R. Kelly’s Record Label RCA Releasing No New Music in Wake of ‘Surviving’ Documentary

R. Kelly might as well be record label-less right now — because his current one has frozen him out … putting new music on ice until the dust settles in his latest scandal … TMZ has learned. Sources familiar with R. Kelly’s contract and dealings with…

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Surviving Home: The Survivalist Series, Book 2 (Unabridged) – A. American

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Surviving Home: The Survivalist Series, Book 2 (Unabridged)

A. American

Genre: Sci Fi & Fantasy

Price: $ 29.95

Publish Date: October 30, 2013

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The Great Gasbag: An A-Z Study Guide to Surviving Trump World (Unabridged) – Joy Behar

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The Great Gasbag: An A-Z Study Guide to Surviving Trump World (Unabridged)

Joy Behar

Genre: Comedy

Price: $ 19.95

Publish Date: October 24, 2017

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Can’t Stand Losing You: Surviving The Police – Andy Grieve & Lauren Lazin

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Can’t Stand Losing You: Surviving The Police

Andy Grieve & Lauren Lazin

Genre: Documentary

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Release Date: March 20, 2015


Based on the acclaimed memoir by renowned guitarist Andy Summers, CAN'T STAND LOSING YOU follows Summers' journey from his early days in the psychedelic 60s music scene, when he played with The Animals, to chance encounters with drummer Stewart Copeland and bassist/vocalist Sting, which led to the formation of a punk trio, The Police. During the band's phenomenal rise and its dissolution at the height of their popularity in the early 80s, Summers captured history with his candid photographs. Utilizing rare archival footage and insights from the guitarist's side of the stage, CAN'T STAND LOSING YOU is "a unique exploration of the trio's history" (National Post) that brings together past and present as the band members reunite, thirty years later, for a massive world tour.

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Comedian Who Lied About Surviving 9/11 Opens Up For The First Time

Comedian Steve Rannazzisi, in his first public comments since he was exposed for lying he was in the World Trade Center during the 9/11 attacks, explained how he believed his deception protected him from “cruel” fellow comedians and defined his career.

Rannazzisi, star of “The League,” apologized Tuesday during a 40-minute interview on Howard Stern’s radio show and addressed last months’ New York Times story that revealed he wasn’t working in the Merrill Lynch office on the 54th floor of the World Trade Center south tower when the north tower was hit. Rannazzisi recounted the fake experience to interviewers for years and claimed the ordeal motivated him to follow his dreams of being an entertainer.

“Do you think of yourself as psychologically disturbed? How do you view yourself after doing this thing?” Stern asked.

“Psychologically disturbed — I don’t know if that’s the way to put it,” Rannazzisi said. “I do see someone and am starting to figure out more about myself: codependency and wanting people to like me and to make people happy.”

The “why” is still unclear, he said.

“It wasn’t calculated at all,” he said. “It was as simple as sitting at the Comedy Store and everyone being like, ‘Hey, you’re from New York?’ ‘Yeah.’ ‘Were you just there? You were around?’ ‘Yeah, I was downtown.’ ‘You worked there?’ ‘Yeah, I did.’”

Within seconds, Rannazzisi said he felt he couldn’t set the record straight.  

“You have like 15 seconds, I think, to kind of go, ‘Wait, hold on. Stop. I’m sorry. That’s not true.'” he said. “If you pass that 15 seconds … now, it becomes a thing where you’re like, ‘Now, I have to be the guy that’s very strange and weird and just said I lied about 9/11.’”

Once the fake story gained traction, Rannazzisi said the resulting sympathy gave him security in the brutal comedy community.

“I think it might have been like, comedians are cruel people, especially in the beginning,” he said. “And I kind of was like, well maybe people will not be as mean to me or not make as many jokes about me because they think that this is what I went through.”

When the Times confronted him last month with conflicting versions of his 9/11 story, Rannazzisi responded with a statement confirming that he had lied. The confession may be damning to his career, but he said he feels relief and is glad he can finally apologize.

“I know what I did was terrible, and I know that I hurt a lot of people — people that lost people, people that helped people survive — and those people, those are the people that I truly am sorry,” he said. “That’s why I wanted to come on here.”

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Surviving the Evacuation, Book 1: London – Frank Tayell

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Surviving the Evacuation, Book 1: London

Frank Tayell

Genre: Science Fiction

Publish Date: July 18, 2014

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The outbreak began in New York. Soon it had spread to the rest of the world. People were attacked, infected, and they died. Then they came back. Nowhere is safe from the undead. As nations fell, as anarchy and civil war took grip across the globe, Britain was quarantined. The press was nationalised. The phone networks were blocked. Martial law, curfews, rationing, it wasn't enough. An evacuation was planned. Everyone had to leave the inland towns, cities and villages and head to one of the defensive enclaves being established around the coast.  Bill Wright broke his leg on the day of the outbreak. Unable to join the evacuation, he watched from his window as the streets filled with refugees, he watched as the streets emptied once more. He watched as they filled up again, this time with the undead. He is trapped. He is alone. He is running out of food and water. He knows that to reach the safety of the enclaves he will have to venture out into the wasteland that once was England. On that journey he will ultimately discover the horrific truth behind a decades old conspiracy.  This is the first volume of his journal. (74,000 words)

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Surviving Home: The Survivalist Series, Book 2 (Unabridged) – A. American

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Surviving Home: The Survivalist Series, Book 2 (Unabridged)

A. American

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Surviving Home: The Survivalist Series, Book 2 (Unabridged) – A. American

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Surviving Home: The Survivalist Series, Book 2 (Unabridged)

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Think Like a Tree – Using Live Oak Trees as a Blueprint for Surviving Hurricanes

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Comedian Tracy Morgan Weds 14 Months After Surviving Car Wreck

Tracy Morgan, a star of comedy series “30 Rock” and cast member of “Saturday Night Live,” married his long-time fiancee on Sunday, 14 months after suffering life-threatening injuries in a deadly car wreck, People magazine reported on its web site.

Morgan, 46, sustained a brain injury and broken bones when a Walmart tractor-trailer hit his limousine on the New Jersey Turnpike as he returned from a gig in Atlantic City in June last year.

The comedian’s wedding to Megan Wollover on Sunday night was attended by close friends and family, the couple’s 2-year-old daughter, Maven.

“After almost losing Tracy last year, I am so grateful to finally be married to the love of my life,” Wollover told People.

“We have been through so much and our love is stronger for it,” Wollover was quoted as saying.

 

The magazine reported that Morgan’s representatives also confirmed the marriage.

Morgan has not performed since the crash, in which a close friend died, but will host an episode of sketch show “Saturday Night Live” on Oct. 17, NBC said earlier this month. He was once a regular cast member of the long-running show.

In a television interview two months ago, Morgan wad seen wiping away tears and holding a black cane, saying he needed to heal.

His friend, comedian James “Jimmy Mack” McNair was killed and nine other people were injured in the wreck.

The National Transportation Safety Board held a speeding Wal-Mart truck driver who had been awake for 28 hours responsible for the accident.

(Reporting by Chris Michaud; Editing by Simon Cameron-Moore)

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Comedian Tracy Morgan Weds 14 Months After Surviving Car Wreck

Tracy Morgan, a star of comedy series “30 Rock” and cast member of “Saturday Night Live,” married his long-time fiancee on Sunday, 14 months after suffering life-threatening injuries in a deadly car wreck, People magazine reported on its web site.

Morgan, 46, sustained a brain injury and broken bones when a Walmart tractor-trailer hit his limousine on the New Jersey Turnpike as he returned from a gig in Atlantic City in June last year.

The comedian’s wedding to Megan Wollover on Sunday night was attended by close friends and family, the couple’s 2-year-old daughter, Maven.

“After almost losing Tracy last year, I am so grateful to finally be married to the love of my life,” Wollover told People.

“We have been through so much and our love is stronger for it,” Wollover was quoted as saying.

 

The magazine reported that Morgan’s representatives also confirmed the marriage.

Morgan has not performed since the crash, in which a close friend died, but will host an episode of sketch show “Saturday Night Live” on Oct. 17, NBC said earlier this month. He was once a regular cast member of the long-running show.

In a television interview two months ago, Morgan wad seen wiping away tears and holding a black cane, saying he needed to heal.

His friend, comedian James “Jimmy Mack” McNair was killed and nine other people were injured in the wreck.

The National Transportation Safety Board held a speeding Wal-Mart truck driver who had been awake for 28 hours responsible for the accident.

(Reporting by Chris Michaud; Editing by Simon Cameron-Moore)

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All Songs +1: Laura Jane Grace And Lauren Denitzio On Surviving In Punk

The outspoken leaders of the bands Against Me! and Worriers discuss gender identity in art, being a punk musician in 2015 and the new Worriers album Imaginary Life, which Grace produced.

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Can’t Stand Losing You: Surviving The Police – Andy Grieve & Lauren Lazin

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Can’t Stand Losing You: Surviving The Police

Andy Grieve & Lauren Lazin

Genre: Documentary

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Release Date: March 20, 2015


Based on the acclaimed memoir by renowned guitarist Andy Summers, Can't Stand Losing You follows Summers' journey from his early days in the psychedelic 60s music scene, when he played with The Animals, to chance encounters with drummer Stewart Copeland and bassist/vocalist Sting, which led to the formation of a punk trio, The Police. During the band's phenomenal rise and its dissolution at the height of their popularity in the early 80s, Summers captured history with his candid photographs. Utilizing rare archival footage and insights from the guitarist's side of the stage, Can't Stand Losing You brings together past and present as the band members reunite, thirty years later, for a massive world tour.

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Hogg Life, Vol. 2: Still Surviving – Slim Thug

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Hogg Life, Vol. 2: Still Surviving

Slim Thug

Genre: Hip-Hop/Rap

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Release Date: July 10, 2015

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‘Surviving Twin’: Theater Review


Loudon Wainwright III’s one-man show combines his own songs with spoken-word excerpts from his famed magazine columnist father’s writings.

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J. Crew Exec Parties After Layoffs, Brags About Surviving ‘Hunger Games’

NEW YORK — J. Crew, still reeling from a devastating round of corporate layoffs last week, is now facing embarrassment from a top executive.

The New York Post reported Wednesday that Alejandro Rhett, the retailer’s vice president of men’s merchandising, posted photos on Instagram of himself partying just hours after the apparel company laid off nearly 175 workers from its corporate headquarters in Manhattan.

A screenshot of one of the pics shows a caption referencing “The Hunger Games,” the blockbuster dystopian series in which teens compete to the death. The photos apparently have been deleted.

J. Crew on Thursday distanced itself from Rhett’s actions.

“We do not condone this behavior,” Margot Fooshee, a J. Crew spokeswoman, told The Huffington Post in an email. “Individuals’ actions do not represent the culture of our company — this is not who we are.”

She declined to comment on what disciplinary action Rhett may face.

The layoffs followed what CEO Millard Drexler called a “lousy year,” hampered specifically by poor sales of women’s sweaters. The company slashed nearly 10 percent of its corporate staff.

“It’s just inappropriate that you’d be out drinking when people on your team had been laid off,” an anonymous insider told the New York Post. “J. Crew has serious issues right now, and no one in the office had a smile on their face that day.”

On Facebook, fans were incensed by Rhett’s seeming lack of sensitivity.

Rhett personally laid off several workers, the tabloid reported.

“The tough decisions we made last week were not something we took lightly,” Fooshee said. “We do our best to make decisions with care and compassion for all of our associates.”

Rhett did not respond to a request for comment.

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Reflections on Surviving Survival

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from his ongoing series a “A Sense of a Beginning”
Portraits of Long Term Survivors of HIV

When Frank Yamrus was taking my photo, the bag I’d brought to the shoot with different outfits was left in the corner. “The solid blue shirt will work fine,” he told me. Contrary to my Vanity Fair photo-spread delusions of grandeur, there weren’t going to be a series of different poses all over the studio, as Frank played with wardrobe and lighting. Instead, I sat in the same chair as everyone else, close to the camera, prompted gently to let my facial expressions relax as much as possible.

When Frank agreed to let me write this essay, I asked to take an advance look at some of the other photos. I saw them iPad-sized, one scrolling onto another in perfectly coordinated dimensions. My initial thought was of Portrait Day in elementary school, as each face filled exactly the same space in the frame, against the very same background.

At first, the stylistic consistency between the photos seemed an odd choice to me. For years, many of us had been thought of as “my friend with AIDS,” or “my HIV-positive uncle.” As the crisis subsided, it felt, finally, as if it was no longer the first adjective that came to mind when those we love thought of us. Shouldn’t these portraits, I thought, be an opportunity to celebrate our individuality in spite of our HIV, rather than our sameness because of it?

Clearly, if that’s what Frank wanted to do, he could have — his other work is thoroughly eclectic, even unpredictable. So I sought to understand what he was aiming to create. Bearing in mind that the aesthetic he chose for this series could only be intentional, it became clear to me that by making each portrait as consistent as possible, Frank was stripping away all distractions for the viewer. No matter which photo, it is virtually impossible not to focus on the one element that is never the same, even when everything else is: the eyes.

I don’t know if the eyes are truly the window to the soul, or if the particular essence of living with HIV for so long can be captured by any camera. It’s almost as if we’d need to know what we would have looked like in an alternate universe where AIDS had never existed, in which our lives hadn’t been irrevocably translated by it, divided forever into before and after the moment we found out that sex could actually kill us. I’ll never know what you would have seen in the eyes of the “other” me. But I can share some of what I have lived through, some of what you might be seeing in my eyes and in the eyes of many in these portraits.

Seroconverting in the 1980s meant that time assumed a dyslexic quality for me; entire decades were flipped around. In my 20s, I started checking the obituaries before the headlines; in my 30s, I went on disability. For the next two decades or so, I often lived beyond my means, confusing instant gratification with being in the moment. Eventually, surviving meant returning to the workforce in middle age. Now I will almost certainly have to work as long as I physically can. Seems fair enough. Retirement? Been there, done that.

Obviously, many friends got sick and never got better. I learned that there is an art to visiting someone in the hospital, but that no one ever masters the best way to help someone die. I got scarily adept at writing eulogies, wondering as I delivered them if those gathered recognized the same suit I’d worn the last time, and the time before.

Once I was swapping stories with a bunch of “last men standing.” We kept topping each other with numbers of friends and lovers lost. After a pause, I shared a sudden epiphany: “Oh, my God, we’re grief-competing!” We laughed so hard. We had to laugh. There was nothing else left to do. (Loss on that scale is unarguably dreadful, but truth be told, it can also make you feel a little bit important.)

Then, in the late ’90s, I staggered from the desert onto an oasis, fairly sure it was going to end up being a mirage. I dutifully swallowed all the new pills — so many pills! And the side effects — let’s not forget those, even the times I blamed them to get out of doing something instead of owning up to nursing a hangover. I slowly noticed I was hearing terms like “viral load” and “genotype” far more frequently than “PCP” and “Kaposi’s Sarcoma.” When my doctor first pronounced me “undetectable,” I joked that it sounded like the title of a summer blockbuster.

“No,” he smiled. “It means we can barely find HIV in your blood.”
Say what?
“You’re going to live, my friend. AIDS is not going to kill you.”
Oh, I see.
(Pause for effect.)
But what’s the good news?

Clearly, I’d neglected to inform the doctor I could not afford to live. Did he know how much I owed on my credit cards? And then there was that Master’s degree I’d completely forgotten to get. Not to mention perhaps maybe a teensy-tiny crystal meth habit I’d picked up, the one I was able to completely justify because I had a two-year life expectancy and the paperwork to prove it.

Here’s the thing about the future. It’s not real, it’s an idea we have in our head. Survivors like me didn’t even know how much space it took up in our consciousness until it started shrinking, no longer the rapidly expanding universe of anticipation it was before HIV. I know when I confronted the very real prospect of dying young, I deliberately hastened my shift in perspective. It was far less painful to expect the worst and be prepared for it than live in denial and get mugged by reality. I’d seen some friends do that, and they did not go peacefully.

What did Bette Davis say? “Growing old ain’t for sissies.” Well, it ain’t for narcississies either. I dreaded the ego-puncturing years of turning fewer and fewer heads, of remembering when they used to call me “Sir” for a completely different reason. Sure, early death was scary, but calling a truce with it was so much less exhausting than fighting a battle I was sure to lose.

That was a smart strategy for the time, but dammit, it only worked if you actually died. Gradually, I realized I’d have to glue back all those pages I’d ripped from my calendar, crawl back to the ex to whom I’d so dramatically bid adieu years before. Hey, future, remember me? We used to be tight. Made lots of plans back in the day. Well… I was thinking we could let bygones be bygones and give it another whirl. Whad’ya say?

It took me a few years to put a name to this entire syndrome, but I even used it for the title of my Master’s thesis (oh, yeah, I finally remembered to get one of those.) I called it: The Disorientation of Survival. It doesn’t mean I wasn’t grateful for this unexpected turn of events, just that it caught me — most of us, I think — off-guard. Sort of like starring in a play and finding out in the second act that they’ve added a third act, and you’re going to have to learn all the new lines during intermission.

“I’m still here,” is the caption that would fit under each of Frank’s photographs. But in our eyes, you might see a question mark at the end of those words, representing the touch of surprise that we made it. I’m still here? Really?

Really.

“The Longterm Survivor Project” is on view at the SF Camerawork Gallery in San Francisco until July 18th.

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Here’s the Story: Surviving Marcia Brady and Finding My True Voice (Abridged Nonfiction) – Maureen McCormick

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Here’s the Story: Surviving Marcia Brady and Finding My True Voice (Abridged Nonfiction)

Maureen McCormick

Genre: Arts & Entertainment

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Surviving the Raw Emotions of a Fresh Breakup

A few years ago, my young son fell and cut his knee, and we ended up at the emergency room where he got some stitches. His wound was raw at first, and needed to be kept clean and dry. It was red and puffy and swollen, and as he described it, “thumping.”

For some reason, this is the comparison that comes to mind when I think about how I’m feeling in the first days following my recent long term relationship breakup. It’s fresh. It just happened. It’s raw. It’s trauma. It’s sensitive. Bleeding. Hurting. The “thumping,” a constant reminder that it’s there. And, it’s not even close to being healed.

Here are some of those raw emotions that most people feel at the beginning of a breakup.

1. Shock: In any long term relationship or marriage, I don’t believe a breakup happens suddenly. (Unless one of the people met someone else and is leaving for that reason.) But even then, it is only sudden for one of the people. Usually, the couple has known for a while that the break up could be coming, but even so, there is a certain feeling of shock, of waking up every morning realizing that this isn’t a dream. Walking around feeling like you’re forgetting something, like you left the house without something you need. Something feels like it’s missing. It doesn’t feel normal. For me, the missing piece is his heart. I don’t have it anymore. That is gut-wrenching.

2. Sadness: You run into people and they ask, “What’s new?” and tears spring to your eyes. It is very hard to get through a conversation, hearing your own voice say the words, “We broke up.” Crying on a daily basis becomes the norm.

3. Urgency/desperation: There are moments it feels hard to breathe, and the only thing you want to do is call him or her, beg them to come over and hug you, and never let you go. It feels frighteningly desperate, almost panicky.

4. Confusion: In my situation, if someone asked me, “Why did you guys break up?” I honestly don’t know what I would say right now. A number of reasons? Yes, but there is no clarity yet. Right now I feel unsure of what really went wrong. It seems foggy. But, I am sure that as time goes by, clarity will come.

5. Anger: I truly believe that in every relationship, people look back and recognize certain things that happened that cause resentment. If there is any communication between the two people, one or both of the them try to let the other person know how wonderful they are doing, and how they are changing so much for the better. My question is, “Why couldn’t you change that for me?” It’s a bit infuriating for me to think that the next girl will reap the benefits of things he learned from our relationship. Then again, my next guy might benefit from the same.

6. Honesty: It’s so hard to do, because there is still so much love here, but being apart forces people (or I should say allows them) to take an honest look into the relationship and acknowledge the things that weren’t working as they were. It is impossible to do that while you are still together.

7. Hope: For me, there is a very small piece of hope and even excitement about the future.At this moment, it is tiny, but it is there. It’s a glimpse into the promise of a future with someone whose love is strong enough to last forever.

The bottom line is, the raw feelings of a breakup are extremely complicated. The mind and the heart are all over the place. Remembering the heart stopping moments, the smiles, the passion, even the smell of his skin is heartbreakingly sad. And comforting at the same time. It’s funny how the mind tends to temporarily forget all the disappointments, arguments, and impasses that led to the breakup.

My breakup advice: Let yourself feel all of these feelings. Live day to day, trying to grab every ounce of enjoyment out of every day that you can. For me, that means anything having to do with my children and my family, and of course, enjoying the passion I have for my work. This is the way I’ve been living my life since my divorce, and it works.

Breakups are part of life. They are out of our control. And no breakup is good. But, how we choose to handle them is entirely in our power.

Jackie Pilossoph is the author of her blog, Divorced Girl Smiling, and the comedic divorce novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase. She also writes feature stories, along with the weekly dating and relationships column, “Love Essentially” for Chicago Tribune Media Group local publications. Pilossoph lives in Chicago. Oh, and she’s divorced.
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Last Stand: Surviving America’s Collapse (Unabridged) – William H. Weber

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Last Stand: Surviving America’s Collapse (Unabridged)

William H. Weber

Genre: Sci Fi & Fantasy

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Publish Date: December 9, 2014

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Surviving the Holidays After Divorce

The holidays are an emotionally charged time of year for all of us, but especially for those who have experienced any loss, which, I’d argue, is most of us who are over 30. If you’re experiencing your first holidays after a divorce (especially if your kids are spending the holidays with your ex), it’s tough to focus your energies on feelings of happiness and gratitude, instead of sadness and resentment.

It’s not easy, but rest assured that it does get easier. Here are some thoughts I try to keep top of mind during the holiday season:

1. Assign your own meaning to the holidays. I’ve heard so many people say they hate the holidays, but that’s a bit like saying you hate your life! (Because who is in charge of enjoying your life? You!) Don’t give your power away. Yes, it’s easy to get sucked into the currents circling around us during the holidays. We feel pressured to buy useless stuff, eat things that don’t make us feel good, spend time with people we don’t really enjoy (or even worse, are people who are toxic).

There’s no way we can do it all, so every year I pick what is important to me. Get clarity on what you want your holiday season to be about. Do you want to take a vacation and go to a faraway place, skipping all the festivities because this is the best time to get away? If I want to have great memories, I have to make the holidays memorable. Do you want it to be about letting the people in your life know how much you care about them in a thoughtful, non-superficial way?

Focus on figuring out what holiday experiences are meaningful to you personally, instead of getting sucked into consumerism and superficial events that leave you feeling empty and depleted.

2. Make plans. Don’t wait to be invited to do something, rather, invite your friends to join in on what turns you on! Parties aren’t obligations in my book. I say yes when I mean yes and no if it doesn’t float my boat. Take control of your experience and embrace the spirit of the season in ways that are meaningful and fun to you. I pick three things I want to do and then make plans, like ice skating, a holiday play or sipping eggnog with friends. Pick your top three and let the rest go.

3. Separate yourself from the past. I love the prayer by Meister Eckhart, “If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.”

There isn’t room for resentment and gratitude. So although I may not have a Norman Rockwell family, I can find gratitude for what is good now in my life.

Change is the only constant. If there’s a tradition from your past that you want to carry on, fabulous! But if it’s not a priority, simplify your life and do only what brings you, and those very close to you, joy. What can you do so that you can feel the magic of the holiday season with a clear heart, the way you deserve to?

4. Keep things in perspective. Can we replace resentment with gratitude? Can you volunteer at an orphanage, foster care, homeless shelter, and hospital? Bringing joy to others not only brings others joy, but places my life in perspective. Build bridges instead of walls.

HOW TO REPLACE RESENTMENT WITH GRATITUDE:

You say grace before meals. All right. But I say grace before the concert and the movies, and grace before the play and jazz club, and grace before I open a book, and grace before sketching, painting, swimming, running, walking, playing, dancing, and grace before I dip the pen into the holiday season.

If gratitude were a drug, it would be the world’s BEST-SELLING product, as it produces the release of the feel-good hormones: serotonin, norepinephrine, testosterone, oxytocin, and dopamine.

I keep an gratitude jar, a journal, and each ornament or ribbon placed on a tree represents an intention for what I want to create in my life. If I have a worry, I place the ribbon on the tree as if it’s already solved. If I have a goal to obtain, I place the ribbon on the tree thanking that it’s already met.

Even if we have hurdles and challenges during the holidays, I can find gratitude knowing there are experts in every field and friends to reach out to. I’m grateful for the people in my life that can help me out when I hit roadblocks and hurdles.

5. Most of all, have fun. Try to reframe and get lost in wonder as much as possible. If I don’t want to buy gifts, I don’t. We can let people know year-round how much they matter, but Christmas is a time to remind us of the gifts we have in our life.

Sharing experiences are more valuable than material gifts, as the experiences are unique to myself and who I share it with. These memories are what stay with me, not a material gift.

I love shopping and everything I do during this season, as that’s the only way to enjoy the journey we call life. Allow yourself to get lost in the little worlds created in the store windows … really stop and take in the lights and the smells. That’s like the holiday version of stopping to smell the roses. In every situation you find yourself in during the holidays, step back and become present and ask yourself: “This is my life, is this how I want to experience this day?” If the answer is yes, you are living an authentic life. If the answer is no, figure out what you need to do to turn that answer into a yes. Realize you have control over your holiday experience. Make having fun your primary goal.

Wishing you the holiday experience you want!
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