one more sign of a lackluster show, directed with less than her usual polish by Kathleen Marshall.

Anyway, this unhappily married couple is desperately broke and they actually need money. The Maestro has already spent his advance, so the Diva gets her own book deal. Soon she’s working with O’Connell while the Maestro snags a young gal (Anna Chlumsky) to be his new ghost writer and hilarity ensues.

The play is by Joe DiPietro, based on a play best forgotten (apparently) by Garson Kanin. It’s harmless, if you consider a bland night of theater harmless. Amidst all the nonsense, two servants keep popping in and out, played by Blake Hammond and Scott Robertson. They’re mostly there to make set changes seem amusing (they sing or play the piano or otherwise goof around) but it felt more like a time-killer to me. O’Connell and Chlumsky are game but never get into any rhythm, though O’Connell is far more in the spirit of the thing than she. The great opera singer Renée Fleming doesn’t fall flat. She’s certainly not an accomplished comedian but she gets the lines out and does enough to get by. If the show were actually any good, her presence might be annoying since she’d be holding the play back. But as it is, it’s pleasantly amusing to see her traverse such an entirely new world. It would be ill advised of her to do it again, however.

The one bright spot is Douglas Sills as the Maestro. He sports an absurd Italian accent and ridiculous dialogue that Sills delivers with gusto. Oh he can’t make it funny but by god he shows you what he can do even with shoddy material like this. Oddly, the last few minutes grow a little serious. There’s a minor revolt from the servants (obviously an added flourish from DiPietro) that was almost touching, sort of. Then the Diva sang Irving Berlin’s “Always” and the Maestro joined in and we had a little moment. It wasn’t much, but you get your kicks where you can.

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Living On Love * 1/2

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What A Small-Town Obituary Writer Can Teach Us All About Living

In the healthiest sense possible, Heather Lende has an intimate relationship with death.

She is the longtime obituary writer in her small Alaska hometown of Haines, having memorialized some 400 departed locals, neighbors, friends. She volunteers at the hospice center, and had her own close brush with oblivion. Ten years ago, Lende was hit by a truck while bicycling; the vehicle ran over her torso and crushed her pelvis. She was lucky to survive.

By no means has proximity to death stifled her life. Lende is a cheerful mother and grandmother, a gifted writer and author of multiple books, a performer in the local theater and a community volunteer.

Her latest book, out April 28, is “Find the Good: Unexpected Life Lessons from a Small-Town Obituary Writer.” We spoke with Lende for Sophia, a HuffPost project to collect life lessons from accomplished people.

She shared 10 key insights she’s learned from her years of observing people living well and dying well, too.

1. The under-appreciated joy of ordinary days.

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One of the most difficult obituaries I worked on was for someone who was still alive. I’d never done that before.

It was a woman that I knew, not close. She used to live in Haines and then moved to Juneau, younger than I am, and she came up to me on a ferry and asked if I would write her obituary. I knew she’d had breast cancer, but I thought she was better. She taught second grade. Her kids were younger. She wanted to talk so her husband wouldn’t have to do it after she died.

She didn’t ask to see the obituary before she died, and in fact, I didn’t write it until after she died because I was afraid I might jinx it. I had all my notes for almost a year; she lived longer than she thought she was going to.

It was really interesting to talk with her. I had permission to ask her questions that I would have liked to know from a lot of people. She was 48 or 49, with a terminal diagnosis. I said to her, “You’ve got maybe three months, six months while you’re still feeling good. What do you want to do with your life?”

And she said the thing she really wanted to do was just have another ordinary day. She wanted to go to school, and teach second grade, and come home and have dinner with her family.

And she said she’d actually done this big family trip to Hawaii. It was going to be the last family trip, and they were going to be all together, and she said it was just miserable. Everybody cried the whole time, because it was like they were saying goodbye.

They just wanted to go home and get up in the morning and do what they did every day. For me, that kind of moment is like…yeah, absolutely. Maybe you need to hear that from someone that’s dying.

It’s kind of like “Our Town” by Thornton Wilder; at the end of that play, the character Emily runs around and says, “Does anybody really appreciate life while they have it? Do they know?” And no, of course not. Of course not. But the more I bump up against that kind of stuff, I try [laughs]. I try to remember it.

I think you can purposefully step back from stuff and say that to yourself. “Oh yes, thank you. Thank you just that I’m awake this morning.”

2. Respect people’s last great excuse to sometimes be a pain in the ass.

When you’re with someone who is dying, my biggest piece of advice is: no judgment. Whatever they’re feeling, I know it might sound a little hokey, but you really need to honor it.

If they’re angry, don’t tell them, oh, you shouldn’t be angry, you should be happy, or whatever. Let them be angry.

I was with a guy who, all he wanted was to watch CNN. These are the last years of his life, and his family was upset because they wanted to have these deep conversations, and he just — that wasn’t going to happen. It seems to me that when you’re dying, you should be able to do what you want [laughs]. I mean, that’s sort of your last great excuse. Whatever is making them fulfilled at that moment, honor that.

3. At the end, sometimes there’s just time. Be present for it.

Something else that’s important is just being with people. Hanging around. Being present. Not looking at your phone and texting; not pacing up and down or scanning the computer for things, just sitting quietly with somebody and being there, in case they turn and want to say something, or in case you notice they might need some water or a little glycerin on their lips, depending on how close they are to the end.

It’s hard to do because we’re all so busy, and you want to do something. There’s a tendency to come running in and you start cleaning the house, or you’ll make food, or you’ll cheer everybody up. But sometimes doing nothing is more important than anything, if that makes sense.

The thing about dying and being ill to me is, it’s very similar to having little babies. The end of life and the beginning of life share a lot in common. There’s just time. And it seems that the quantity of time might be more important than the quality. You rarely just get that on-demand “moment.” If you suddenly want to hear something meaningful from your friend, or that last forgiveness or wise words, it might take six or seven hours of just being there, doing maybe nothing at all, before that comes out. It doesn’t just happen, like I’ve got 20 minutes, so let’s go. I want to tell you everything about what you mean to me, and you can tell me, and we’ll have this great closure, and then I’m going to go off and do my other stuff.

The time that it takes to die is often like the time it takes to be born, and labor can last a long time. It just is what it is. It’s a real lesson in being present for people and paying close attention.

4. Accepting death is important, and it’s not the same as giving up.

I walk on the beach every morning with a friend of mine who’s a hospice director. She is reading this book called “Deathing,” like living. The premise of the book is that you can die purposefully, in much the same was as you can live purposefully, and that if you’re more aware of when you’re dying, it makes the experience better.

I’ve had some very close friends who were all organic and healthy and walked every day, and they ended up with cancer and died at 60. One of them fought it every inch of the way, had every treatment possible until she was hardly recognizable. Even to the very end she was trying to get on a plane to go get some more chemo, and they couldn’t put her on the plane. She was too weak to fly out of the small town I live in. She was angry about that.

I had another friend who, once she was told that treatment was just prolonging the inevitable, she was almost beatific in the way she left the world. I don’t think you know how you’re going to respond to that until you actually get the diagnosis.

But I’m a hospice volunteer and I’ve been around some deaths. Some are better than others, and the ones that seem to go better are when the person is more accepting.

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5. A helpful mantra: “It’s good that I’m here.”

I met a woman who was a hospice volunteer. She was older, so a lot of the people she was working with were her friends. I said, how do you do it sometimes? She said, I tell myself before I walk in the door that it is good that I’m there — and then I try to make it so.

This didn’t make the book; I could never quite articulate how to say it. But I think that’s so important. I’ve started to do this. I’ll look around the room and I’ll think to myself, “Well, it’s good that I’m here.” And then I’ll think, “How is it good that I’m here? There must be something good I can do for these people in this room at this moment. If I just wait, maybe it’ll happen.”

There’s something to that. I wish there was a simple way to find the good around you all the time. But life is more complicated than that, and the way we live it is.

But if we consciously catch ourselves when we’re in one of those grumpy, nothing-is-going-right moods, and say, “Wait a minute. What can I do here to make this situation better?” And often turning towards making it better for someone else, in one of those backdoor kind of ways, it makes it better for you.

6. Will you be missed?

The lives that are most rewarding and fulfilling are the ones where people have had good relationships with people, whether it’s friends, family, whatever. They’ve had meaningful relationships so that at the end of their lives, they’re missed.

It’s not just about their accomplishments, whether their professional accomplishments or personal things, sports and so forth. It’s that when they’re gone, people really miss them.

They could be people who really, in one view, hadn’t done a whole lot. They might not have gone to college or served in the military. They weren’t a Navy Seal or whatever. They worked at the local grocery store for 30 years, but they always said hello. Their kids liked them, their wife liked them, and so on.

When you get right down to it, that’s what counts. It sounds so clichèd, but look at what happened on 9/11. All those cellphones. Everybody was just saying, “I love you.” They weren’t checking bank accounts and stuff. They were saying, “I love you. I love you. I love you.”

And at the risk of sounding sappy, that’s it. In the grand scheme of things, if you’ve got that part down, then other stuff builds on that.

7. Small thoughtful acts of kindness matter a lot.

About a month ago I wrote about a woman who had traveled a lot in her youth, and now she was older and she’d lived in Alaska a long time and hadn’t traveled so much. But whenever she heard of someone in town who was taking a trip, she would send them a little traveling money, like 20 dollars or something. “Enjoy your trip!” Just a little traveling money, for getting on the ferry or buying a cup of coffee.

I learned that writing obituaries. These acts aren’t big, not earth-shattering. But they change the world a little bit.

I recently wrote about a guy who died, he was 89. He had lived in kind of a homestead situation with goats. Everybody knew him as Goat Man. It made me want to get a goat, though my husband won’t do this because the Goat Man also didn’t smell very good [laughs].

But talking to his neighbors, it just made me laugh. He would stroll down the road with this billy goat that followed him like a dog.

One neighbor said that they were in his house sometime during a winter storm and they looked up and there’s a goat standing on the bookshelf, like a stuffed goat, only it’s alive. And they look up and were like, “What’s the goat doing in the house?” The old man said, “Oh, you know, just keeping him in out of the weather.” And I thought, what a nice man to bring his goat in out of the weather. I have to take better care of my dog [laughs].

8. What are you waiting for?

I’ll write about somebody who at 70 is going to raft down the Grand Canyon. They’re doing something adventurous like that. And then sometimes I do obituaries for people who are — it’s almost the opposite.

They said they always wanted to go to Africa, or they were saving up money to go on safari, and then they died. And you think, if you have something you really want to do, maybe you should go sooner. I hate writing an obituary where some family member will say, “They had planned to do this, and they had planned to do that.”

Do it while you can. What are you waiting for? You just never know; people are here one day and they’re gone the next.

9. The bright side of getting hit by a truck.

We asked Lende to talk about how her near-death experience ten years ago had altered her life.

Thanks for reminding me about that [laughs]. It’s huge. I was writing obituaries before then and writing them since, but I think after that I just became much more aware of my own mortality in a real way.

When you’re in an ambulance and you’re medevaced and they’re telling you you might not make it, it changes everything. I know I am more compassionate toward anybody who’s had something going on. It could be you. You could be on the top of the world one minute and the next minute diagnosed with some debilitating illness or get hurt or whatever, and through no fault of your own.

I realized how everybody’s been hit by a proverbial truck. Cancer, divorce, you name it. Everybody’s got something, everybody does. You can’t live to be 30 or 40 without having had something that is like getting hit by a truck.

I was lucky enough to get hit by a real truck, and so it was very public in a way. People can see my damage and respond to it. But I think all the time, almost every day, that I’m talking to somebody that has been hit on one level or another, and you don’t even know it.

Also, having had something like that happen, it might sound corny but it’s true — I’m really lucky. I feel really grateful that I’m here and that I’m okay. I’ve had five grandchildren since then; they are a big part of my life, and I wouldn’t have had that.

Every day counts. You could get hit by a car. A safe could fall on your head. I’m one of those people that think that, and now I have proof that it can happen. And so as a result I just walk a little happier on the earth.

And it’s really interesting because I don’t know how much control you have of that. I think in some ways we’re hardwired. I know another man that got hit by a car and he’s just mad all the time. He’s still pissed about it. And it wasn’t fair, and it wasn’t his fault, and he’s not the same physically. And I could have that same attitude too, but I don’t, and I don’t know why. I’d like to say I’m this good person, but not really.

I think you might be hardwired to respond that way. Unfortunately, you don’t know it until it happens to you. I’m glad that mine came out that way. I’m fortunate. I have a nice husband and I have nice children and I live in a small community and life’s pretty good. It might have been very different if I was alone in that situation and I hadn’t had all the support that I had. If I was just by myself on my back for months. And that didn’t happen to me, so I got a lot of really good care and love and feedback that certainly I would be like crazy if I didn’t come out of it thinking I was lucky.

More than anything, I’ve been very lucky. And some people are and some people aren’t and it’s not fair.

10. Take good care of the garden and the dogs.

My mother was one of those people who, when she was dying, fought it every inch of the way. She kept going in for another surgery and another surgery. We were surprised, because she’d always been the person who said, “When this thing goes bad, I’m not going to get all the treatment. I’m just going to go back to my farm and be happy and gracious and play the piano and walk my dogs and take care of my garden and die.”

My mother died optimistically. She didn’t think she was going to die, even to the very end. The last time she could talk, she was going in for another surgery. My dad was going alongside her. And my father said to her, “Sally, is there something you want to tell us? Because this could be it.”

She wrote him a note that said, “Take good care of the garden and the dogs.” Not “I love you,” or “thank you,” or “you mean the world to me,” or whatever you want to hear from your mother or your spouse or your grandmother at the end of their life.

But we had that note around. We passed it around and I thought about it. I thought about it a lot.

One day I was working in my garden and I was throwing sticks for the dogs and I was listening to one of my daughters who was playing the piano, and she sounded just like my mother, because my mother would say, “Oh nuts,” when she hit the wrong note. And my daughter was saying, “Oh nuts.” And I was like, “Gosh, just like my mother.”

And I just realized that taking care of the garden, or taking care of the dogs, taking care of the household, taking care of the people around you — that’s good advice. It’s not bad advice to live by. And if that’s the only advice you got from your mother, you could do worse than that. In fact, I think it’s really good advice to take care of your garden and your home and your animals and your children.

And whether that’s literally or figuratively, it’s the place that we live. Maybe I’m giving my mom a pass on that one, but I thought about it a lot, and I think that is good advice.

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Bill Wilkinson, the former Imperial Wizard of a Klu Klux Klan chapter who went missing in 1984, has been found. Wilkinson was hiding away on the island of Belize living among Blacks, Mayans, and more on the multi-cultural island nation.

The Daily Mail scooped out this conflicted racist, who does not want to be called a racist. “I don’t hate Black people,” Wilkinson said, just before explaining why he supports segregation.

And why would a former KKK leader believe that races should be separated, all the while being accepted on an island inhabited by various races? Because he’s a “Bible-crashing segregationist.”

“That’s how is should be,” Wilkinson explained. “God has commanded me not to mix with other races.”

Despite this strange photo of what looks like a Black woman holding him like a 3-year-old child, don’t expect to see Black people too close to his family. “I wouldn’t let one marry my children or my grandchildren.”

Today, Wilkinson has been accepted by the Central American people who (ever so ironically) don’t judge him based on his past, or his skin color. Another interesting point to note is Wilkinson is a multi-millionaire hotel owner in a mostly Black neighborhood. “Life is real good,” he told The Mail. “I love this island, it’s full of very friendly people. I enjoy scuba diving, that’s what I came here for, snorkeling, fishing.”

Before he fell in love with snorkeling and fishing, he was born Elbert Claude Wilkinson in Louisiana. He later changed his name to Bill and named himself leader of a KKK chapter which he ran from the mid-70s until the mid-80s. As explained in a 1981 article titled, “Bill Wilkinson Is A Busy Cross-Burner,” David Duke’s former rival has never been shy to speak about separation, and graciously advised that Black people go back to the Motherland.

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He Asked 1500+ Elders For Advice On Living And Loving. Here’s What They Told Him.

Karl Pillemer has spent the last several years systematically interviewing hundreds of older Americans to collect their lessons for living.

Pillemer admits he’s an advice junkie. He’s also a Ph.D. gerontologist at Cornell University.

Some years ago, after turning 50, he wondered whether there is something about getting older that teaches you how to live better. “Could we look at the oldest Americans as experts on how to live our lives?” he asked. “And could we tap that wisdom to help us make the most of our lifetimes?”

His first book, “30 Lessons for Living,” synthesized advice from over 1,000 elders on topics like happiness, work, and health.

Now Pillemer has followed up with “30 Lessons for Loving,” which features practical wisdom from over 700 older Americans with 25,000 collective years of marriage experience. One couple he profiles was married for 76 years. Another interviewee describes divorcing her husband, then remarrying him 64 years later.

I spoke with Pillemer for Sophia, a HuffPost project to collect life lessons from accomplished people (that was partly inspired by his work).

Pillemer shared seven key pieces of advice he’s heard repeatedly from older Americans — about their greatest regrets, finding fulfillment, and keeping relationships healthy through life’s ups-and-downs.

1. Stop worrying so much.

I asked these oldest Americans what they think people tend to regret at their age, and what they would advise younger people to do to avoid regrets.

I expected big-ticket items — an affair or a shady business deal, something along those lines. I really didn’t expect to hear the one answer that was among the most frequent and certainly among the most passionate and vehement: stop worrying so much.

One of the biggest regrets of the very old was, I wish I hadn’t spent so much time worrying. They weren’t talking about planning, but the kind of mindless rumination that all of us do over things we have no control.

One of the people who said that summed it up this way. It was a woman who said, “I knew there were going to be layoffs at my job. I did nothing over the coming three months except worry about being laid off. I poisoned my life. I didn’t think about anything else, even though I had no control over it.” And she paused and said, “I wish I had those three months back, because that was just lifetime lost.”

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I’m sort of a chronic Woody Allen-esque worrier. Hearing hundreds and hundreds of older people saying that when you get to our age, you’ll see time spent needlessly worrying as time wasted, it really had a profound effect on me.

People have asked me, “What do you do with that insight? How do we stop worrying?” For me, when I start to get into the mindless rumination, I will remind myself that it’s an almost absolute certainty that everybody, when they get to the end of life, will say to themselves, “I wish I hadn’t spent so much time worrying about something that wasn’t going to happen.” After doing this for so long, I kind of have this feeling of a thousand grandparents in a room yelling at me [laughs].

A related insight of older people comes through very strongly in their advice about marriage. Very often a lot of their advice revolves around lightening up. We allow things, like marriage or other domains of life, to become extremely grim.

Their viewpoint from later on — this may sound like a cliché, but they mean it — is most of the things they worried about didn’t happen, and the bad things that happened to them were things they hadn’t considered.

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2. In relationships, sweat the small stuff.

If I learned one thing about how to keep the spark alive over many decades, there’s a point that the elders make that aligns very closely with research. It is an emphasis on thinking small — the small, minute-to-minute, day-to-day interactions that make up a relationship.

We tend to think of relationships globally. But all relationships are made up of hundreds or thousands of daily micro-interactions where you have the opportunity to be positive and supportive to your partner, or to be dismissive and uninterested.

There’s been research showing, for example, that how you respond if your partner interrupts you while you’re doing something is very diagnostic of how good the relationship’s going to be. If you’re actively involved in reading the paper or doing something, and your partner wants to show you something of interest to him or her, whether you respond dismissively or you briefly stop what you’re doing and engage with your partner is very diagnostic of positivity in the relationship.

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Other research has shown that it takes around 10 positive interactions to make up for one nasty one, so the ratio of positive to negative small interactions in a relationship is really critical. And that’s exactly what older people say. Many of their lessons embody this same concept.

For example, one of the things that older people argue is that we ought to be polite in our relationships. You know, the old things that people learned in elementary school, to say please and thank you and observe normal civility, is something people forget to do all the time in their relationships, mostly because we feel comfortable.

They argue using politeness and tact, but also making a habit of positive things, of compliments, of small surprises, of doing a partner’s chore, if you have a fairly rigid division of labor. Many people described that. I had more than one woman — perhaps it’s quote from someone else — but they jokingly said that their husband doing the dishes was the best aphrodisiac they could think of. So I would say that for a good relationship that lasts a long time, one of the absolute keys is attending to being positive, cheerful, supportive in the small aspects of the relationship.

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Another thing which is closely related: many couples begin to develop divergent interests and one partner then becomes hostile to a passionate interest. I had many older people say, “Our relationship changed when I gave my partner’s interests a chance and embraced them.”

One guy in his mid-80s, he was astonished. He said, “I started going to opera and ballet. Me! Opera and ballet! But it was worth it to engage with my partner.” Or wives who took up golf or developed an interest in football. At some point, people begin to say that positivity in the relationship is more important than fighting over these kinds of like minor differences.

People who have very positive relationships consciously tend to maximize these small positive interactions. And that is a place where elder wisdom completely or very closely aligns with what we know from research about good marriages.

3. Don’t sacrifice your relationship for your children.

There’s a very strong research finding in family social science. It is called the U-shaped curve of marital happiness. Basically, marriages start out pretty happy. Marital happiness drops precipitously at the birth of the first child and usually never completely recovers until the last child has left the house.

So even though kids are great — they satisfy our existential longings, and we love them, and it’s one of the most profound experiences — they are stressful for marriages. You probably don’t need a social scientist to tell you that, because anybody who’s been through it knows that.

There’s no question that a lot of marital arguments and difficulties revolve around children. It’s one of the paradoxes of marriage that good things, like having kids or having a really good job, even owning and taking care of a house, also can be sources of marital stress. It’s the double-edged sword of marriage.

The elders had one really strong recommendation in terms of adjusting to kids. Put your marriage first, put your relationship first, and don’t let kids distract you from having a good relationship with your partner.

Couples lose themselves in the mix of kids and work and fundamentally abandon attention to their relationship. The advice of the oldest Americans is very similar to that famous instruction on airplanes — put your own oxygen mask on first and then put it on the kids. If you aren’t attending to your relationship, you aren’t going to be very effective as child-rearers.

It’s very unusual that people have an awful relationship and wind up being good parents. If you sacrifice your relationship for your children, you have a reasonable chance of losing both.

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Now, they aren’t saying, of course, that you don’t love your kids and that you wouldn’t hurl yourself in front of a train to save them. But they argue that a marital relationship needs constant attention in spite of the kids.

I was shocked, in focus groups I did in preparation for the book, how many young parents couldn’t even remember when they’d gone out on their own or spent much individual time together. The oldest Americans’ argument is: Carve it out. Impose on grandparents. Develop a babysitting exchange. Even if you don’t have any money.

I had people who grew up in the Depression. One couple said, “We returned our disposable soda bottles and went to McDonald’s. It was just an opportunity to be away.”

Even if it’s something as artificial as a weekly date night where you scrimp and arrange for babysitting and go off on your own, you simply must do it. If you lose yourself in this middle-aged blur of work and kids, you really won’t do your kids any good.

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4. People who share core values typically have better marriages.

One hallmark of these long and harmonious marriages — and this is a piece of advice, too, that older people explicitly give — is to marry someone a lot like you.

We have in our popular culture this vast amount of examples of where opposites attract and make for great relationships, from “Romeo and Juliet” through “The Little Mermaid” through “Pretty Woman” and on and on.

Both the elders and research say, not so much. Marrying somebody who is very similar to you — in the trade, we call it homophily. Homophilous marriages, where the partners are pretty similar across a range of domains, tend to last longer and be happier.

What seems to really make the difference are core shared values. For example, work and the importance of work, the number of children and the way children are to be raised and goals for children, how important money is, spiritual and religious values to some extent. If there’s core value similarity, that seems to really make for these longer and happier marriages.

There’s no magic bullet. But marrying someone who’s fundamentally similar to you, especially in outlook, worldview, and values, really does seem to make a difference. It makes everything else much easier.

You might ask, in our complex multicultural society, is that really a good thing to recommend? What they would say is, you can have differences. Sometimes differences do spice up a relationship. But if you have two people who are, for example, strongly committed to two different religious traditions, you’ve got to be aware that you’re going to have to work around that in your relationship. If you have other kinds of strong value differences, it’s important to be aware of those and deal with them.

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5. Communicate early, communicate often.

I’ve spent a lot of time interviewing young people. Of course, I’m speaking anecdotally. I know a lot of them as a college professor. One thing I’ve learned is that even in long dating relationships, it’s actually relatively unusual that they have a deep discussion about child-rearing values or even having children.

I think that’s a problem. I think the elders would say it’s a problem. Understanding how your values align is very important early on.

This is related, and it may seem obvious, but virtually all of the elders in long marriages say the key to their success was learning how to communicate effectively on important issues.

People who were divorced very typically attribute it to a communication breakdown. I had several couples in the study who had gotten divorced and then remarried. One couple was actually remarried almost a half century after they were first divorced and began to have a very positive relationship. Almost always that was attributed to learning how to open up, to have open and successful communication and to really talk to one another.

6. Approach marriage as a discipline.

The unspoken, unquestioned, and underlying assumption, especially of people 75 and older, was that marriage would last forever.

They viewed marriage as an unbreakable bond; they simply had to work within those parameters. That means, for example, you live through rough patches and don’t just try to get out of the relationship. You come to accommodations and acceptances of the other person. You see this unit as something that is bigger than two people and their immediate individual satisfaction.

When they got married, they were making a commitment to the concept of marriage as a worthwhile institution, rather than the partnership based on immediate satisfaction of the individuals involved.

I got from them the idea of marriage as a discipline — not a punishment kind of discipline but the way it’s used if you’re learning music or a martial art. Marriage is a lifelong path, one that you never perfect and that you continually work to get better at. You’re continually working to improve communication and overcome problems and establish more interest.

This worldview — that once you were in marriage, you were in it for good — shaped people’s day-to-day experience and view of it. It’s one of the things which those who do articulate it recommend to younger people. They say, even if the reality is that you may not stay married, you ought to have this attitude, because it will make you work harder to get through difficult times. And there are such benefits to doing that that you ought to do it.

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7. Take time to craft the story of your life.

There’s been considerable research on the importance of reminiscence, life review. Most old people would like to be able to see their lives as a meaningful whole, to be able to sum it up into a coherent narrative.

I don’t want to wax too poetic, but I have really been struck by something which the famous psychologist Erik Erikson said. At some point you realize that you’re given this one chance — he words it this way — ‘this one chance in all of eternity to enact an identity and to play it out in the real world.’

Towards the end of life, what’s really important to people is to be able to see how their life mattered, how it was meaningful, how there was a story to it that wraps up in a good way.

People who are able to create that kind of narrative, and think of their life in that way, are typically happier. They’re more generative. They’re much more serene and open to the end of life. So that is really good work for people to do. Writing about it is something that a number of my interviewees did. Often my best interviewees were people who had done some writing of memoirs.

There is a concept which some of them also did, it’s called the “ethical will,” where people will write down what they would like to leave to younger generations about their values and principles and morality, how someone should live a life.

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It’s so critical for older people to record their memories. I would go one step further. Stop me if — actually, I’m going to go ahead and say it. We’re in the midst right now in our society of a very dangerous experiment. That’s one where young people, outside of intermittent contacts in their own family, have no meaningful contact with older people in any other dimension of their lives.

Whereas old people were often much more integrated and were sought out as sources of wisdom and advice and life experience, now they really aren’t, because our society is so age-segregated.

I think that we place young people in peril without these kind of intergenerational contacts. This is something that’s so natural for the human race. It’s really only been about the last hundred years that people have gone to anyone other than the oldest person they knew for advice about something, say like marriage or child-rearing.

Even though it sounds artificial, it’s important for older people to record their own thoughts and memories, but it’s really critical for younger people to ask them for them, and not just for stories, but for guidance and practical advice for living. I’m not against professional help. I think it’s great. But sometimes people might go and ask the elders in their lives for advice on finding a meaningful career or improving a relationship first.

So I think that it’s both older people doing it themselves, nurturing these memories and reflecting on their lives, but it’s also our role as younger people to help them to do it, to express interest in it and be a part of their reminiscing and summing up their life into a meaningful story. That’s what we really risk losing now. It’s a large reason for these projects, I have to say, and why I’m writing these books.

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