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The Truth About Moving On From Your Ex After Divorce

Some people find the process of moving on after divorce surprisingly uncomplicated. (You know, the kind of folks who say they had moved on from their ex long before their marriage was legally over.) For others, closure is a lot harder to come by.  

The good news? Your brain may be hardwired to help you move on. According to a study published earlier this year in the journal Review of General Psychology, humans may be built to experience the pain of a split and move on to a new partner.

Even so, getting through those first initial months and even years after divorce isn’t going to be easy. To help you out, we asked relationship experts and HuffPost Divorce readers for their best advice on moving forward after divorce. Read their tried-and-true tips below.

1. Understand that there’s no timeframe for recovering from divorce — and that’s OK.

There will be days when you feel amazing and glad to be free of your ex — and days when getting out of bed seems like more trouble than it’s worth. As divorce coach Kira Gould discovered firsthand, divorce recovery is not a linear process.

“There were times in the beginning of my divorce when I knew in my soul that I was done and over it — and there are days now, six years later, when I am surprised to think fondly of my ex,” she said. “When you have a past that was long and intricately entwined, those feelings don’t go away overnight.” 

2. If you have kids, note that the process will be even harder. 

While it’s great to behave like grownups and co-parent for your kids’ sake, having to see your ex every time he or she swings by makes it a lot harder to move on, said HuffPost reader Diane Caron. 

“Whether you have children together does make a difference,” she said. ”It’s something that we have to live with for the rest of our lives, even if we do move on.” 

3. Remind yourself that you’re capable of moving on after divorce. 

Don’t get too hung up on the theory that it takes half the length of the relationship‘s duration to process a breakup. You’ll feel more empowered once you accept that you’re in charge of moving on, not a calendar, divorce coach Emma Heptonstall said. 

“Recovering from divorce is ultimately about being willing to let go,” she said. “Letting go frees up emotional space, physical space and creates a path on which you can move forward. Being open to the possibility that you might be able to move on is the first sign that you already have.” 

4. Make a point to define who you are outside of the marriage. 

Instead of fixating on moving on, try focusing on yourself and re-embracing the goals and interests you may have put aside during your marriage, said reader Barry Fraser.

“I don’t think there’s an exact timeframe for moving on but what I do think helps immensely is regaining confidence in yourself,” he said. “Chances are, your relationship changed who you were and you lost your identity or self worth.” 

5.  Take comfort in knowing you might experience a moment where you finally feel free of the past. 

For writer Amy Koko, the moment she knew she was over her ex (or as over an ex as you can be when you have kids) happened unexpectedly on Thanksgiving, two years post-split. 

“The year before I had looked around and felt an overwhelming sadness for the one person who would never again be sitting at head of my table,” she said. “This year as we laughed at the table, I felt a flush of warmth remembering how my ex always drank a glass of egg nog with his turkey dinner. In that moment, I hoped he was enjoying his day as much as I was…and that’s when I knew.” 

6. But don’t be surprised if a new wave of sadness hits after you thought you had processed your grief.  

Six months after her “drama”-filled divorce was finalized, HuffPost blogger Lindsey Light felt emotionally ready to date again. But then, seemingly out of the nowhere, she experienced another bout of sadness. 

“Today, I find myself still dealing with some of the repercussions of my divorce and marriage,” she said. “We were together seven years; I think it’s good that I’m aware of this as I move forward in my life and relationships. That said, I can say with certainty that I am no longer bitter or heartbroken — and I definitely don’t have any romantic feelings left for my ex.” 

7. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to get over it. 

We put a lot of pressure on ourselves to move on after divorce — but maybe instead the goal should be some version of closure from the past, said psychologist Andra Brosh.

“One of the greatest misperceptions of divorce is that it’s something you move on from,” she said. “The end of a marriage can be grieved and embraced as a life experience, but the mark it leaves can never be erased.” 

 

8. Down the road, try to look back fondly on the good times you had with your ex. (You know there were some good times.) 

It’s healing in its own way to look back on the years you spent with your ex with a sense of appreciation, said Gould.

 

“I like to think that my ex still has a small place in my heart that’s compartmentalized,” she said. “I honor the time we had together, but limited in a healthy way.”

 

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The Truth About Moving On From Your Ex After Divorce

Some people find the process of moving on after divorce surprisingly uncomplicated. (You know, the kind of folks who say they had moved on from their ex long before their marriage was legally over.) For others, closure is a lot harder to come by.  

The good news? Your brain may be hardwired to help you move on. According to a study published earlier this year in the journal Review of General Psychology, humans may be built to experience the pain of a split and move on to a new partner.

Even so, getting through those first initial months and even years after divorce isn’t going to be easy. To help you out, we asked relationship experts and HuffPost Divorce readers for their best advice on moving forward after divorce. Read their tried-and-true tips below.

1. Understand that there’s no timeframe for recovering from divorce — and that’s OK.

There will be days when you feel amazing and glad to be free of your ex — and days when getting out of bed seems like more trouble than it’s worth. As divorce coach Kira Gould discovered firsthand, divorce recovery is not a linear process.

“There were times in the beginning of my divorce when I knew in my soul that I was done and over it — and there are days now, six years later, when I am surprised to think fondly of my ex,” she said. “When you have a past that was long and intricately entwined, those feelings don’t go away overnight.” 

2. If you have kids, note that the process will be even harder. 

While it’s great to behave like grownups and co-parent for your kids’ sake, having to see your ex every time he or she swings by makes it a lot harder to move on, said HuffPost reader Diane Caron. 

“Whether you have children together does make a difference,” she said. ”It’s something that we have to live with for the rest of our lives, even if we do move on.” 

3. Remind yourself that you’re capable of moving on after divorce. 

Don’t get too hung up on the theory that it takes half the length of the relationship‘s duration to process a breakup. You’ll feel more empowered once you accept that you’re in charge of moving on, not a calendar, divorce coach Emma Heptonstall said. 

“Recovering from divorce is ultimately about being willing to let go,” she said. “Letting go frees up emotional space, physical space and creates a path on which you can move forward. Being open to the possibility that you might be able to move on is the first sign that you already have.” 

4. Make a point to define who you are outside of the marriage. 

Instead of fixating on moving on, try focusing on yourself and re-embracing the goals and interests you may have put aside during your marriage, said reader Barry Fraser.

“I don’t think there’s an exact timeframe for moving on but what I do think helps immensely is regaining confidence in yourself,” he said. “Chances are, your relationship changed who you were and you lost your identity or self worth.” 

5.  Take comfort in knowing you might experience a moment where you finally feel free of the past. 

For writer Amy Koko, the moment she knew she was over her ex (or as over an ex as you can be when you have kids) happened unexpectedly on Thanksgiving, two years post-split. 

“The year before I had looked around and felt an overwhelming sadness for the one person who would never again be sitting at head of my table,” she said. “This year as we laughed at the table, I felt a flush of warmth remembering how my ex always drank a glass of egg nog with his turkey dinner. In that moment, I hoped he was enjoying his day as much as I was…and that’s when I knew.” 

6. But don’t be surprised if a new wave of sadness hits after you thought you had processed your grief.  

Six months after her “drama”-filled divorce was finalized, HuffPost blogger Lindsey Light felt emotionally ready to date again. But then, seemingly out of the nowhere, she experienced another bout of sadness. 

“Today, I find myself still dealing with some of the repercussions of my divorce and marriage,” she said. “We were together seven years; I think it’s good that I’m aware of this as I move forward in my life and relationships. That said, I can say with certainty that I am no longer bitter or heartbroken — and I definitely don’t have any romantic feelings left for my ex.” 

7. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to get over it. 

We put a lot of pressure on ourselves to move on after divorce — but maybe instead the goal should be some version of closure from the past, said psychologist Andra Brosh.

“One of the greatest misperceptions of divorce is that it’s something you move on from,” she said. “The end of a marriage can be grieved and embraced as a life experience, but the mark it leaves can never be erased.” 

 

8. Down the road, try to look back fondly on the good times you had with your ex. (You know there were some good times.) 

It’s healing in its own way to look back on the years you spent with your ex with a sense of appreciation, said Gould.

 

“I like to think that my ex still has a small place in my heart that’s compartmentalized,” she said. “I honor the time we had together, but limited in a healthy way.”

 

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Moving On – EP

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Moving On – EP – Meredith Wilson

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Moving On – EP

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Genre: Pop

Price: $ 4.95

Release Date: October 14, 2015

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Love does hurt, as they say; or it can hurt, literally and figuratively.

Some of us know this better than others. Some of us know it only too well, sadly.

One individual we all know and love knows it extremely well. She has been known to kiss a frog or two. In fact, she recently told me when I met her in California, “I don’t expect much from frogs anymore.”

Meanwhile, the press has reported that on at least three separate incidents, she attempted to coerce her partner into a relationship, beating him when he refused. Other times she reacted with violence and rage when he broke up with her, or when he was simply hugging a friend, talking to another woman, or even just standing too close to them. She denies all of these, of course.

If a bad childhood is synonymous with poor choices, her background didn’t help in her love choices. She grew up in a small town in Iowa; her father died when she was young, and her mother wasn’t that nice to her. She had to enter beauty contests to survive, as many attractive single women do nowadays. She had a lot of vulnerability which she had to hide, because of her need to be a superstar and the competition. She had to grow up hard and fast and tough. Think Lady Gaga, Nicki Minaj and others and one has the correct picture.

Meanwhile, with respect to love, she has been in and out of this same relationship with the same individual from 1978 to 2015. That’s almost 37 years of love hurting. Indeed, if breaking up is hard to do this lady knows all about it and heartache firsthand.

Here then are words of wisdom from her when we sat together this month and I asked for her take on how to walk away graciously from a relationship gone bad. Here is her mature and brief response on how to think and move forward positively and graciously as a woman when our hearts are broken by men we love who no longer love us.

She told me on the topic of love hurts, in a French accent:

“Only time can heal your broken heart, just as only time can heal his broken arms and legs.” — Miss Piggy

That’s all she would say, before she stormed off. She has obviously forgiven and healed nicely.

Is it wine for the swine time maybe?!

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Love Hurts: A Mature, Brief Surmise on Moving on From Rejection and Heartache

“I can’t make you love me when you don’t, ” Bonnie Raitt sings. “How am I supposed to live without you,” Michael Bolton swoons. “Nothing compares to you,” Sinead O’ Connor laments. “Love is a battlefield,” Pat Benetar told us. Finally, “love hurts,” Nazareth informs us.

Love does hurt, as they say; or it can hurt, literally and figuratively.

Some of us know this better than others. Some of us know it only too well, sadly.

One individual we all know and love knows it extremely well. She has been known to kiss a frog or two. In fact, she recently told me when I met her in California, “I don’t expect much from frogs anymore.”

Meanwhile, the press has reported that on at least three separate incidents, she attempted to coerce her partner into a relationship, beating him when he refused. Other times she reacted with violence and rage when he broke up with her, or when he was simply hugging a friend, talking to another woman, or even just standing too close to them. She denies all of these, of course.

If a bad childhood is synonymous with poor choices, her background didn’t help in her love choices. She grew up in a small town in Iowa; her father died when she was young, and her mother wasn’t that nice to her. She had to enter beauty contests to survive, as many attractive single women do nowadays. She had a lot of vulnerability which she had to hide, because of her need to be a superstar and the competition. She had to grow up hard and fast and tough. Think Lady Gaga, Nicki Minaj and others and one has the correct picture.

Meanwhile, with respect to love, she has been in and out of this same relationship with the same individual from 1978 to 2015. That’s almost 37 years of love hurting. Indeed, if breaking up is hard to do this lady knows all about it and heartache firsthand.

Here then are words of wisdom from her when we sat together this month and I asked for her take on how to walk away graciously from a relationship gone bad. Here is her mature and brief response on how to think and move forward positively and graciously as a woman when our hearts are broken by men we love who no longer love us.

She told me on the topic of love hurts, in a French accent:

“Only time can heal your broken heart, just as only time can heal his broken arms and legs.” — Miss Piggy

That’s all she would say, before she stormed off. She has obviously forgiven and healed nicely.

Is it wine for the swine time maybe?!

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Everything You Need To Know About Moving On After An Affair

 Moving on with your life after you’ve been cheated on can feel like an impossible task — especially if your S.O. decides to stay with his or her affair partner. 

First, you need to give yourself permission to feel everything: bitterness, sorrow, confusion, rage (in moderation). 

But at some point you need to move on and not let the affair define you. Below, experts on the subject of infidelity share their best advice for letting go and starting over after an affair. 

1. Stop telling yourself you’ve been wronged.  

No, it’s not right that your ex cheated. And if he or she has moved on with the affair partner, it definitely doesn’t seem fair. But if you’re ever going to move on, you need to stop thinking of the affair as an injustice, said Tracy Schorn, the author of Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide

“Every time you go down the rabbit hole of how unfair it is and compare how happy they are after what they did, ask yourself, ‘OK, so what am I going to do about it? How am I going to move forward anyway?'” she advised. “That’s all you control — you. You don’t control the crappy things other people do. You only control how you’re going to respond. So focus on what you control — your new, cheater-free life.” 

2. Accept that the marriage is over. 

Once you’ve made the decision to end the marriage or relationship, commit yourself to leaving. That means figuring out the logistics of divorce (Where are you going to stay? Should you retain a lawyer or is mediation your best bet?) and also coming to terms with the finality of your decision, said Caroline Madden, a marriage therapist and the author of Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband? 

“Stop waiting for your spouse to come through the door,” she said. “Stop arguing about the affair. There is nothing to argue about anymore.

Instead, Madden said to “take an honest inventory of how the marriage wasn’t working for you. If he or she was cheating, your needs probably weren’t being met and you deserve to be with a spouse who doesn’t bail during rough times.” 

3. Stop wasting your energy hating the affair partner.

It may feel cathartic to disparage and name-call your ex’s affair partner when you rant to your friends, but at some point, you’ll need to curb your anger, said Madden. Since your ex was the one who made your marriage vows, the lion’s share of the blame should rest on his or her shoulders, she added. 

“When you waste your energy thinking about the affair partner, you get sucked into  comparing yourself to him or her and hating yourself,” Madden said. “You may think you are judging her, but you’re actually judging yourself.” 

Even if you think you’re fitter, more accomplished and an all-around better person than the other man or woman, drawing comparisons is ultimately a losing proposition, she said. 

“In any event, your husband or wife chose the other person over you,” she said. “If you keep thinking about her, you will continue to hurt yourself, more and more.”

4. Don’t let anyone dictate forgiveness. 

Forgiveness is the next step to moving on but don’t let anyone rush you, said Schorn.

“Don’t let anyone dictate that timeline or say that you ‘must’ forgive,” she said. “Let go of some superhuman expectation of magnanimity and forgiveness. Just focus on building your new life. You’ll get to the ‘meh’ stage eventually, I promise.”

And if you’re worried that forgiveness is a tall order, it may help to know how Schorn defines the word when it comes to infidelity.

“Forgiveness means your ex doesn’t have the power to hurt you any more,” she said.  ”It takes a long time to get there. In the process, be kind to yourself.” 

5. Don’t tell the kids.

You may be completely devastated but if you have kids, that doesn’t give you permission to tell them about mommy or daddy’s new “friend,” said Madden. 

“If you tell them, you will involve them in deep adult issues that will threaten their foundation for all relationships,” she said. “It could cause them to worry and wonder if they can ever really trust their future romantic partner.”

She added: “The time to tell the truth will eventually come, but for now, let them have their childhood a little bit longer.” 

6. Don’t isolate yourself. 

If you can swing it, find a therapist who can help you process the rollercoaster of emotions you’re undoubtedly feeling. If not, reach out to that one friend who always dispenses balanced, nonjudgemental advice, said Samantha Rodman, a psychologist and the author of How to Talk to Your Kids about Your Divorce. 

“Don’t go it alone if you don’t have to,” she said. “Even online forums can be helpful to start to realize that you’re not alone.” 

7.  Rediscover yourself. 

Infidelity can do a number on your self-esteem. When you start to feel really low, remind yourself of how bad ass you were — and still are! — by exploring hobbies and interests you put on the back burner during the marriage, said Rodman. 

“Think about what makes you feel confident and most like yourself, whether it’s cooking, taking a dance class or even just spending some time with friends,” she said. “Activities that you left behind in your old relationship can make you feel more ready to move on and enjoy your future.” 

8. Don’t let your ex steal your joy. 

You know the saying “the best revenge is success”? It’s 100 percent true. Let your elaborate scheme for vengeance fall to the wayside and decide instead to live your life with gusto. Nothing will tick your cheating ex off more, Schorn said.

“People who cheat have a vested interest in rubbing their fabulous, new, sparkly life in your face —  it has to be fabulous to justify the trail of broken hearts and broken homes,” she explained. “Ignore. Block. You’re still you. Cheaters might try and take your children, your pension, and your wedding china — but they can’t have your soul. You captain that.” 

 

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 Moving on with your life after you’ve been cheated on can feel like an impossible task — especially if your S.O. decides to stay with his or her affair partner. 

First, you need to give yourself permission to feel everything: bitterness, sorrow, confusion, rage (in moderation). 

But at some point you need to move on and not let the affair define you. Below, experts on the subject of infidelity share their best advice for letting go and starting over after an affair. 

1. Stop telling yourself you’ve been wronged.  

No, it’s not right that your ex cheated. And if he or she has moved on with the affair partner, it definitely doesn’t seem fair. But if you’re ever going to move on, you need to stop thinking of the affair as an injustice, said Tracy Schorn, the author of Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide

“Every time you go down the rabbit hole of how unfair it is and compare how happy they are after what they did, ask yourself, ‘OK, so what am I going to do about it? How am I going to move forward anyway?'” she advised. “That’s all you control — you. You don’t control the crappy things other people do. You only control how you’re going to respond. So focus on what you control — your new, cheater-free life.” 

2. Accept that the marriage is over. 

Once you’ve made the decision to end the marriage or relationship, commit yourself to leaving. That means figuring out the logistics of divorce (Where are you going to stay? Should you retain a lawyer or is mediation your best bet?) and also coming to terms with the finality of your decision, said Caroline Madden, a marriage therapist and the author of Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband? 

“Stop waiting for your spouse to come through the door,” she said. “Stop arguing about the affair. There is nothing to argue about anymore.

Instead, Madden said to “take an honest inventory of how the marriage wasn’t working for you. If he or she was cheating, your needs probably weren’t being met and you deserve to be with a spouse who doesn’t bail during rough times.” 

3. Stop wasting your energy hating the affair partner.

It may feel cathartic to disparage and name-call your ex’s affair partner when you rant to your friends, but at some point, you’ll need to curb your anger, said Madden. Since your ex was the one who made your marriage vows, the lion’s share of the blame should rest on his or her shoulders, she added. 

“When you waste your energy thinking about the affair partner, you get sucked into  comparing yourself to him or her and hating yourself,” Madden said. “You may think you are judging her, but you’re actually judging yourself.” 

Even if you think you’re fitter, more accomplished and an all-around better person than the other man or woman, drawing comparisons is ultimately a losing proposition, she said. 

“In any event, your husband or wife chose the other person over you,” she said. “If you keep thinking about her, you will continue to hurt yourself, more and more.”

4. Don’t let anyone dictate forgiveness. 

Forgiveness is the next step to moving on but don’t let anyone rush you, said Schorn.

“Don’t let anyone dictate that timeline or say that you ‘must’ forgive,” she said. “Let go of some superhuman expectation of magnanimity and forgiveness. Just focus on building your new life. You’ll get to the ‘meh’ stage eventually, I promise.”

And if you’re worried that forgiveness is a tall order, it may help to know how Schorn defines the word when it comes to infidelity.

“Forgiveness means your ex doesn’t have the power to hurt you any more,” she said.  ”It takes a long time to get there. In the process, be kind to yourself.” 

5. Don’t tell the kids.

You may be completely devastated but if you have kids, that doesn’t give you permission to tell them about mommy or daddy’s new “friend,” said Madden. 

“If you tell them, you will involve them in deep adult issues that will threaten their foundation for all relationships,” she said. “It could cause them to worry and wonder if they can ever really trust their future romantic partner.”

She added: “The time to tell the truth will eventually come, but for now, let them have their childhood a little bit longer.” 

6. Don’t isolate yourself. 

If you can swing it, find a therapist who can help you process the rollercoaster of emotions you’re undoubtedly feeling. If not, reach out to that one friend who always dispenses balanced, nonjudgemental advice, said Samantha Rodman, a psychologist and the author of How to Talk to Your Kids about Your Divorce. 

“Don’t go it alone if you don’t have to,” she said. “Even online forums can be helpful to start to realize that you’re not alone.” 

7.  Rediscover yourself. 

Infidelity can do a number on your self-esteem. When you start to feel really low, remind yourself of how bad ass you were — and still are! — by exploring hobbies and interests you put on the back burner during the marriage, said Rodman. 

“Think about what makes you feel confident and most like yourself, whether it’s cooking, taking a dance class or even just spending some time with friends,” she said. “Activities that you left behind in your old relationship can make you feel more ready to move on and enjoy your future.” 

8. Don’t let your ex steal your joy. 

You know the saying “the best revenge is success”? It’s 100 percent true. Let your elaborate scheme for vengeance fall to the wayside and decide instead to live your life with gusto. Nothing will tick your cheating ex off more, Schorn said.

“People who cheat have a vested interest in rubbing their fabulous, new, sparkly life in your face —  it has to be fabulous to justify the trail of broken hearts and broken homes,” she explained. “Ignore. Block. You’re still you. Cheaters might try and take your children, your pension, and your wedding china — but they can’t have your soul. You captain that.” 

 

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 Moving on with your life after you’ve been cheated on can feel like an impossible task — especially if your S.O. decides to stay with his or her affair partner. 

First, you need to give yourself permission to feel everything: bitterness, sorrow, confusion, rage (in moderation). 

But at some point you need to move on and not let the affair define you. Below, experts on the subject of infidelity share their best advice for letting go and starting over after an affair. 

1. Stop telling yourself you’ve been wronged.  

No, it’s not right that your ex cheated. And if he or she has moved on with the affair partner, it definitely doesn’t seem fair. But if you’re ever going to move on, you need to stop thinking of the affair as an injustice, said Tracy Schorn, the author of Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide

“Every time you go down the rabbit hole of how unfair it is and compare how happy they are after what they did, ask yourself, ‘OK, so what am I going to do about it? How am I going to move forward anyway?'” she advised. “That’s all you control — you. You don’t control the crappy things other people do. You only control how you’re going to respond. So focus on what you control — your new, cheater-free life.” 

2. Accept that the marriage is over. 

Once you’ve made the decision to end the marriage or relationship, commit yourself to leaving. That means figuring out the logistics of divorce (Where are you going to stay? Should you retain a lawyer or is mediation your best bet?) and also coming to terms with the finality of your decision, said Caroline Madden, a marriage therapist and the author of Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband? 

“Stop waiting for your spouse to come through the door,” she said. “Stop arguing about the affair. There is nothing to argue about anymore.

Instead, Madden said to “take an honest inventory of how the marriage wasn’t working for you. If he or she was cheating, your needs probably weren’t being met and you deserve to be with a spouse who doesn’t bail during rough times.” 

3. Stop wasting your energy hating the affair partner.

It may feel cathartic to disparage and name-call your ex’s affair partner when you rant to your friends, but at some point, you’ll need to curb your anger, said Madden. Since your ex was the one who made your marriage vows, the lion’s share of the blame should rest on his or her shoulders, she added. 

“When you waste your energy thinking about the affair partner, you get sucked into  comparing yourself to him or her and hating yourself,” Madden said. “You may think you are judging her, but you’re actually judging yourself.” 

Even if you think you’re fitter, more accomplished and an all-around better person than the other man or woman, drawing comparisons is ultimately a losing proposition, she said. 

“In any event, your husband or wife chose the other person over you,” she said. “If you keep thinking about her, you will continue to hurt yourself, more and more.”

4. Don’t let anyone dictate forgiveness. 

Forgiveness is the next step to moving on but don’t let anyone rush you, said Schorn.

“Don’t let anyone dictate that timeline or say that you ‘must’ forgive,” she said. “Let go of some superhuman expectation of magnanimity and forgiveness. Just focus on building your new life. You’ll get to the ‘meh’ stage eventually, I promise.”

And if you’re worried that forgiveness is a tall order, it may help to know how Schorn defines the word when it comes to infidelity.

“Forgiveness means your ex doesn’t have the power to hurt you any more,” she said.  ”It takes a long time to get there. In the process, be kind to yourself.” 

5. Don’t tell the kids.

You may be completely devastated but if you have kids, that doesn’t give you permission to tell them about mommy or daddy’s new “friend,” said Madden. 

“If you tell them, you will involve them in deep adult issues that will threaten their foundation for all relationships,” she said. “It could cause them to worry and wonder if they can ever really trust their future romantic partner.”

She added: “The time to tell the truth will eventually come, but for now, let them have their childhood a little bit longer.” 

6. Don’t isolate yourself. 

If you can swing it, find a therapist who can help you process the rollercoaster of emotions you’re undoubtedly feeling. If not, reach out to that one friend who always dispenses balanced, nonjudgemental advice, said Samantha Rodman, a psychologist and the author of How to Talk to Your Kids about Your Divorce. 

“Don’t go it alone if you don’t have to,” she said. “Even online forums can be helpful to start to realize that you’re not alone.” 

7.  Rediscover yourself. 

Infidelity can do a number on your self-esteem. When you start to feel really low, remind yourself of how bad ass you were — and still are! — by exploring hobbies and interests you put on the back burner during the marriage, said Rodman. 

“Think about what makes you feel confident and most like yourself, whether it’s cooking, taking a dance class or even just spending some time with friends,” she said. “Activities that you left behind in your old relationship can make you feel more ready to move on and enjoy your future.” 

8. Don’t let your ex steal your joy. 

You know the saying “the best revenge is success”? It’s 100 percent true. Let your elaborate scheme for vengeance fall to the wayside and decide instead to live your life with gusto. Nothing will tick your cheating ex off more, Schorn said.

“People who cheat have a vested interest in rubbing their fabulous, new, sparkly life in your face —  it has to be fabulous to justify the trail of broken hearts and broken homes,” she explained. “Ignore. Block. You’re still you. Cheaters might try and take your children, your pension, and your wedding china — but they can’t have your soul. You captain that.” 

 

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As we all know, the human population is divided into two types: cat people and dog people. I’ve always identified as the latter, and consequently have spent the past 20 years (give or take) blithely ignorant of the Internet viral cat video phenomenon.

But suddenly I’ve been presented with a fast-track opportunity to play catch-up, in the form of the Museum of Moving Images’s new show, “How Cats Took Over the Internet.” Yesterday after work I trudged out to Long Island City to check it out, ahead of the official opening today.

Organized by the museum’s Associate Curator of Digital Media, Jason Eppink (decked out at the preview in a teal polo shirt, fuchsia shorts, and socks pulled up to hug his calves), the show focuses on cat videos not as art objects, but as important pieces of vernacular culture.

“My M.O. is to take a silly subject and address it seriously,” Eppink told Vogue.com by phone a few days ago. “There’s this assumed narrative that’s the backdrop of what happens on the web, this whole pejorative way of talking about the Internet as the place you waste your time [watching] cat videos. I think there’s a sort of hell in a handbasket thinking to any new technology. There are probably good reasons why we’re doing this. Let’s take a look at it and trace its history.”



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That’s exactly what the show does, examining the evolution of the phenomenon from the earliest days of the World Wide Web in the mid-nineties to the present. There’s also a study of what the cat-video equivalent is in other cultures around the world, an examination of whether cats truly are more Internet-popular than dogs, and a 24-minute greatest hits video, organized by Will Braden, curator of the Internet Cat Video Festival at Minneapolis’s Walker Arts Center, and featuring such viral triumphs as 2012’s Boots and Cats and 2009’s Fat Cat in Pot (attempt 2).

So did this show convert me to the ranks of cat lovers? Nope, but I did learn a lot (read on for more on that). And, for whatever it’s worth, I also spent some time this morning falling down the rabbit hole of this LOLcat translator.

I CAN LERN 2 LUV VIDEOS OV KATS? Only time will tell. Below, five major takeaways from “How Cats Took Over the Internet.”

1. The biggest feline celebrities tend to have medical disorders

To name a few: Grumpy Cat suffers from feline dwarfism, Lil Bub has osteopetrosis, a rare bone-density disorder, Lazarus has a cleft palette, Monty lacks a nasal bridge. Why is this a thing? It all comes down to Kindchenschema, the theory of cuteness: We’re attracted to creatures that are “infantile and powerless,” says Eppink, which “triggers caring in adults.” In other words, the only thing we find cuter than a regular cat, with its infant-like “large head and eyes and small nose and mouth” is a cat made extra vulnerable by a disability.



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2. Cats are not actually more popular than dogs on the Internet

The museum looked at tags and descriptors on Buzzfeed, Tumblr, Reddit, and YouTube, and discovered that Tumblr is the only platform on which cats trump dogs. So why the cat video meme? In real life, “liking dogs is way more socially OK,” explains Eppink. Cat ownership carries more negative connotations (think: crazy cat ladies). So while cat people may be timid about geeking out over their cats in real life, they’re more comfortable doing it on the Internet. There’s also the “virtual cat park” theory coined by Jack Shepherd, the editorial director of Buzzfeed: Because cats are generally indoor animals, the web has become a space where cat owners can interact the way dog owners do at dog parks.

3. Cats are better video subjects than dogs

Dogs tend to acknowledge the camera; cats don’t, which makes cat videos feel more authentic and voyeuristic. The show compares them to surveillance videos.

4. LOLcats goes way back

I CAN HAZ CHEEZBURGER? That now-familiar voice may actually derive from the early days of the web. Members of a newsgroup forum for cat lovers back in 1995 started a practice of role-playing as their cats, using a baby-ish way of speaking that became known as MeowChat. Eppink thinks that group may have lead to the much newer LOLcats phenomenon, in which funny pictures of cats are paired with off-kilter cat-voiced captions. Interestingly MeowChat, Eppink adds, may have itself derived from an even earlier WoofChat, which was, of course, inspired by dogs.

5. The animal video thing is culturally specific

Cats, perhaps unsurprisingly, are really popular on the Internets of North America, Western Europe, and Japan. But in other cultures, other animals reign supreme. For example, Ugandans are into goats and chickens, Mexicans prefer llamas, and China is all about the river crab and grass-mud horse, which have real function as ways to subvert government Internet censors.



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I am going to tackle head-on the conservative attack on Caitlyn Jenner that has erupted since the Rachel Dolezal story broke. I will leave the response to Dolezal to others to parse, but I will take my colleague, Jonathan Capehart’s advice and “move along” to, once again, school the conservatives in biology.

As Richard Pérez-Peña reported in The New York Times:

But many conservative commentators accused liberals of hypocrisy for accepting Caitlyn Jenner as a woman, but not Ms. Dolezal as black. ‘So, to recap, if Rachel Dolezal says she is a man, we must all agree, on pain of being publicly censured,’ Rod Dreher wrote in The American Conservative. ‘But if Rachel Dolezal says she is black, it is fair game to challenge her claim.’

In National Review, Charles C. W. Cooke wrote that ‘lies are not necessarily delusions, and it is possible that Dolezal is just a good old-fashioned fabricator,’ but he predicted that people on the left would eventually come to her defense.

I have to hand it to the right-wing noise machine to not have missed an opportunity for the trifecta of attacking feminists, trans women and African-Americans all at once. Quite an impressive feat, actually, with little preparation. But it all falls apart if we take the simple tweet Jonathan Capehart sent:

FTLOG, Caitlyn Jenner is Not Pretending to Be a Woman.

Charles Cook, quoted above, provides a number of explanations for Dolezal’s behavior — lying, delusional behavior or “good, old-fashioned” fabrication. I can add confabulation, an old-fashioned ruse, or maybe simply a padding of the résumé which got out of hand years ago and fit so well she even forgot her own truth. They all fit under the umbrella of pretense.

Caitlyn Jenner is not pretending. Jenner has been a woman since birth — or more likely, before birth — like many, if not most, trans women. The development of transsexualism, the condition of being transgender, is well described by experts in the field as “atypical gender development.” There is research galore to satisfy anyone’s, including an open-minded conservative’s, curiosity. And while there are variations in trans biology, many which have yet to be seriously studied due to the general American discomfort with all things sexual, it really is pretty clear cut: your sense of self as a sexual being, your gender identity, is rooted in your brain. We all, as human beings, have a gender identity. For the small proportion of the population, roughly around a half of a percent, whose gender identity doesn’t match their genitals, the choice is to either live with the dysphoria, or reassign their gender to fit their gender identity, with or without anatomical and physiological interventions. This isn’t, when you get down to it, very complicated.

Sean Davis, writing in the Federalist, states:

In a 2013 essay for The Atlantic, writer Ta-Nehisi Coates explained the social, not biological, foundation of race in the modern age:

Our notion of what constitutes ‘white’ and what constitutes ‘black’ is a product of social context. It is utterly impossible to look at the delineation of a ‘Southern race’ and not see the Civil War, the creation of an ‘Irish race’ and not think of Cromwell’s ethnic cleansing, the creation of a ‘Jewish race’ and not see anti-Semitism. There is no fixed sense of ‘whiteness’ or ‘blackness,’ not even today.

He makes a great point. We know precisely the definition of male (an X and a Y chromosome) and female (two X chromosomes)-or at least we did before society lost its collective mind-but is it possible to give a precise, quantifiable definition of black or white?

Coates argues that you can’t, because so much of it depends on the social and historical context of a given culture.

I agree with Coates, because regardless of the biological differences among the groups we classify as races, be they the perceived differences in melatonin levels in skin melanocytes or the genetic heritage of Ashkenazi vs. Sephardi Jews, the lived reality of the “races” in our modern world is purely a social construct. Where he steps in it is his categorical statement, reminiscent of the recent statement of Archbishop Cordileone about Jenner — “The clear biological fact is that a human being is born either male or female” — which is utterly false. I’ve written about this in greater depth the past two weeks, and I won’t repeat myself here. Davis doesn’t know that the definition of male and female is “precise,” because it isn’t. That he, like Cordileone, states his cartoonish definition of sex as a simple fact is simply more evidence of the reality of cultural and religious conservatives who have, since the days of Galileo, refused to take the time to understand science or how it works. Ideology trumps reality, and it must be so comforting to be so simple-minded.

There is also a particular reason that this analogy of “transracial” to “transgender” is so hurtful to the trans community. The lead proponent of the effort to repair trans kids, Dr. Ken Zucker of the Center for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH) in Toronto, once famously concocted a new diagnosis called “racial identity disorder” to justify his team’s efforts at reparative therapy:

Suppose you were a clinician and a 4-year-old black kid came into your office and said he wanted to be white. Would you go with that? … I don’t think we would.

In that NPR interview Zucker went on to say:

By declaring the child as transgendered at, say, age 3 or age 4 or age 6, and then saying in a sense, ‘Go with the flow,’ … that will impact, I believe, on how the kid’s gender identity differentiates.

The reporter interpreted that comment to mean that Zucker has come to believe that taking the view that kids are born transgender ultimately produces more transgender people. So have a few other holdouts, like Bailey, Blanchard and Vilain, about whom I’ve recently written. As Vilain and Bailey said about trans girls -” we would prefer to save Maxine the serious medical interventions and possible side effects,” which is simply a polite way of saying they’d like to spare the world another trans woman.

Finally, to show that not all conservatives are transphobic simpletons, we have this studied response from Nick Gillespie of the libertarian wing:

To say that Jenner’s very public coming out disturbed social conservatives is an understatement. Between the ritual unwillingness to use female pronouns in relation to Jenner to exhortations that she is clearly deranged, it’s fairer to say that cons lost their shit.

‘A surgically damaged man appeared on the cover of Vanity Fair, and the applause is mandatory,’ opined National Review’s David French. ‘If we’re not going to defend as a party basic principles of male and female, that life is sacred because it comes from God, then you’re going to lose the vast majority of people who’ve joined that party,’ howled Iowa talk-radio host Steve Deace.

It probably didn’t help that Jenner called herself a Republican in a widely viewed interview with Diane Sawyer and that low-wattage GOP presidential candidates Lindsay Graham and Rick Santorum showed kindness toward the one-time world-record holder.

In a great roundup of conservative responses to Jenner (from which the French and Deace quotes are cribbed) and a keen analysis of why the antagonistic response is ‘ultimately a loser’ for conservatives, The Economist’s Will Wilkinson writes, ‘Caitlyn Jenner of Malibu is a leading indicator not of the secularisation of America, but of the ongoing Americanisation of Christianity.’

At Outside the Beltway, Doug Mataconis argues that when conservatives equate Dolezal and Jenner, they aren’t making ‘serious arguments, of course.’ [It’s just] another attempt by social conservatives to demean transgender people, a phenomenon that has been quite prevalent on that side of the political spectrum over the past two weeks. Even taking the arguments at face value, though, they don’t add up…

Rachel Dolezal didn’t ‘choose her race,’ she committed fraud by lying about her background. She can choose to adopt whatever culture she wishes, but that’s not what happened here. She lied about her background, not just to the public but apparently also on job applications.

That’s fraud. The people who are trying to use this case to draw analogies to, or mostly just to make stupid, snarly comments about, the issues raised last week by the Caitlyn Jenner story, are just being obnoxious jerks.

Once again we have conservatives behaving badly. I hope we all, including the feminists among us, have learned from these past few days, and will choose to discriminate between pretense and truth.

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Watch Bjork’s ‘Moving Album Cover’ for ‘Family’

With the physical release of her new album, Vulnicura, coming in just a week, Björk shared what she calls a “moving album cover” set to accompany new track “Family.” The video is a collaboration between the singer and artist Andrew Thomas Huang, who worked with Björk on the “Black Lake” video at…
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Wara From The NBHD, Tunji Ige, & GrandeMarshall Drop “Moving” | Wired Tracks 3.11.15 [LISTEN]

While 2015 promises a bunch of prominent rap releases, there’s also a list of newcomers to look out for. Three of our favorites–Wara From The NBHD, Tunji Ige, and GrandeMarshall–connect on a new track called “Moving.”

Produced by Ben Pramuk and Tunji, the cut dons a luring instrumental, complete with percolating drums. And that’s without mentioning the young trio’s sharp, yet uniquely different verses. Having featured Wara in our Certified Fresh series, it’s safe to say that yours truly foresees him having a strong year. Tunji and Fool’s Gold Records artist Grande, however, are two promising spitters representing a new class in Philadelphia’s music scene.

Stream “Moving,” which is the highlighted song in today’s Wired Tracks. New songs from Chevy Woods, Rome Fortune and Ceej of Retro Sushi/Two-9, and more below.

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Chevy Woods – “Now That I’m Up”

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Alex Faith & Dre Murphy ft. Swoope – “Wake Up Music”

MURS – “Okey Dog”

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Five Things That Hold You Back From Moving On In Relationships

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Cayetana, ‘Scott Get the Van, I’m Moving’

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Moving ‘Merch:’ (T-Shirts and CDs) Sandra Bernhard at Joe’s Pub

“We like to make it intimate here at Joe’s Pub,” says Sandra Bernhard, illustrating her trademark penchant for frank talk, “You don’t need that Broadway Waspy Albee bull–.” Arriving onstage in a sequined Suzy Wong number and silver go-go boots, Bernhard sings, “Where am I going?,” delighted that she’s right here, accompanied by her long time music director Mitch Kaplan on piano, John Badamo on drums, and guitarist Kevin Andreas, for a happy, entertaining blend of snark and sass. She had the opening nighters of a six-day run at Joe’s Pub eating her brand–now that she is one– out of the palm of her hand, and buying “merch” in the Public Theater lobby, as candor gives way to commerce.

Keyed into the Zeitgeist, she’s obsessed with the Sunday New York Times Style wedding section, quipping she’s just making sure Jews marry Jews. Gay marriage is much more exciting, she kvells with a little political zetz. Don’t get her started on the spare offerings at a goyische Thanksgiving, or the NYT food section reviving schmaltz. She wraps up a vignette over her rivalry with Angelina Jolie in Cannes over Brad Pitt with an adaptation of Dolly Parton’s “Jolene:” “Jolie, Jolie, please don’t take my man,” she sings out. Self-effacing, she shares an email from Jane Fonda who gushes over Sandy B., eh, the other one Sandra Bullock.

Bernhard tells us she lost her mother Jeanette this year. She mentions this in wistful passing, wondering what mom was doing while teenage Sandra was locked in her room listening to Laura Nyro. This quiet moment–maudlin, as she might describe it– shows how she keeps the intimacy alive.

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Prince Harry’s Moving Photos Prove African Orphans Aren’t Just The Face Of AIDS

During a recent trip to Africa, Prince Harry zoomed in on some inspiring progress in a country devastated by AIDS.

The British Royal visited kids in need in Lesotho who are benefit from the organization he co-founded, Sentebale. The primary focus of his trip was to track the charity’s developments on a new children’s center, but Harry also took time to photograph a few of the kids to document how they’re doing.

“These are children who have never had the chance to talk about their illness, and who had no idea that they were one of so many in their age group,” Prince Harry wrote in a caption of one of his photographs. “It was really emotional watching them interact with each other.”

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Prince Harry takes a photograph on a Fuji X100s Camera during a visit to a herd boy night school constructed by Sentebale on December 8, 2014 in Mokhotlong, Lesotho. (Photo by Chris Jackson – WPA Pool /Getty Images)

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A man in traditional Lesothan Dress poses for a photograph by Prince Harry at a herd boy school supported by Sentebale on December 8, 2014 in Maseru, Lesotho. (Photo by HRH Prince Henry of Wales via Getty Images)

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Lesothan children pose for the camera for Prince Harry on December 9, 2014 in Leribe, Lesotho. (Photo by HRH Prince Henry of Wales via Getty Images)

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Lesothan children pose for a photograph taken by Prince Harry at a herd boy school supported by Sentebale on December 10, 2014 in Maseru, Lesotho. (Photo by HRH Prince Henry of Wales via Getty Images)


The prince, who visited Lesotho for four days earlier this month, toured construction of the new facility, which will dramatically increase the number of vulnerable children the charity can serve.

The center offers educational and healthcare resources to orphans living with HIV. According to USAID, there are more than 350,000 orphans in Lesotho, and about 180,000 of them lost parents to AIDS.

“Some [are] really outgoing chatty kids, others slightly overwhelmed, but all with huge smiles,” Harry wrote. “This confirmed to me again that what we’re doing is going to change thousands of children’s lives, and hopefully save a generation.”

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Prince Harry plays with two young children (who are going through a program for malnourishment) during a visit to the organization supported by Sentebale on December 8, 2014 in Maseru, Lesotho. (Photo by Chris Jackson – WPA Pool /Getty Images)

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Prince Harry plays with a 3-year-old blind girl named Karabo during a visit to Phelisanong Children’s Home on December 6, 2014 in Pitseng, Lesotho. (Photo by Chris Jackson/Getty Images for Sentebale)

To support Sentebale’s work, visit the organization’s website.

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